i'm only a 19 year old girl and he's a 28 year old man
2007-07-11 20:31:14 · 31 answers · asked by confused!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Humans are never safe and especially when they have a chance to decieve you. The internet is full of frauds. How do you really know that he is a 28 year old man?
On the other hand if you are too 'safe' you will never meet anybody. Do whatever you can to verify the information he gives you, proceed with respect but restraint. If you do meet, meet in a public place, perhaps with a friend watching or nearby.
Tell someone you trust you are doing this and tell the guy too. If he is a gentleman he will understand. If he balks then you have all the more reason to be suspicious.
2007-07-11 20:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest no!!
I am sure many, many people meet of the net and I am sure some of them have lived long, happy lives together but is it worth the risk??
Your so young! Get out with your friends and meet someone that way! At least you kinda know what your getting!! This bloke from the net could be anyone!! Could be 16 could be 60!!! My advice is to be very careful!!
Unfortunately we cant make your mind up for you! If you decide to go then do as someone else on here mentioned and make sure you meet up in a VERY public place and if you intend to meet again then keep in a public place until YOU feel that you can trust him and YOU feel 100% safe around him!!
Its very sad but we live in a very sick world!!!!! And there are some really sick people out there!!!!
Good luck and be careful!!
x
2007-07-11 20:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by Blush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband via the internet. And I previously dated someone I had met online.
The "date" turned out to be a liar and was married and expecting a child with his wife.
My husband is a wonderful man that I will enjoy the rest of my life with .
You can be lied to in person and online. Liars will deceive you in any way they can.
If you choose to meet this person do it in a public place preferably with a friend or anouther couple. Make sure lots of people know where you are and when you expect to return (kinda like Mom would have you do...LOL). Have someone with you for the next get together.
Ask him for identification, I had my husband show me his drivers license. It will show his true name and age and it should be where he lives.
Ask for his work number and the name of his business and then call (from your work or a blocked number) and speak to him there to set up the first meeting.
Do not give him your phone number (unless it's your business number). Do not set any date up "online only", speak to him on the phone.
Ask to meet his family. I should have taken this route with internet date #1 right from the start. Had I done that he would have shown his colors sooner. Luckily I figured out there was something amis when he only wanted to go to places that were not high traffic. I had tickets to a local comedy club and he said he didn't want to go. It kinda set off some red flares.
Google him. If he has a commom name you might not pull up anything. But go to his hometown newspaper and search the archives for articles about him.
2007-07-11 20:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by c r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm not an easy one due to all the stories you hear, I wouldn't recommend it to anyone despite having met my x bf on line. We did chat for close on two years though before we met in person.
Do you 'know' him well enough to feel safe about meeting him?
If you do then how about taking a friend with you, if you go alone then tell everyone where you're going, meet in a public place and take as many precautions as you can not to put yourself in danger.
I know that not all men on the internet are liars etc BUT you do need to be very careful.
2007-07-11 21:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've met people from the internet and haven't had any problems. Just remember to meet in a public place and let someone know where you going. If you're really worried, tell a friend or family member that you'll call them later to let them know you're okay, that way they wont have to worry.
All this stuff about psychos finding their victims online has been blown waaaay out of proportion. The vast majority of guys who start chatting to girls online and then latter suggest meeting up are actually the shy guys that feel uncomfortable chatting up girls in a bar.
2007-07-11 20:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by DJ Rizla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice if you decide to meet this man I would tell someone that you are meeting him and to perhaps give you a call say every half an hour to make sure that you are ok. Make sure that you meeting him in a public place for the first few meetings. Take care as there are alot of weirdos out there.
2007-07-12 23:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by trollfido 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with someone else until you can find out more about this person. Meet somewhere public. Don't trust anyone you don't know at first! If you like him, then meet in very public places for a few weeks or go on double dates only with him.
He's probably a great guy but you can't be too careful at first.
2007-07-11 20:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not the issue here, your safety is, & if you feel you need to ask then the answers no.
Until you are 100% comfortable (which you're not if asking on here for our permission to go) the DON'T go!!
When you do, whether him or anyone else:
Meet somewhere public, somewhere local to you (makes you more confident in known surroundings),
Let @ least 2 people know where you're meeting, who you're meeting & what time you're meeting,
& arrange to meet someone else specific after, so A you've got a get out clause if you're not ok, (sorry, have to go & meet x now), & B so you have someone to gossip & giggle with as you re-hash the best date of your life....
2007-07-11 20:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met some really cool people from the internet. Just be prepared and meet with a friend in a public place the first time or two. You really never know who the person is....is the only thing to be careful about.
2016-05-20 04:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends how long you have been talking to him and get to know him on the internet, i take it you have doubts about meeting him if your asking this question, if you really want to meet him then tell someone you know thatyou are going to such a place and you will be back at such a time (if you change the time always phone to let them know) meet in a very public place, make sure you have your mobile with you etc, alot of people meet from the internet but you do have to be on gaurd cause there are some weirdos out there
good luck
2007-07-11 20:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by mizzmamma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋