once you are old enough ( about 18 and above) and are mentally ready, should people still protect their virginity so strongly? is there an age where you think that same enthusiasm for protecting your virginity just gets old?
2007-07-11 14:14:49 · 15 answers · asked by mo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, its all about what's important to each individual. it's supposed to be saved for marriage anyhow.
2007-07-11 14:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by *princess* 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, somewhat. I think people overreact about people losing their virginity at a young age because there's so much more that entails: getting pregnant as a young teen, STDs, being heartbroken, used, etc.
When I was in high school, I was a really big prude. All my friends and classmates were sleeping around but I never did, and I didn't think anybody else around me was. I thought having sex automatically made someone a slut or dirty, and it was such a big deal.
When I was mature enough in college to have sex with my boyfriend that I really loved, losing my virginity was really not a big deal. If you're old enough to make a decision so strong, it's okay. I didn't feel any different after sleeping with him whatsoever. You just have to be mature about what you do and who you do it with. People overreact because they just don't want to see people making the wrong decisions.
2007-07-11 15:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by girlygirl8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It did for me because one day I realized marriage is an "if" and not a "when." It's not guaranteed, at least not for me.
Virginity is a state of being--you've had sex or you haven't. For women, the difference is slighly biological. The reason virginity becomes an issue is becomes people place their own values and beliefs on sex. How you view virginity depends on your own beliefs and values.
For me, I used to think it was important. As I grew older and had different experiences, my values changed, so did my ideas of virginity.
The media and society, with pushing sex at us, sends its own messages. Look at American Pie. 4 high school boys vow to lose their virginity because sex is so important. Near the movie's end, one guy says "I'm not going to keep obsessing about something that is frankly not that important. His experiences have changed his opinions.
To give a short answer, there is not an actual age where you may not protect so much, but if happens when your values and opinions on sex change.
Know how you really feel about it instead of what other people think you should feel about it. Maybe it's the same, maybe not.
2007-07-11 14:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by bluejester12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this all depends on the person protecting their virginity. For some people it is religious and they are waiting for marriage, for others they just havent found the right person to loose it to. I think as you get older it does become more precious as you have protected it for so long, you want the "perfect" person to loose it to. Whereas, when you are younger, you just want to experience it and its hard to tell who is the right person. This is a tricky question and I dont think it can you can put an age on when protecting your virginity "gets old".
2007-07-11 14:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are unmarried and it is your desire to avoid sin (and pregnancy and std's and hurt feelings, etc.), then having the guts to protect your virginity at ANY age is to be commended.
Living a happy, healthy life never gets old.
2007-07-11 14:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by cpslo96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know i did and truly its no big deal --- i think the idea of waiting is to allow your emotional maturity to ripen ---- you can handle having sex with someone a lot better as you mature --- then you can appreciate the person and the act much more and generally want to continue the relationship so that you can achieve more of a bond with your partner and as a sideline the sex becomes much better ---- best wishes
2007-07-11 14:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man im still a virgin and yeah all my freinds do overreact but i mean its stupid cuz ur supposed to save it for marriage how can u love some one else if u already gave it up? shoot i dont have to *** to be a stud i still get gurls without using my stuff! not being cocky but its the truth im glad u brought this up cuz pepole need to noe this shitt! I REALLY THINK THAT PEPOLE HAVE SEX BE 4 MARRIAGE BECUZ THEY THINK ITS COOL OR THIER PRESSURED.
2007-07-11 14:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you have a personal relationship with a person and you believe your ready, go for it! It's supposed to be saved for marriage.
2007-07-11 14:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by kiya b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's any big deal but, apparently, some people do. I guess it's just a matter of individual preference. To each his/her own.
2007-07-11 14:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have sex, you share some of yourself with that person. It would seem to me that a person would want to limit that to someone they think that they are going to spend the rest of their life with.
2007-07-12 06:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by modsax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should protect ur virginity until after ur married. thats my opinion though!
2007-07-11 14:20:14 · answer #11 · answered by bisma101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋