Christians make up your minds! So are gays born gay, or do they choose to be gay?

Question

Some christians (blindly) argues that people chooses to be gay, while some christians accept the fact that people are born gay but still think of it as a sin that gays should not act upon.

First of all, people are BORN gay! I'm gay myself, so I know what I'm talking about. If I really had a choice, I would not choose to be gay. Being gay is really hard emotionally, and it brings no reward.

Christians compare thiefs to gays! A thief doesn't just steal for the sake of stealing! They want money, and that's thier motive. But gays don't have any motive to be gay, there's no raward to it. Why can't christians understand common sense?

Now as for christians who accept people are born gay, but don't approve of homosexuality, what do you suggest gays to do? Are gays supposed to marry women despite not being attracted to them? If your son were born gay, would you tell him to stay sexually deprived for his entire life? It's the 21st century, hello!

Answer 1

Why can't Christians understand common sense?
Because they feel more comfortable misusing the Bible to justify their bigotry. I have known gays who were "saved" by a church and entered into a false marriage. The church seemed to have no problem with them living a lie. They are now out of the church and openly gay again and a lot happier.
Telling someone they can cure their gayness is like telling someone they can stop being black or Mexican. It makes no sense.

Answer 2

To be gay is in my opinion a choice. When we are born we have our genes carry tendencies of being of a certain nature. Throughout growing up we are influenced by the environment we live in. That means not just our family, but also our friends, kindy, school, work etc etc. have an influence on what we are and will be.
I am a woman, Christian by the way, and have had gay friends in the past and they were great friends, I even looked after their apartment while they were on holidays. I never ever had any problems. A gay person does not need to be a thief but a thief can be a gay person. Nothing can be generalised.

Answer 3

I think being gay is sort of like any other personality trait. We are born with a genetic predisposition to certain tendencies that are then either encouraged or discouraged by our environment. In short, I think it is a little of both. Further, I don't think too many people would just up and choose to be gay, especially given all of the discrimination... That said, times and attitudes are changing, and I do think some young people "try" out homosexuality, because it is seen as exotic or forbidden.

I am sorry that you have had such a difficult time, and have suffered at the hands/voices of so-called-Christians.

I am a real Christian, and I love you as a fellow human-being. God made you, and He loves you just the way you are. I pray that you will not allow misguided people to keep you away from the joy of having a relationship with your Heavenly Father.

It is stated in the Bible that he who is without sin should cast the first stone... Like all humans, my sins are numerous, but God has already forgiven me. And he forgives you for your sins, too.

God Bless!

Answer 4

Any Christian who reads their bible will know that homosexuality is completely wrong.
"1Co 6:9 Do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor abusers, nor homosexuals"

how much clearer do you need that? Sin is sin in God's eyes, no matter how great or small, still the same thing at the end of the day. You are NOT born gay, it is something completely demonic. If God wanted you to be attracted to men, He would have made you a woman. I've known many people that have overcome this, that there is not an ounce of homosexuality in them today...My very own father sat with this problem. I think you need deliverance. There is often an underlying reason of why this happens.....child without a father, molestation, etc. I will pray for you if you want? (this is not a joke, ones salvation never is)

Answer 5

my best theory yet (which will be argued against loudly by many) is this.

a small percentage of the population is born purely straight or purely gay, people who are *100%* only attracted to one gender or the other, and 100% not-attracted to the other.

a itty bitty tiny microscopic portion is *maybe* born asexual... that they simply have no sexual interest at all. I am not sure this actually exists, but I am considering for the distant possibility.

now, the *vast* majority is some measure of bisexual. they might not be entirely "balanced" in that they find both genders equally attractive, but that they are not truly entirely unattracted to one.

now, if your "average person" was 75% straight and 25% gay, they might be able to simply chose to set aside those "gay" thoughts.

now, heres the tricky part. alot of people tend to think that everyone else thinks and feels somewhat like they do.

the jist of my point, being that the people who claim that homosexuality is a choice, in fact, can think such, BECAUSE they chose to not entertain their own homosexual tendencies. (even if those tendencies are weaker than their heterosexual ones to begin with)

Answer 6

First off sexual energy is a very strong energy.It can be used both for evil and for good. A lot of people don't realize this. Now homosexuality goes against the natural order, the purpose for sex organs is to be fruitful, to create other lives that is one reason why sexual energy is so profound and strong. Two people of the same sex cannot fulfill this purpose. I know you may be a little frustrated from my comments but it is true. A lot of so called christians are very hypocritical in their walk they say one thing and do another. If you don't want so be gay and you get those feeling you fight hard to rid your self of those feelings and emotions. Everyone was born with trials and tribulations, homosexuality is one of those difficult ones to deal with. You must not let yourself get caught up or engulfed in your emotions, you must show yourself to be strong ,resist what is not natural. That goes for anything that is negative and unjust, stealing, lying etc. You have to look into yourself and ask you WHO AM I? WHAT IS MY PURPOSE IN LIFE? HOW AM I GOING TO FULFILL MY DESTINY? You have to love yourself and not give in unto anything that is not apart of your spirit. Stop abusing yourself, love yourself and don't take these words too lightly , you are more than what you say you are. Gay is not who you are it is what you gave in to be. Just think about it Peace!

Answer 7

Hunky, You ask a question but then don't really want an answer. I am a Christian and I don't feel the question for is weather or not one is born gay, but where will you spend eternity? I will say that I believe homosexuality is against God word, as is taking Gods name in vain, not keeping the sabbath holy, not honoring your parents............... The answer is God can forgive ALL sin. I believe a manor woman should come to know Jesus Christ as his Lord and savior and pray to him and let God change the man. I am not judge and as a "man of God" would love you just the same as I would any other person one this earth.

Answer 8

If you look at the research, it seems to indicate that some people are, in fact, gay, and apparently born that way.

According to research, being gay is also bad for your health.

According to research, being openly gay, is also likely to cause irrational violence from other individuals, especially those who have gay tendencies.

According to research, many people, can, in fact, decides what sex of partner they desire most. This relates to research that indicates a range of "gayness" if you will.

Now, please understand that I can lack gentleness when I present things.

Taking all of these things into consideration, along with all the reflections on extra marital relations and so forth, and their detrimental effects on society. There really is only one thing to -reasonably- support, and that is, unequivocally,

Heterosexual marriage. Nothing else comes close.

Open displays of... "open" sexuality are bad for society, gay or straight (in other words). People shouldn't be required to indoctrinate their children about the "virtues" of gay relationships. Nor should there be a social over tolerance for blatant promiscuous sexuality of any kind. These types of behaviour as well as presenting their obvious bad example, could sway otherwise heterosexual youths into a much more difficult situation.

That being said, hatred and violence are against those undeserving (and people "deserving" of violence is typically temporary and very rare) is wrong.

I hope we can come to some agreement. I have before.

Answer 9

If it were genetic, ANY one gay or straight person wouldn't be able to be convinced they were one way or the other.

Plus, religious propaganda aside, it is a VERY narcissistic behavior in itself, as you are in love with your own gender's role and appearance.

It HAS been proven that one can have homosexual feelings if a parent, teacher, peer, etc. of the opposite sex is oppressive or abusive (or in the case of parents - an absence). Under hypnosis, many homosexuals have confessed to being abused, or having negative feelings toward the opposite sex for some reason or another.

Lastly...it's simple mechanics. The anus was just simply not meant to be penetrated...and lesbians/gays end up doing the same exact things they could so with a woman/man...so...why risk getting AIDS?

Answer 10

As a gay person, I'm of the belief that it's neither. I know from experience that it's certainly not a choice, but from reading I gather that it's probably not 100% genetic, either. In any event, I don't think it's anything to be condemned or judged. It just IS.

Answer 11

I am a christian and I am a Freudian believer. Freud's studies show that ones sexuality is a learned behavior and between the ages of 3 and 5 one develops their sexuality. In that case you are not born with a sexuality, nor are you at the age of accountability yet when you acquire one. We all have worldly desires, God asks us not to give into them. You do not need sex to live but you do need it to procreate. In fact in the bible the man who never has sex of any kind will be blessed with the most and will be among the elite in gods army.