well my husband died on sunday of cancer. we have a daughter who is 5 and when i was living with him i was a stay at home mom and he worked. he never had time to leave a will. and his mother and sister hate me and they are taking the house, car and all of his money out of the bank and we shared a account so i have no money in the bank i am broke i have no money, car,,job or house. well i am moving to my parents house tomorrow but i cant stay there for long. and to top all of that his mom and sister keep saying i killed him and i used him and all of this. and it is making it seem like its my fault. i cry every night. oh yea i am 7 months pregnant. i feel like i cant go on with life.what should i do?
2007-07-11 13:22:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
p.s i got my bacherlotte degree, assosiate degree and i am in school for my ph.d and business degree but i cant pay the tution
2007-07-11 13:26:02 · update #1
p.s i got my bacherlotte degree, assosiate degree and i am in school for my ph.d and business degree but i cant pay the tution. p.s i havent slept in4 days and havent ate in 2 days i need help
2007-07-11 13:27:36 · update #2
I am so sorry, but don't be depressed because the LAW is on your side. I recently studied a case about siblings that were trying to take property away from the spouse because there was no will. However, legally, everything belongs to you and only you. So, be sure to contact the police as they are stealing from you. Next, contact an attorney who will front you the money so when you settle your case, you can get paid. But I think that when your husbands family knows that you know the law, they will back off. They have no right to any of the property you both have. I think his family is saying mean and hateful things about you because it makes it easier for them to steal his property. That stuff does not belong to them. Close up the accounts immediately and inform the bank(s) to close the accounts and freeze all assets. Know that everything will be great but don't be sad. Your 5 year old and your almost born baby need you in the best health at this time of tragedy. I do wish you the best of luck!
2007-07-11 13:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by Hello to You! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cannot believe that if you were married to the man, how can his mother and sister take the possessions that you and your husband had together? They don't have the authority to do that. You were his wife and he has a child with you and another one on the way. You have a say and I would suggest for you to seek out a lawyer immediately. There has to be a lawyer for people who have limited or no income available.
And if your husband had cancer, that doesn't come on to a person over night. He must have suffered with the disease for awhile. So how can his mother and sister accuse you of killing him, that just doesn't make sense. But death of a loved one does strange things to different people. They may be so grieved that they want to lash out and your the most obvious choice as you feel they don't like you.
I know it hurts to have a loved one gone. No one can take his place. The world suddenly seems so empty. There is an ache in your heart. If your a Christian think about that glorious reunion, and of an eternity of Heaven's glories that await you in the presence of Christ. With that bright prospect, even though you may be sorrowing, it should not be as those who have no hope.
As believers, we have the comforting assurance of reunion and eternal glory. We shall see and be with our loved ones again.
Please find a Christian counsellor and go have a talk with them, I am sure they will be a tremendous help. You shouldn't be going through this alone. I will be praying for you and I sincerely hope you will find a Pastor or minister to talk to. God Bless.
2007-07-11 20:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm pretty sure that as the mother of his children you have full rights to all his remaining assets. Consult a lawyer while you look for a job. What did you get your degree in? Find a job and save some money while at your parents house. you can even pay them rent to stay there longer if it's okay with them. Get a place close to work and then save up for a reasonably priced car. You can go on WIC if you need to and unemployment. These programs are there for people who need them. Things will start to fall into place slowly but don't give up. Your husbands death was not your fault and don't let anyone tell you it was. Don't let your evil mother-in-law win. You have to be above this and fight. Challenges like these give us experience to help ourselves and others. When it's over with and you are back on your feet you will be glad.
2007-07-11 20:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by al l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First as his wife you were entitled to everything by marriage. Suehis mom and sister in small claims court for everything they took illegally and if they want to play games sue them for slander on the death causes. You may want to contact a will and estates attorney here as it will be well beneficial to you and the kids here. You need what they took and the law is on your side. Try to collect any evidence of what they took and whats left as you will need it. Contact the attorney immediately before things begin to disappear. Im really sorry about your loss and wish you all the best for you and your kids for the future
2007-07-11 20:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
EEk, that sounds awful. You should contact a lawyer, because if you were married I'm pretty sure all of the money and assets are legally yours, a lawyer could probably at least get everything frozen so they can't spend or sell everything before the issue is resolved. Idk for sure, but don't let them take everything and destroy your lives because they are b!tches. Isn't the grandmother even concerned with the well- fare of her grand kids? Fight.
2007-07-11 20:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husbands money is your right and so law is with you. Get yourself a lawyer and get back in shape for the sake of your kids. You have to be strong for them. I know it is tough but it is time you start taking back what belongs to you.
2007-07-11 21:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry...but wonder where you live that you have no claim to the house and that...in Canada you are the first person no matter if there is a will...if any one else wants anything then they have to take it to court....I suggest that you talk to a lawyer...and soon....try a legal aid lawyer....Good Luck.
2007-07-11 20:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by kadnil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you most need is rest and an attorney.
2007-07-11 20:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋