my ex and i started talking again after not talking for two months (we broke up two months ago and dated for a year an half) and we have been going out to movies and dinner and like all that stuff, we are also fooling around. so the other night i asked him if he still liked me a lot and he said yes. Then i asked him if im the only one for him and that he is not looking around for any girls, that he has his eyes only on me and he kind of freaked out a little bit and i asked him why he freaked out and he said because he thinks im already wanting to get into a relationship. and i told him that im not, im not pushing anything and that i only want to know if im the only one for him and he said yes. so what should i do? do i wait for him to approach me and call me or do i ask him if its just a waste of time or if we are going to get anywhere...what do i do? i dont want to sound too pushy! please help! i need as much advice as possible.
2007-07-11 17:22:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not going to sugarcoat this: he is DEFINITELY seeing other women. He is telling you what you want to hear just so he can keep getting into your pants.
Think about it. Why else would he freak out about you wanting to be in a relationship?
Now, it seems like you really care about this guy, and you want to find out if there is any future. Whatever you broke up over in the first place is still in the back of his mind, and is testing the waters a little bit, while also shopping around and looking to "trade up," if you know what I mean.
If you want to stick it out and see if he comes to you, that might take a while. You can give YOURSELF a limit on how long to wait for a decision from him, and when that time is up, you say something or you hit the road.
You probably are young (I am going out on a limb here). Don't tie yourself down to one guy that is looking to trade up. Go out. Have fun. Don't waste your youth on some guy. Trust me.
I hope that helps and good luck!
2007-07-11 17:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lostris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand if you are not in a relationship then how can you be the only one for him and if you are then why did he freak out and if you are not expecting this to be a relationship then why would you ask that question. I think you should look inside your own mind for the answers you seek. I am not trying to be harsh so please do not think it is meant that way I just think you really need to figure what you really want and be honest with him and most of all to yourself and if you are both heading in opposite directions then maybe it is time to do that in real life.
2007-07-11 17:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by grandma moneytree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do sound so pushy. I think those questions are an almost direct form to ask to go back. But probably in a negative way. Since you broke up, neither of you have any obligation to be faithfull to each other, unless you make up and continue the relationship.
If he asked you to go back, and you answered him by asking that question, it was very good. But out of the blue can be intimidating.
To be honest, I probably would have freaked out as well...
2007-07-11 17:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds a little like he is enjoying the comfort, but still not wanting the relationship. if you're ok with this, go for it. if not, then wait it out for a little bit and see where it leads from there. hate to be harsh, but if he can spend time with you, sleep with you, etc. WITHOUT the committment, why would he want to commit?
2007-07-11 17:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by hello_beautiful_222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would of done the same thing. hes and ex and no he can have you anytime he wants-i would say trust you instints
2007-07-11 17:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by redaya m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋