My wedding is on the first of January and I invited a few Jehovah Witnesses. Some are saying they can not come because it falls on a holiday. We are not celebrating New Years though, it just happens to be the day we decided to have our wedding. Our theme doesn't have anything to do with New Years. Some of the JWs are family.
2007-07-11 16:28:54 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A Jehovah's Witness who chooses not to attend a wedding which happens to be the same date as a so-called "holiday" does not make that choice based on some requirement or suggestion from his religion. Ironically, it is quite common for a Witness couple to choose these dates for their own wedding, when they can get discounted rates on wedding services (such as reception catering).
It seems possible that these particular Jehovah's Witnesses believe that certain fault-finders will actually or pretendingly construe celebration of the wedding as though it were a celebration of the date. If that is the case, these Witnesses are to be commended for understanding their Christian obligations so seriously.
Perhaps this questioner could assure the Witness guests that there will be nothing at the event to imply a holiday celebration. Perhaps this questioner could assure the Witness guests that she herself understands that their attendance does not imply a holiday celebration, and she will help others to understand that also.
The decision whether or not to change a wedding date is one that can only be made by the bride and groom. They should themselves be assured that Jehovah's Witnesses wish them every success no matter what day they are married.
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2007-07-12 08:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While it is unfortunate that your niece has a recital on that same day, she is FIVE. She'll get over it. She can do it next year. I'd say your wedding day is more important than a recital. It's very thoughtful that you would consider changing your entire wedding around for her, but if you didn't know what the date was when you planned it, I don't think you should feel bad about her having to miss it. Your vendors may not have your new date available at this point, and yes, you will get charged to move it if there are issues. There is probably nothing in your contracts with them stating that they wouldn't charge you a fee to change your date. Let your sister know that it will cost you too much to change your date, but that you tried. I don't see why this is such a big deal. It's ballet, and the kid is five after all.
2016-05-20 02:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by henrietta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was brought up as a Jehovahs' witness but I do not practise now, and I can honestly say I do not understand what their problem is, it's the date you chose to get married, it's not a religious holiday, it's just a bank holiday, they are being a bit over the top, it's not like you are having a huge New Year celebration, I don't get their reasoning at all. It's a family wedding, they sound like they are being a bit too rigid, as this is a wedding it has nothing to do with being a "pagan holiday".
2007-07-11 22:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I thought Jehovas witnesses didnt celebrate holidays....its just like any other day for them, so I don't see the hang up....if they cant come on Jan 1, then it really shouldn't be any different on Jan 7 or whatever. If its important to have these people there, and they still want to throw this up, then change it, but if not, keep it.....I do know things are gonna cost a lot more on a holiday tho!
2007-07-12 05:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe you should explain to them that your wedding wont have a new years theme. Just because its no ones fault to assume it would have a new years theme. I mean think about it. Whats going to happen once the clock hits 12? Is everyone going to start screaming happy new year and going on with that? Then that would make your JW guests uncomfortable and im sure you wouldnt want to make any of your guests feel like that on your wedding day. The way i see it..your'e getting married and ppl are going out of their way buying gifts and getting ready just to make ur day special and some thought should go to your guests. True it is your day but ppl need to be considerate and respectful towards others everyday. Happy planning!
2007-07-12 01:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by PrettyBright 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no don't change the wedding because my mom is a jw's and she celebrates new years now she doesn't get drunk and she is not out clubbing but she is home with family celebrating another year together and she always tell me there is nothing wrong with another year together. New year is not a false god its what it is a new year and your wedding. Tell them its to celebrate your happiness just like anywedding on anyday.
2007-07-15 16:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by My Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't change your wedding date *unless* the JW family members are immediate family and your wedding cannot happen without them. For example, the parents of the bride or groom, a sister who would otherwise be a bridesmaid, etc.
However, if those JW family members would just be in the audience, then don't change your date. It's your wedding, not theirs. If they care enough about you, then they'll be there, regardless of the date, place, or time of day.
2007-07-11 16:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by Mmerobin 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
JW don't celebrate any holidays, so why does it matter that its on a holiday they dont celebrate? Anyway, if it's really important to have them at the wedding, (and everything else can be changed) change it. If it doesn't really matter to you if they are there, keep the original date.
2007-07-11 16:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by qwerty 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you should not change your wedding date to accomodate them. They won't even show up to the actual ceremony. My uncle converted to Jehovah's witness and they don't step foot in another church. They don't even celebrate holidays with family or anything. When there are weddings in my family. He doesn't go to the weddings but he does show up for the reception and dance. If you want to get married January 1st then get married that day. Otherwise you will have to accomodate for everyone else and then there will be too many problems. Don't let someone else ruin your wedding simply because it happens to be on a holiday. It is your day you and your fiance should chose when you want to get married and not let anyone else interfere with that.
2007-07-11 16:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by beautiful_babe170 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Why did you pick that date to have your wedding? If it is happening on a date that was significant to you, then I wouldn't change it. But if the date doesn't really matter and you can change it by a few days, then I think that would be a really nice gesture to the JW's that are in your family. It would show that you really respect their religious beliefs.
2007-07-11 16:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by Amy A 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋