Opinions please...thanks..
2007-07-11 21:58:34 · 25 answers · asked by xD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well when their parents get old yes like 50.
they took care of us..
its like tradition...
and plus when they do croak you would feel bad
cuzz you didnt put them in a nursing home..
and you will be wondering if i put my parents in a nursing home would they be alive today?
2007-07-11 22:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by jenny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think they should be forced but they should feel obliged. however, I also think that it is unfair if parents are totally dependent on their children financially because the standard of living is high these days. People with young children have a family to look after and if the parents are totally dependent on them it can get quite stressful. Helping them once in a way is fine especially if you have a job which helps you pay the rent or mortgage as well as household expenses and not having much to save.It can be difficult. I must say that I am v proud of my parents because they worked hard throughout and managed to save at the same time and they haven't taken a penny from any of their children. As a token of gratitude for having taken care of us while we were with them we do contribute now and then and it makes us really happy to see them appreciate the things we do for them. They have taught us to work hard and be self-sufficient and I hope I'm not a burden on my kids financially.
2007-07-12 05:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by AngelEyes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No children can be forced to support their parents, it is up to the son's or daughter's to decide in their own mind's to do that.
The other problem is are they in a position to afford supporting their parents and support their wife and family at the same time.
We know there are some people who are financially secure who doesn't even visit their parent for what ever reason, that deplorable!
2007-07-12 05:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by sidestepper11 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One shouldnt have to be forced, our parents took care of us, raised us, and made us the people we are today. ( Yes I realize there are exceptions to this). It is alot harder to live on a fixed income now than it was 20 years ago. People who worked for a company for 30 years aren't getting the pensions they were promised, social security is a joke, health care costs are through the roof. If my parents needed my help I would do EVERYTHING i could for them. And I hope that I have raised my children the same way. In countries like India and Japan it is still the norm for large nuclear families to live together. The older ones who can't work take care of the houses and children so the able bodied younger ones can go off to work. Sounds like a good plan to me. All of you need to show some respect to your parents and be thankful that they gave you the knowledge you have today.
2007-07-12 08:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Its not the childrens responsiblity and I actually find this very unsettling, especially as my wife's mother is very dependent on her daughter. So far a 400 mile distance has protected my family from her influence, but now we have found a new house the old problem of wife becoming a carer for her mother is coming up again as mother wants to move near to us.
I should add that my wifes parents treated her like their carer for many years and only recently has she started to break away from this destructive situation.
2007-07-12 05:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you kidding????? Of course they should not be FORCED. They should OFFER, and GIVE on their own.
Who raised you? You woke up nights for you? Who worked long hours to support you? Who woriied about you when you were sick? Who helped you with your problems? Who did all the other zillion things I left out??????
THEY WERE YOUR PARENTS.
I am a 66 year young woman living now living on social security, I live alone. It is not enough to even pay my rent. Let alone, utilities, phone, food, clothing, health insurance, and medication..
As soon as I had to stop working and went on Social Security, because of health reasons, my children all decided to support me so that I can live like a human being. They do it with pleasure. Of course I felt uncomfortable in the beginning, and still do many times. But they always tell me not to feel that way.
They all have families, and live on limited means. They live on a weekly salary. They are not self employed so 2 of my brothers, and one sister also chip in.
In fact I have a couuple of children living in another country. So they chip in to pay my air fair every once a year so that we can visit together.
You asked my opinion. My answer is you should give, even if they don't want to take. And it should be like clockwork. I get my monthly money on the first of every month.
If something extra comes up like I needed to have a cap, and a couple of fillings by the dentist they paid for it.
Before you open your wallet, you have to open your heart. And never, never make them feel it is hard for you. Beleive me it is painful to have to have your children support you.
2007-07-12 05:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Out of love and respect grown children should want to help parents in need if they are capable. I know alot of first generation Americans however whose families back home demand money each month and have no concern of how things are going for them over here or if they can even afford to send the money. They think because their family members are here they've won the lottery. It's so sad to see friends of mine going through this.
2007-07-12 05:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by marie s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the family need the support they should doing this with out telling and forcing it's come from love and the way that you rise them up.
2007-07-12 05:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Roy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are a millionaire and your parents are living in a poor state of life, YOU SHOULD BE FORCED to do that. And even if they were mean to you as a child even, you should help them as they are old, and probably cannot afford to live comfortably.
But like all these people have said, children should WILLINGLY help their parents as much as they could. It's called love thy parents, anyways.
2007-07-12 05:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by joulsey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.. Because its the parents job to support the children, not the other way around.
2007-07-12 05:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by chizase_dizorton 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
NO WAY!!!! i mean if they want to fine, but they should never ever be forced. It's hard enough for children to support themselves, let alone their parents who are older, more capable and have more experience.
2007-07-12 10:45:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋