My daughter is almost 9 years old. She usually goes up to bed with me at night and we watch TV or read until we fall asleep. My husband doesn't usually go to bed when I do, and she doesn't bother either one of us. She isn't afraid to sleep in her room at all. If I tell her to go in her own room, she is fine with it, she does. If my husband and I want to watch a movie or hang out alone, she's also fine with that. We just tell her that we don't want company tonight. When she has friends over, she sleeps in her room.
Since we are all OK with it, is this healthy? I have friends who tell us we're crazy. Our sons kinda slept with us alot when they were small too...just not as much as her. They seem to have turned out perfectly normal.
2007-07-11 14:07:36 · 11 answers · asked by toobusy4life 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It doesn't sound unhealthy to me at all. It just sounds like you have a close relationship with your daughter which is awesome!
The fact that she doesn't mind sleeping in her room points to it being about her wanting some special time with her mom before going to sleep.
If only everyone was so lucky.
2007-07-11 14:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by Breeder 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's fine the only concern would be if she didn't want to leave your bed or look angry with having to sleep in her own room but as long as you and your husband are fine with it and she doesn't have any problems leaving when asked; it perfectly fine you have a bond with your daught and unfortunately most parents don't have that anymore. She will come to you later in life with everything she has that sort of bond with you that most kids need to have with their parents but don't have.
2007-07-11 14:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by nurseadn 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's perfectly OK. When she's ready to sleep in her own bed full time, she will. And as you said, your sons turned out OK.
People who say it's crazy may have had bad experiences with perverts. As long as all three of you are comfortable with it, though, do it. I think it's comforting for kids and adults, as long as everyone is OK with it.
2007-07-11 14:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Madame M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After having children of my own, my theory is: you do what works for YOU. As long as your daughter will and can go to sleep in her own room, I don't see a problem. It's nice that you have such a great relationship with your children.
2007-07-11 14:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by momathomewith2boys 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i think it's great
sounds like your daughter is well adjusted and you all enjoy each other's company
my 5 year old sleeps with us most of the time and my husband and i really love having her around
i think it's a shame that American society put so much pressure on parents to banish our babies from our space and bed
2007-07-11 19:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's really recommended your children do NOT sleep in their parents bed. I don't know why, but that what the professionals suggest. It doesn't sound like it's hurting anyone in your case, but there must be a reason for it or they wouldn't be so against it.
2007-07-11 14:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Sue C 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
There is nothing unhealthy about it. I'm 24 and when my mom comes to visit, I still sleep with her.
2007-07-11 14:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by NurseL 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as everyone is fine with it, and as long as she's not depending on sleeping in your room, I think it's okay.
2007-07-11 14:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by its_victoria08 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i say it's normal, as long as she gives the two of u some time alone when u say u want it.. but it shouldnt go past the age of 13.
2007-07-11 14:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by lala 16 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your normal and she's normal. As long as it doesn't interfere with your time alone with your husband then don't worry about it.
2007-07-11 14:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by alisjohnst 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋