He wants sex! I don't!?

Question

I will be seeing my boyfriend tommorrow for the first time in a few weeks. When i spoke to him on the phone earlier tonight he asks me what i have planned for him tommorrow.

Now we've done pretty much everything right up to sex, which i'm saving (or trying my best anyway) for marriage. But when i spoke to him on the phone he said he didn't want it to be the usual (talking making out oral etc.) and i know he was referring to having sex. which I just don't think i can bring myself to do.

Question is what, if anything can i do to please him without giving in and having sex. i don't want to but i'm fixing to just break down and give him what he wants..

Please i need ADVICE!!
thanks!!♥

oh yeah and i REALLY don't wanna break up with him at this point however i don't see myself with him long-term!

But question is what can i do to please him WITHOUT giving him sex. and we already do oral! thanks!♥

And he already knows where i stand on this we've been over it a thousand times and he's still asking

Answer 1

For sexual pleasure:

You've pretty much done everything up to sex..so there really isn't nothing much you can do! Instead of worrying about when sexual intercourse will happen..you guys should take the time out to master pleasuring each other through foreplay(oral sex..kissing the body..licking..sucking..hand pleasure..you know what i mean!)..this will bring you guys closer together..and encourage you guys to learn about each others body's in ways no one else in the world could know..


***But I REALLY don't suggest you do this with someone if you don't feel like you'll "be with for long" b/c the requires alot of TRUST in each other and FAITHFULLNESS in the relationship!!!****

If he doesn't understand..and still only wants sexual intercourse....please leave him..because honestly..you never want to regret your first time..and you will if you weren't absolutely sure you were ready..

Just like you, I didn't want to give my virginity to just anyone, and I came across alot of men who would not leave me alone about giving "it" up! I just knew I didn't want to be in a long term relationship with them!!

I pushed through them..and I found a man who actually UNDERSTOOD that I didn't want to have sex with just anyone..and DIDN'T cheat on the side to get over that(like most)..

Anywho, I waited until I felt the time was right..and I'm so happy I did! I don't regret it all..and even if we separated..I wouldn't because..ME MYSELF AND I made that decison..not anyone else pressuring me..

Answer 2

This is sad. I knew a girl who was broken up with because she would not give her boyfriend oral.

If he truly likes you as much as you think he does, or hope he does, then he shouldn't even be trying to pressure you into it. You didn't make it seem like he was. While with him tomorrow I would probably just bring it up before it gets to that point. Let him know you don't want to have sex yet, and ask him what other sexual things he would like to do besides sex. Ask him if there is anything he wanted to try that he never has, ect. But don't break down. If you truly WANT to save yourself, then do it. Though I am a firm believer that sex brings two people closer.

Answer 3

Don't give in! You're stronger than that, and if he doesn't respect that, instead of breaking down and giving in, don't hesitate to break up and get out! You have the right idea, I'm also saving myself for marriage. Sex can ruin a good relationship, and is safer in marriage! Don't do anything you aren't ready for, and don't let him manipulate you. You don't owe him anything but to be honest with how you feel.

Answer 4

The real question is, "Do you want respect or do you just want to "give in"? This is the question that HAS to be answered before you go over to his house.

Don't ever feel that you "have" to do anything in your life. The minute you do, you've lost your soul.

Get a hobby and find another way to entertain yourself and/or him. He sounds pretty shallow if all he can talk about are HIS wishes. What, if anything, has he discussed regarding YOUR desires? If there is no discussion about you now, there NEVER WILL BE.

Have you continued your education? What do you want to do with your life? Make no mistake, he may not care about what YOU want.

If you just say, "no" and walk away, will he follow and find something more lifelong to do with you? If he isn't willing to commit to a lifelong relationship, he isn't worth the time it takes to drive over there. TRUST ME I KNOW what I am talking about.

Answer 5

Do not do anything that you are not ready to do. Don't ever let a man pressure you like that. Tell him that if he wants something more than usual, he needs to look elsewhere, because you have given him all that you can up to this point.

If he loves you, he will wait. If he does not want to wait, then tell him he will have to find another girlfriend. Too often when a girl lets a guy pressure her into se#, they end up splitting up anyway, because deep down inside, she is angry with him for making her do what she was not ready to do. It just bothers her so much subconsciously that she begins to hate him.

Answer 6

If not having sex was so important to you, you wouldnt even consider giving him what he wants or giving in. Think about it, for him to be serious about not having sex with you, you need to be serious about not wanting it and if you were serious then you would have told him on the phone that there was no way that you would do anything like that before marriage.

Now, if you are really serious, you would tell him the first thing you see/talk to him, that you love him, but you dont want to have sex, And if he truly loves you, then that would not matter to him.

Answer 7

Dont break down. Your values are more important than some boyfriend. It makes no difference how much he wants this or how close you are. You're not married and he's not your husband. For all you know you could break up next week - there's no commitment. If he cant respect that then he's not right for you.

Answer 8

Guys that try and pressure girls into having sex before they're ready suck. They're complete a.rseholes with no respect or consideration for what anyone else wants but themselves.

Explain to him how you feel, and if he still persists, then it's pretty clear that he doesnt care how you feel. Once you've established that fact, it might be easier for you to decide if it's worth it or not.

Answer 9

Well, if you are old enough, you should consider oral or manual stimulation. Let him know where you stand on marriage, and that's all he should expect. If he is willing to agree, do that, and that only. Don't give in to something you don't want to do, period!

Answer 10

How long have you known him and has he been faithful to you this entire time? Is he clean and no disease?
If everything a go, then go for it if the idea turns you on. If not, break up because that is a major part of a relationship for a man.