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2007-07-11 15:57:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Weddings

Thanks everyone for answering. The answers helped me see more clearly. Its all about their happiness anyway, and it is THEIR day, not ours. When I looked at websites, they showed both parents name, but with your answers, I see that a lot of times both parents aren't on it. Thanks again for good answers, even if they vary!

2007-07-11 18:29:19 · update #1

24 answers

As a few others have said, as the groom's parents your names are typically not listed on the invitations regardless of who is paying. However, that has been causing huge family issues so people have been including all of the parents when they can but it's not something that most couples think about without prompting.

2007-07-11 17:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2 0

If the bride's parents are paying for the wedding then traditionally it is their name who appears on the invitation. I would not be offended because 9 times out of 10 it was the bride's doing and not your sons. For instance, a lot, I mean a lot of the sample only show the bride's parent's name because that is tradition. It may have truly been an honest mistake. Do not be upset, talk to them about she may have thought that was what she was supposed to do.

2007-07-11 16:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by sjlova86 5 · 2 1

When I was shopping for invitations, most of the displays only showed the parent sof the bride, so maybe in all of the hustle and bustle of planning a wedding the bride overlooked it. Though it hurts a bit, the big picture is that your son is happy with his future bride. The wedding is just one day of a great future of playing with grandkids and watching your son's relationship grow with his family.

2007-07-11 17:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by Barbie K 3 · 0 0

i had the same argument with my mother in law when i got our invitations made. traditionally the brides parents are named as the ones requesting your presence at the wedding b/c they normally pay or help pay for the wedding and it's just tradition. i don't think it's in any way saying you are not as big of part of their family but rather just a way to print up a old tradional way of inviting people if it really bothers you you can ask the bride for her reasons but more than likely it was not done to hurt you.

2007-07-12 05:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by ASHLEIGH P 3 · 0 0

Yeah, it is whoever is hosting the wedding. If the parents are hosting with footing most of the bill, there name goes on it. If you both are hosting, then both names. If the bride and groom are paying, they will not include any parents name.

2007-07-15 13:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ju-Lay 2 · 0 0

strictly speaking the grooms parents names are never part of a traditional wedding invitation. so of course i would not be upset. i have a wonderful idea. go to a bookstore and just immerse yourself in the wedding ettiquette section, and read up on the correct way things are done when people get married. there is a lot of tradition around this time and if you are prepared and know what to expect you wont be worried at a time which should be happy and extremely joyous for you. congrats, to all of you!

2007-07-11 16:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

I would definitely be hurt, but did the bride's parents pay for the wedding?? If they did, I don't really think you'd have much of an argument. I'd talk to your son and tell him exactly how you feel. If the brides' parents names are on it, they could've put yours on there too!

2007-07-11 16:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by meg 2 · 1 0

I would be upset. Now only the people paying for the wedding get to be on the: "Mr. and Mrs. John Q. Smith request the honor of your presence..." part. But it's polite to include the groom's parents under the groom's name, "to Mr. Walen W. Smithers III, son of Mr. and Mrs. Walen W. Smithers Jr." I would want to be acknowledged in this way if I were the groom's mom. In my case, the groom's parents are both deceased, but we're going to say, "son of the late Dr. B... and the late Mrs. B..."

2007-07-11 16:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0 0

Normally the bride's parents' names are on the invitation only if they are the ones paying for the wedding. So, the question is...are you helping to pay for the wedding? If not, then you have no right to be upset. If, however, you are helping to pay for the wedding, then you have the right to be upset.

2007-07-11 16:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1 1

Actually, no. I've only ever seen 1 invite out of the 50 or so I've gotten which listed both sets of parents. When we were married, he invties we picked didn't have room if we wanted to have that option, unless we picked very small font, so we just put "Together with their families" at the top, then listed our names.

2007-07-12 10:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by layla983 5 · 0 0

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