My bride is very reserved and we aren't going to follow such a revealing tradition. I can imagine how embarrassing it will be for me to be lifting her dress in a crowd of people. We've had several suggestions from coworkers and family, but haven't found one that would suit us. She is still tossing a bouquet, and we want to find something comparable, or meaningful that the groom (me) can throw. These could be things that I could take off of her, or from her. Of course, these are also things which might bring luck to the single guy who catches it. Suggestions so far: my little black book (past girlfriends #'s, which I don't have), lady's handkerchief, baseball glove (?), her bracelet, her tiara, etc. Any ideas will be more than appreciated.
2007-07-11 19:40:02 · 10 answers · asked by brotherneptune 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Great ideas so far. Thanks. But because my bride (she's 25, btw) has vericose veins, she definitely doesn't want to show any leg. And because of past abuses, she doesn't want any object that can be sexual in nature or meaning. Nothing prudish about that. It would be hard to deal with for anyone in her position.
2007-07-11 20:06:45 · update #1
You can still throw a garter, but just put it around your arm right before throwing it. You don't have to actually take it off of your bride's leg. Pull it off you arm, and pitch it to the guys when the time comes.
2007-07-11 19:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The traditions of throwing the bouquet and the garter came from the idea that anything touched by the bride and the groom was a good luck charm. In the past, the guests would rip pieces of the bride's and the groom's garments to take them as amulets. You can imagine what would happen if it is a big wedding.
How about doing something that would represent that tradition rather than the tossing of the garter? I know you have had some suggestions that seem wonderful (the bracelet, the tiara, etc). I also like the idea of a handkerchief. Maybe it can be one she carried through the ceremony and, if having a religious ceremony, the officiant can bless or bring to eveyrone's attention.
Just some ideas.
2007-07-11 20:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could still go under the skirt of her dress without her having to show any leg. My friend did this in her wedding because she's overweight and was embarrassed, so she sat on a chair and her groom just went right under!
But, if you really don't want to do that, I've actually only been to three weddings that did a garter toss (and I've been to a lot of weddings) so you don't have to toss anything at all. I personally would do the garter or nothing, but that's just me. I don't think people would understand the significance of throwing anything else.
The wedding I went to last week had a similar situation where the bride's parents are religious and she didn't want something like this in front of them. Of course, she didn't tell her groom! He (and the guests and wedding party) thought that he'd be tossing a garter.
What they did was sit the bride onto a chair in the middle of the floor. They blind-folded the groom and said he'd have to use only his teeth to remove the garter! They spun him around to make him a bit dizzy and while they were spinning him, a good GUY friend sat down in the bride's place! He had put on shorts (hiked up on one leg) with nylons and high heels! They directed the groom to the friend and felt up the friend's leg. It was really funny when he finally realized that this guy wasn't the bride!! The whole crowd cracked up and that was that.
He didn't end up throwing anything and it was just a joke that everyone (including bride and groom) found quite funny. I would do something like this before throwing something other than the garter. Your bride would probably get a kick out of this idea.
2007-07-12 01:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about a pretty ankle bracelet?
That way, it can still be "flirty" but yet done very tastefully. It would still have the same "set up" as if doing the garter, in which she would sit in a chair and you kneel infront of her...but it'd only be as far as her ankle....
If you wanted to put a funny spin on it, have the bracelet have a "ball and chain" charm on it. lol IF you can't find an actual charm, I'm sure you could find maybe a keychain or something to put on it that's ball and chain. ( I don't think you'd want to do the more life-size version...but that would be SO FUNNY!)
Of course she wouldn't wear this all thru the evening, she could slip away and put it on right before it's time.
But I think that would be sorta funny and cute!
I'm sure that with all the suggestions and ideas presented here, you and she should be able to come up with something that will suit you both.
May I say that she's lucky to have found someone as thoughtful and considerate as you are given her situation...and you trying so hard to come up with an alternative plan so that she will not be made to be uncomfortable. She's a lucky lady...guys like that are hard to find...luckily I found mine too.
Congrats to both of you!
2007-07-11 23:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could still do the garter thing, but have the bride wear it below the knee. That way, you won't really have to lift up her dress to get it, and you can still do the traditional thing. And anyway, just because some grooms go all out crazy with the removal of the garter, doesn't mean you have to.
2007-07-11 20:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by theMrs. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could still do the garter. People don't have to watch you take it off.
Another idea---I don't know how old you are but, maybe you just don't do anything. Your friends don't want to get up and be gawked at as the "single" ones. It's an embarrassing ritual. I'm not doing it at my wedding nor am I doing the bouquet toss.
I can remember my friends and I running to the bathroom so we wouldn't get stuck with the brides homely cousins. So we wouldn't be laughed at as we tried to dodge a flower bouquet. Don't put your single friends through that. They are single for a reason.
2007-07-11 19:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Melody 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The choice is yours and your brides. If you don't want to do the garter thing, don't. Make sure the DJ is aware it will not be done so he moves from the throwing of the bouquet to something else.
Most people won't care, and I doubt anyone will question it.
Congratulations.
2007-07-12 01:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by J M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha Ha Ha I have just had the best idea & it's funny too.
Get the girl that catches the bouquet to give you her keys to throw the person who gets it goes on a date with her but don't tell them before hand.
2007-07-12 00:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you both! It's about time this sexist thing ends! What my niece did was throw a special hankie (it was machine embroidered) with chocolate kisses wrapped in it.
2007-07-12 01:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the garter is hot and as husband and wife id advise you not to be so prudish and go for it. and for the girl who said put the garter on her arm um how bout not that is boring if you're not gonna follow the sexy tradition then um don't do anything at all.
2007-07-11 19:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by Arenajay 4 · 0⤊ 6⤋