so my bf and i have been going out for three months now. i am his first gf ever so he has never kissed a girl. french or peck. (we are both 16 btw) so we havent kissed yet so i thought maybe i was doing something he didnt like and when i asked him about it he said he was scared because he never has kissed a girl before. he said he wants to and he knows he shouldnt be scared but he is. he is an outdoor kind of guy. he isnt afraid of bears or anything like that but he is afraid to kiss me on the cheek. (he told me he was afraid to give me a peck on the cheek) so anyways does anyone have any advice on how to make this easier for him or anything? thanks everyone =)
2007-07-11 14:27:37 · 25 answers · asked by SMasewicz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have had other bf's before who always wanted to kiss so thats what im used to. I told him i was fine with not kissing til he is fine with it because i dont want him to be uncomfortable but at the same time its not what im used to and its hard.
2007-07-11 14:28:50 · update #1
I don't think at 16, you want to create the impression, albeit the wrong one, that you are much more experienced than you really are. I think it is actually sweet and romantic that he is nervous( rather than scared) about kissing a girl when a lot of guys his age would be doing something different. I feel this is a guy you should hang on to for he will not wrong you or hurt your feelings. As to your question, why don't you lean over and give him a kiss on the cheek. This solves the issue and takes the pressure off him.
2007-07-11 14:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and talk it out with him, that whatever he does will be fine, be glad to offer him so tips I'm sure he wont turn them down he seems down-to-earth. You might have to make the first move, start off with a peck on his cheek and ask him if he wants to do the same and when it gets to the time to give him a kiss if he doesn't put it up or it! Go in 97% of the way and let him come the other 3%, or if you want a different way you can always turn a hug into a kiss; pull away slowly keeping your faces next to each other and everything else will fall in place. Good Luck!
2007-07-11 21:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all let me tell you, you sound like a great person. You must really like him because you are on here trying to find ways for him to get more comfortable.
Now, does he know about your other boyfriends and how often you have kissed before? If not, you may be able to convince him that you are pretty new when it comes to kissing as well, so he need not be worried because its a new thing for both of you. If he does know, you could tell him you dont care how good of a kisser he is, and if he seems a little more confident, but still somewhat unsure, you may need to initiate it by kissing him. Then, see how he reacts.
2007-07-11 21:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by Zach D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be really nervous. You need to make him feel comfortable. Start by maybe cuddling with him and put your hand on his leg. Do things that will make it hard to resist kissing.You know like try to give him that feeling that you get when you know you want to kiss. That tingly feeling. Since you are more experience than him I think you need to make the first moves. You kiss him on the cheek first.. see if he likes it... Then when the moment is right try giving him a real kiss... Don't be scared Im sure he wont deny you once he gets a chance to feel how fun kissing can be.
2007-07-11 21:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry Darling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have talked about this, I would sit him down and explain to him that you like him very much and dont care if he knows how to kiss or not. He may still be reluctant and you can just tell him that you can teach him, and if that doesnt work... one day when you guys are together, tell him to close his eyes and pretend you have something in your hand and instead peck him on the lips. he will realize that you like him enough to not care if he sucks (which is what he probably is afraid of).
good luck. btw ive been guys' first kiss so ive broken them in :)
2007-07-11 21:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie Mae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That excuse sounds very akward. OK your scared to make a move and kiss me and you like me? So basically , your supposed to wait on what sound like a brave person to just KISS YOU ON THE CHEEK. Tell him to MAN UP or BOUNCE. Is he gay ? Does he honestly like you? If your mind is telling you it is something else, listen to it and start seeking out other prospects.You have to be happy.
2007-07-11 21:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by lovely jadey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make him comfortable. maybe him knowing that you thinking about makes him nervous, and also knowing that you have kissed other guys makes him wanna have a better impact on you. it might be hard not being able to kiss him, but waiting could make the first kiss even better. start off easy. kisses on the hand
2007-07-11 21:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by Cris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have kissed other people before maby he doesnt want to be a dissapointment to you. Its most likly that he wants to kiss you but has no idea it looks like your goin to make the 1st move just invite him over to your house for a movie and just ppeck him and see if he freaks out or if he likes it. Maby he just doesnt like kissing. Good luck hun
2007-07-11 21:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiss him! For God's sake make the first move! He will man up when he gets a taste of what we call "lovin" ;]. Tell him there's nothing to be afraid of, and kiss him. He should like it!
Good luck!
-Alex
2007-07-11 21:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by Alex S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him about it, tell him your fine about the kissing. But if he is not ok with the kissing then wait, take time, and have patience it will all work itself out.
2007-07-11 21:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by independentwoman1st 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋