she was always asking where i was going, when i was coming home. telling me to pick up the house, ext... but it just keeped getting worse, she convinced me to quit my job and take care of the house, and that is when it happened. since then she has controlled every aspect of my life. she wont let me leave the house, or let me see my friends at all. i am practically her prisoner. i cant move out because i just sighed another lease with her, i don't have a job, she took over my bank accounts, and I'm not aloud out of the house without her with me. she forces me to do everything for her, because she "feeds me" and is "my provider" i "work for a place to live and food." she has outsmarted me at every turn and will stop at nothing to keep me in her control, i am a slave to a beautiful mastermind... what should i do?
2007-07-11 18:16:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You guys have no idea... she will do ANYTHING. she mixes MJ in with my food and thretens to turn me in to the police if I do anything agenst her!
2007-07-11 19:06:53 · update #1
Read this real slowly and digest every word I am about to write. LEAVE HER NOW! Do you understand? You need to quit being her doormat. You have successfully thrown away your personal worth and self respect. You need to put your foot down with this chick once and for all.
I don't care what a freak she is in bed, there is no woman worth this sort of control. Move back in with your parents if you have too. Take back your life.
2007-07-11 18:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call her bluff, go get a job she can't stop you from getting one unless she has a gun pointed at you if not nothing is worth feeling like a dog. open another bank account and climb back up to the top make your self more independent little by little.
don't worry about her kicking you out because if she did she would be breaking the lease and she would have no one to control so everything is a bluff really. but look for another place to live and use that as leverage. to be in control you need to be a threat and to be a threat you need leverage.
find some dirt on her get some black mail anything that could give you an upper hand and if you find something hide it with a trusting friend or family who won't be swayed by a bribe. make a copy if you can.
3 ways you can get out-
1wait till the lease expires and move out
2make your self independent and equal to her
3marry her and divorce her you get half of everything.
you can do more than you think you can if you have parents or some good friends that will lend a hand have them help you out.
2007-07-11 18:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be smart! Not to sound mean, but you're a man, grab your balls and get it together!
It seems that you are intimidated by her, so here's what you do.
1. See if you can get your old job back. Do not allow them to contact you via phone. If you can sort of explain your situation, but not everything cause you don't want to sound like a sissy at work. If you can't get that job, find another one. What's she going to do if she finds out you have a job? Flip out on you? Call the police!
2. Take a little money here and there, not enough to where it's soooo noticeable... and put it in another bank account. Tell the bank that you want your debit card and checks to come there, and you'll check back with them to see when it has arrived. Be sure to tell them not to call you, under no circumstances. (I've had to do this, and they will do it) For an address and phone number, just to be sure they don't call or send anything, give them a trusted friend's info.
3. Go to your friends. You are going to need help. Apologize for dumping them, but let them know what is going on.
4. With someone at the house, tell her you are leaving, and why.
If you don't feel like talking to her can fix anything, then you need to get out.... it can only get worse.
Best of luck!!
2007-07-11 18:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is something horribly wrong, with a person that controls another person like this. People who are controlling are usually insecure and paranoid. As soon as you see a way, get out as soon as possible or you will not have a life. Someone that loves you, would not take away the things that make you happy, and certainly not mold you to be the way they want you to be. Don't let her manipulate you any longer, you are not a puppet. Leave. Get your own job. Get your own house/apartment, Pay your own bills, and close all contact with this psychopathic "beautiful" mastermind.
2007-07-11 18:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by Olie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-09 02:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you messed up from the day you quit your job.
that was just a way to keep you home so that you have no reason to leave the house. you have given her the power to control you and if you really want it to stop you need to be a man, get a job, put your foot down and take back your life.
2007-07-11 18:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has issues you should break up with her, its her fault you don't have a job. She told you to quit now she is using her job against you. Ask your self are you happy. Are you okay with never having friends or freedom? What kind of life is that. Get out of there.
2007-07-11 18:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Midnite_rose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember.... she can't control anything that you don't allow her to!
Change bank accounts, leave the house, get a job, and be a MAN!
2007-07-11 18:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming she doesn't have a gun to your head and you do have a pair of Well anyways. Tell her you are going to get a job, she can wash her on nasties, and tell her that it is suppose to be a partnership not a prison!! Come ON dude it isnt that hard!
2007-07-11 18:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you can! The longer you wait, the harder it will be. Call your family or friends, they will help you. You can rebuild your life, but you have to take the first step.
2007-07-11 18:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋