I have to say, I think it's easier for a girl to recover than a guy....I have seen both reactions from my son and daughter who have had break ups..It really seems as though it's harder on the guy, what do you think?
2007-07-11 17:27:10 · 12 answers · asked by Mona Lisa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is not so much a gender thing as it is a case of who was the deepest in love, and how long they have loved the other person.
2007-07-11 17:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think in most cases, as shallow as it is, the one who hurts more in a breakup is whoever recieves less attention from the opposite sex afterwards. (USUALLY, the less attractive of the 2) Kepp in mind, people crave that acceptance and attention is a form of that. When girls can go out, and guys find that they're single, they usually get hit on. as much as any girl will tell you they hate that; they don't. people like attention, and that acceptance is huge in recovering from a serious relationship. I know that in my own case- my girlfriend was very attractive, and is also very outgoing as well. she got hit on when we were out, and she would shut them down, but now that we're broken up, i can't imagine how much attention she gets from guys now. i'm less outgoing, and by my own admition, i'm less attractive than she is so recieving any attention from girls now makes things a bit easier.
another way to think of it is that, women can control what type of relationship they seek far more easily than most men can. Women treat relationships(and sex for that matter) like garbage. When they put the oppurtunity out there, they figure some guy in a jumposuit will come along and pick it up. Men have to work a hell of a lot harder to obtain a meaningful relationship than women do, at least IMO
2007-07-11 17:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by tar_heel_fan_44 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jawa Nigerman is right on the money. From what I have seen, it has been easier on the female 100% of the time. I think mainly it's because meeting, dating, talking to other people helps those in recent break-ups cope, and females are constantly finding men to do just that,meet, date, and talk to.
2007-07-11 18:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think it's hard to tell, because your children are unique individuals. I've never had someone break up with me before, so I don't know what it's like or how I'd handle it. Your daughter may just be better at these things than your son. I don't know, maybe look at your own experience. If it was fairly easy for you, then it makes sense that it would rub off on your daughter.
2007-07-11 17:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by Dan in Real Life 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think girls get hit harder than they are dumped because girl day dream of princes and marriage and all that stuff (well.. i did anyway, I was only 14 at the time too (but that was only three months ago lol (i feel kinda pathedic lol))). I loved that boy to death and he dumped me. I have a hard time lookin' at him without wanting to be all emo, which is annoying because i'm tired of being sad all the time! *kicks bucket*
2007-07-11 17:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont no that a good question i think that maybe the girl would be more emotional attatched to the other n that is harder for them to just forget n move on but im not really sure about the guy maybe its all depends on how long n how close the relationship was
2007-07-11 17:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by Annieee 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It depends on the personality and character of the guy or girl in question. I think basing the question entirely on gender is not accurate.
Girls are usually more sensitive when it comes to relationships. But there can be girls with a harder outlook on life.
Guys usually act more on lust. But there can be extremely sensitive guys also.
It just all depends.
2007-07-11 17:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think it just depends on the individual. i know that i for one have a terrible time with break ups. I am so sensitive and when i'm with someone i really give them my heart and put everything into the relationship. from my experience girls seem to have a tougher time but hey maybe thats just me..
2007-07-11 17:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by SY D 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It really depends, but from what I've seen...the guy has a tougher time.
When a girl is dumped she'll make it sound devastating in front of her friends, but deep down inside.. I don't believe they're as upset as they make it sound.
When a guy is dumped he'll make it sound like no big deal, but deep down inside of them.. they're heartbroken. When friends are around, they'll hide they're emotions. But around family members they may be emotional, but subdued.
That's what I believe, but I'm not a parent.
2007-07-11 17:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by I-Town Kid 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's only on the gender, but on how involved each one was with a relationship when they got dumped. But, maybe because girls tend to express their emotions easier than guys, they vent their frustration easier and continue on easier, where most guys will eat it up and pretend to ignore it.
2007-07-11 17:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Roberto 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋