so, i have almost gotten over my grandfather passing, and one of my neighbours, then now, a few days ago, one of my friends committs suicide...i wish i could have helped her, i asked her what was wrong so many times, and she just didn't want to talk about it. i hate myself for not stoping her, or even taking my inquiring to what was wrong, on a higher level.
then, ontop of that im trying to put my past behind me. i was molested by my cousin from when i was 6 until i was 14(when i first got my peroid) and i am currently 18....ahh...i should hate my life right now....all the crap ive been through, ive really tried to put it all behind me, but right now, as of current events its comming back into my face. i have to be honest, i have tryed to hurt my self before, when i was extremely depressed, but i got out of it, i just wish my friend could have confided in me, instead of going to the means of dealing with her problems like she did.i would give anything in the world if she was here now
2007-07-11 15:40:28 · 9 answers · asked by Jessiegirl 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You are a caring person, but how can you expect to be strong enough to prevent a suicide while you were grieving the loss of your grandfather? That was a time when you needed someone to care for you. You are only one person and cannot be responsible for your friend's choice to take her own life. You never wished harm to come her way; she did this to herself knowing that you and probably others would have loved to help her.
You did not have a normal childhood and there is no doubt that your cousin harmed your normal growth and development as a child. You try to be strong, but he harmed you. Be kinder to yourself. You turned out pretty good in spite of being mistreated.
Consider telling all of this to a counselor; it would help you a lot.
good luck and stay well.
2007-07-11 16:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky Raccoon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a strong girl, and you obviously have a good heart.
That's all you need in life, really. People like you are becoming more and more rare.
You'll find happiness. Don't worry about that. You've had a rough past, and you're in a grieving period right now, but you'll get through it and you'll just get stronger and smarter each year of your life. That's how the whole thing works.
2007-07-12 00:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by superman11978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure do!!!!! Because I mean in the long run if the good people resist the bad things they will go to heaven.. Always believe in yourself!!!!! There is this line in a song and it says."Even the best fall down some times.......Even the Wrong ones seem to rise...Out of the dark that fills your mind......" I completely believe that song like when im having a bad day........ Just pull through and say." things happen.... i just will never let them happen again..... " But i dont really know why...but if bad things happen to you and you havent done anything wrong then you know you are a great person!!!!!
2007-07-11 15:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive had some bad things happen in my life,but i dont dwell on it, neither should you or those personal demons will eat you up,my good friend of 20 years one day went out into the woods and blew his brains out,no note.If you allow these things to eat into you they will and they will consume you thouroughly, till one day your the one with the gun under your chin,so my advice to you is this today is a new day ,the past is gone the future a mystery thats why they call the present a gift, cause you are only guaranteed a day at a time, god bless you and i will pray for you.
2007-07-11 16:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just by the number we all get some bad things. Also god is the great leveler and will take from some and give to others.
2007-07-11 16:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just does U need 2 take one day at a time & I'm sure you'll be fine.Good Luck
2007-07-11 15:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are your own worst enemy. why load yourself down with guilt for something some one else did? it was her decision, not yours, and those who seriously want to die, will die, nothing and no one can stop them. Nothing that has happened to you has been of your doing, you really need to let it go, don't suppress it, or ignore, let it go. There is a program available that will teach you how to do this, email me and I will tell you how to get it.
2007-07-11 15:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.
Lots of bad things happen to good people.
Good people always die.
You just have to fight, and take every day as it comes.
2007-07-11 15:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Glamourous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u aregoing thru alot. if u need support i am here dogmicjoe@yahoo.com
2007-07-11 16:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋