I don't know...?

Question

My life: Infront of me in calss is my enemy who keeps cursing and uses words like "hell" which i am not allowed to use. When i edit her h.w she complains and says to her frenz "What the hell does she think?" "She is just making it worse." She has been rude once wven when i told her to keep quiet. She makes fun of my friends too. I don't like it. I'm too soft-hearted to do anything violent. 2) I keep losing things. I lost my math books, stationary, files, temperature booklet and now my math file. I don't know how they dissappear! I am so irresponsible. My mom and dad don't want to give me any locked drawer so my things will be out of reach to my younger siblings. I'm in top class and people have high expectations of me. I think i just came here by luck. People call me wierd. I keep getting into trouble. I don't know what to do... I have no talents and my determination is lost...i don't know how to regain it either...plzzz help me, if you can??? I want to run away already..and cry..

my parents don't understand me either...my dad doesn't make an effort and my mom just laughs at my troubles at times...and i think she likes my sister better...because my sister is better in character while i am better in studies but now my studies are also detoriating...i don't know what to do...

Answer 1

You're having a rough time, aren't you. I'm sorry. It will pass, though, and things will get better. Everything always feels bad when there's too much to handle, so the first thing to do is to start getting ahold of the things in your life.
1. If the girl in your class doesn't like the way you correct her homework, then stop doing it. Don't worry about it, just tell her to do it herself. You don't have to do anything violent, just smile. I'm not sure why girls are often so mean like that, but it's not you that's the problem.
2. Losing things? That's really normal - most of us lose things, and the more stress we're under, the more we lose stuff; when you're distracted, you forget - it's that simple, and that applies to schoolwork, too. Try not to panic over it; maybe make a place to put special stuff and work on only putting things in the same place until it becomes a routine.
3. You got into your class because you earned it and deserve it - no luck involved! Your teachers recognize your talents and abilities, and their judgement of you is likely toi be more accurate than yours at this age.
4. You're not irresponsible, you're not weird, you're not anything bad. What you are is smart, clever, wonderful, talented and sweet. You're going to be an absolutely adorable woman, who will be appreciated very much. Just get through this rough spell one step at a time, like you would do a long walk you had to make, and the road will get smoother and more interesting! It will help if you find someone you trust to talk to - it really helps to have someone listen to your troubles, even if they can't do too much about them. All of us need to blow off steam and having a sympathetic listener makes it easier to deal with life's troubles. Hang in there, and go ahead and cry when you feel like it; that will make you feel better too (oddly enough). Just when you're done, do one little job and then do another little job, and then another, and keep going until you've got where you want to get to.

Answer 2

Try not to be distructed by other people especially in class. Ignore them and they will just go their own way. Don't let other people put you down. You are intelligent so use it. It is a powerful tool. Can't you put your things high enough so that your young siblings can't get them? Be organized. If you have problems try to open it up with your friends or someone you know who is older than you. Go to a place where you can cry all alone, it will help a lot to do this.