a guy i like doesnt want a relationship cause he thinks he would be unfaithful an not trustworthy.....but wants to be close friends (wink wink) is that wrong for me to that even tho i would prefer a relationship??
2007-07-11 22:58:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Friends with benefits" won't work in this situation because you have feelings for him. Since there is no commitment, he would be free to have sex with anyone else, and when that happened you would be crushed. You'd be upset with yourself for letting yourself be used that way. It would wreck your self-esteem.
Have more respect for yourself than he has for you. Turn around and walk away, without even a simple explanation.
2007-07-11 23:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by 1M9 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are obviously looking for a relationship, yes it is wrong. You won't be able to seperate your feelings of friendship from your feelings of love & lust. You will be hoping that eventually he'll turn around & want a relationship, but frankly that hardly ever happens. (Trust me- I've been in your position before.) Before long the entire thing turns out to be over-complicated & you'll be jealous every time any girl talks to him.
If you think that you can sleep with him & keep your feelings platonic, then go for it. It's nice to have a f-buddy. There is nothing wrong with two people just enjoying each other. Just remember that he's already said that he doesn't want a romantic relationship with you & that may not change. It's possible that feelings could develop, but it's also likely that he could find a girlfriend & suddenly tell you that your "friendship" is over.
2007-07-11 23:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that twice with 2 male friends of mine who didn't want relationships. Of course we had our "fun" but in the end, it ruined the relationship. With 1 guy, I fell for him and with the other guy, he ended up falling for me. It's really not worth it because you can't help who you have feelings for.
2007-07-11 23:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by ..... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would hurt your soul and your self esteem. Why should you settle for less than what you want? The person who wants ALL of you, wants a relationship is out there...don't waste your time and your heart...this person you "like" now isn't going to chang his mind even if you give in.
good luck!
2007-07-11 23:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by angelalynnanne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are open with the idea of ******* friends, they maybe you could find it okay.
but if you are conservative with traditional values, then maybe you should wait for the right man to whom you can sleep with without worrying of the circumstances.
never put yourself in a situation where you could end up as a loser.
2007-07-11 23:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by ericka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y do u wanna sleep wid him if he doesnt wanna get into a relationship?
2007-07-11 23:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by aqua 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't just let him use you for sex, and not give you anything back....you are worth so much more.
2007-07-11 23:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it
it is wrong
friends are only friends
2007-07-11 23:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, if you don"t mind being used for se#.
2007-07-11 23:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its better to be straight forward rather then hurting your emotions
2007-07-11 23:04:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋