I think I'm being sexual harrassed but I'm not sure?

Question

Is it sexual harassament if guys at work are asking you sexual questions like are you a virgin and if you've ever done certain sexual things? At my part time job, I work a lot of guys and they are always asking me questions like this

Answer 1

Y e s.

Answer 2

Yes! If questions make you uncomfortable you should tell them to stop.
1. Admit that the problem exists. Do not assume that the behavior will stop; it may worsen if you ignore it.

2. Tell someone. Sharing your concern with someone you can trust may help you feel less isolated. Remember, it is not your fault.

3. Speak up as soon as you realize that there is a problem. Tell the person that you find his or her behavior offensive. Be specific about the behavior in question:

"I am uncomfortable when you ask me if I am a virgin and talk about sexual things."

4. Write a letter to the harasser in which you describe the behavior in objective terms, express your reaction to it and request what you want to happen next. Keep a copy of this letter for your records.

5. Keep a detailed record of events. Make note of the behaviors, dates, times, places and witnesses.

6. Make a verbal complaint to your boss so he can help you solve this problem.

Answer 3

Yes, it is and if you are very young you need to get your boss involved. You company may need a class on how to treat people. We had one last year we each had to sign that we had completed it and understood the rules. I am an older women so the they don't bother me but whenever someone makes someones work environment hostile they are wrong.
We have men called riggers who tie knots for a living. Someone left a bit of rope tied as a noose in their shop another worker complained and they were told to stop. They did it again, they didn't mean anything it is just a rope and knot to them but another employee had a friend lynched and considered it very racist and violent. Once the guys were told not to do it they should have stopped even if they weren't racist or trying to bother anyone.
If someone asked me personal sexual questions being older I would say I would tell them I don't want to talk about my personal life so don't. If they did again I would remind them that I said knock it off and if they didn't I would complain. I would complain after the second warning but I think a young person should go straight to the complaint person.
They really can help the work environment. I had a chance to work in shipyards in the 70s and decided I didn't want to based on my husband telling me how they treated women now it is very polite.

Answer 4

They probably guess that this embarrasses you and they think it's fun to talk like this. It isn't appropriate and it is sexual harrassment. They are bullies. You must confront or it will get worse. I've been harrassed a couple of times in my life but the one time that comes to mind was I got a job tending bar. I needed a job and quick. This turned out to be a very special place but I had a bad start. They bet on most things there and some of the guys bet that they could make me quit in three days. I was in tears as I left the second day and then I just got mad. The ringleader came in and started in and I told him I wanted him to quit. He said I couldn't make him. I told him that after I talked to his wife on Saturday, I wouldn't have to, she would. And that was the end of that. If you can't back them off, then tell your boss their behavior is inappropriate. Let him handle it. Don't laugh it off and stand up for yourself. You never have to be treated like that and they are jerks. Don't kid around with these guys and behave absolutely professional. If you have a tape recorder, you might want to casually tape(voice activated is good) their remarks. When you get a good tape full, when they start in just play it and ask, "Can you say sexual harrassment suit?

Answer 5

Callie...tell your boss! this is sexual harassment! It's not your fault and those idiots know they can do it with no punishment so they are doing it...be discreet or sly about it...slip your boss a note or an email or go in when they aren't there and let your boss know what's going on!...do you feel comfortable telling a parent what's happening?...call your boss if you have to but make them aware so they can take proper action b/c if any nonsense results from this you want documentation that you reached out to your authority and let them know what was up...go over their heads in meaning you could tell them to leave you alone but they must already know you don't want this kind of attention and they continue to do it so go over there heads and to the person who can control them at work and that person is their boss...I'm sorry you have experienced such bull****.

Answer 6

YES, it is sexual harassment and it is illegal. It is entirely up to you whether you want to do something about it.

If it does not bother you, you can choose to do nothing and realize that the guys you work with are jerks who are not worthy of your time.

However, if you want to file a complaint, you are well within your rights to do so. You must first complain to your manager, and then if nothing is done, go to that person's manager or the HR department. You need to ensure that you have documentation of dates and times (if possible), what was said, by whom and any witnesses and their accounts.

It will go on the employee's record (not yours), and they could be fired if it continues. You can consult your local Human Rights commisssion.

Answer 7

Yes, if this continues, notify a manager, owner, boss, or a higher person in the company, and if this does not work, ask to file a restraining order or complaint at a local law enforcement agency/court/magistrate.

Answer 8

Holy good freaking hell. Are you serious??? Absouletly.

Ive been an owner of a company and a manager of a bank. Ive seen people fired for saying you look nice in those suspenders. I disagreed with the firing because she said it about me. I was manager. I took it to the VP at Washington Mutual. The regional manager won.

Its absolutely sexual harrasment. If you dont want to hear that stuff its illegal for them to tell you that stuff. Dont be scared to go to your manager. If its your manager go up the chain. You dont have to hear that at work.

Last thing they want is a lawsuit. Plus its not right.

Get their *** fired or sue the company if they arent.

Answer 9

if what they are saying or asking makes you feel uncomfortable then yes I would say that it is sexual harassment,,ask them to stop and if they don't go to someone like HR or your immediate boss and explain what is going on and that you don't like it

Answer 10

Yes. Go to HR or the owner. Document your conversations, so if it ever goes to court, you have your proof.

Answer 11

yes,it is.first,tell them to stop but still tell your boss and/or owner.