For 3 months I have been seeing this guy that works at the same company as I do. It has been pretty casual but I really feel we are growing a lot closer, we talk very frequently and find time to see eachther about once a week. He is older than myself with 2 kids and in the beginning he said he was not looking to get remarried or have kids again. I recently got of a long term relationship and was not looking for anything serious either. We have been seeing eachtother exclusively (and it has been AMAZING and just spending time with him in general is always so much fun). One of the girls I worked with asked me today if the guy was single and how old he was, she thought we would make a cute couple - but she has no idea we are really seeing eachother. I told him about what she said and he was like "well what do you think"? I didn't really answer and changed the topic. I am really falling for him, but how do I know if he is starting to think he might want somethign more? Something serious?
2007-07-11 13:36:17 · 7 answers · asked by E! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have not met his kids and don't expect to at least right now. I get the impression he is a great dad and spends as much time as he can with him even though he does not live with them, they live with their mother accross town.
2007-07-11 13:45:31 · update #1
Only time will truely tell, but you dont want time to be wasted. So what you have to do is decide if he is worth it. If you know that in the near future you want more in a relationship and eventually marriage and children, then I think that you should keep that goal in mind and your partner should not shut the idea out. This works if love is up ahead. If he is falling for you the way you are falling for him, then he will be sensitive to your needs and wants. Hopefully what he has in mind as of now is just a phase, after having a failed marriage with 2 kids. But once love comes into play, if it does, he change his views about the whole kaboodle! Good luck.
2007-07-11 13:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Step back and read what you typed. He looking not to get remarried or have kids again. This is what you face as the second woman. You will work to raise his kids and they will always resent you. You will have NO kids of your own and he won't want to marry you. Then when you are 35 and he is 55, he will cut you loose. You will too old to find a husband with no kids and you will repeat this same scenario. Do yourself a huge favor and find someone closer to your own age with the possibility of a future. He has already told you there is none and you aren't listening.
2007-07-11 13:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short of straight out asking him, why not bring up the subject of the future...i.e. where he sees himself in 5 years, etc. He will probably see right through that, though. Honestly, if you are in a relationship, you are entitled to know where you stand with him. Why not just talk to him?
2007-07-11 13:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just ask him what he wants out of this relationship and ask him where do you see us going in this relationship and if this relationship is giong to work or last???
2007-07-11 13:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here what you should say to him
Where is this relationship going?
2007-07-11 13:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by rsist34 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
based on my experience with older man...they tend to be serious.so you may end up engaged by the end of this year ...
2007-07-11 13:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be streight forward with him, thats what you would want.
2007-07-11 13:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋