My ex wants me back. He left me & slept with my underaged sister & got her pregnant, & she lost the baby. He apologizes & he's talking about cleaning up his act & turning to God & asking God & me for forgiveness. Would I be stupid or a sicko to get back with him?
I believe in giving people 2nd chances, but after that, no more. I'm not gonna lie. He put me through a lot. He has showed me lately that he has changed, & I'm really considering dating him again. We left off as having an annulled marriage because of him getting my sister pregnant. If we do get back together, where should we start? Back to dating, or engagement?
So should I get back with him or not?
2007-07-11 13:17:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no no no no no....a million times NO! He's your ex for a reason (a really good reason!). You'll eventually regret it if you get back with him.
2007-07-11 13:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I’m only answering because you are asking even though you and I know that you are going to do whatever you feel like doing...my advice; forgive, but do not forget...
And I will like to ask you...
1. How does your sister feel about him? (She slept with him for a reason.. huh?)
2. How did you find out? Did they tell you or did you find out when it was already a hot mess?
3. How would you feel later on (if you do get back with him) in dinner parties or reunions with your family and you see him with your sister really close, talking or laughing will you be ok or will you have the picture of them having sex...?
4. You think you would be ok bringing friends over to your house?
Sorry if I m rude or whatever but I think you really have to ask yourself this questions before you make any decision ..
Good luck, and I only hope for the best..
2007-07-11 20:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Yailin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang, you live in a soap opera.
I normally believe in 2nd chances, but I don't know about this one. It sounds like he did all kinds of things wrong. This is really a decision you have to make for yourself, though... do you think you can trust him again? Do you believe what he says about cleaning up his act and turning to God?
Personally? I wouldn't. First of all, sleeping with your underaged sister is statuatory rape, isn't it? Hello, that's a crime. AND he got her pregnant, which was just stupid. Do you really want to be the stepmother to your neice or nephew?
But if you decide to give him another chance, go back to dating. And date for a long time. Make him earn your trust again, because he doesn't deserve for you to just blindly believe in him.
2007-07-11 20:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by Samantha S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I draw the line with adultry, and then getting your sister pregnant, if I were your father he wouldn't have a 2nd chance at anything...and now your considering not only allowing him back into your life but your families life too, bad move..please don't put yourself nor your family even possibly through this again.
2007-07-11 20:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont. think about it. this jerk was engaged to you then slept with your SISTER! giving him a second chance will just give him a hint he could do something to hurt you again. you're so not worth this guy.
2007-07-11 20:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by carina 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
After line two of your question I made my decision: ABSOLUTELY NOT! I don't care if he's the most handsome, richest dude ever, that guy is A LOSER! Please please please respect yourself enough to find a decent guy, they are out there I swear! DON'T GIVE THIS GUY A SECOND THOUGHT, or else you are asking for trouble, heartache, and pain!!! ENGAGEMENT or DATING or speaking to this guy ever again are NOT OPTIONS!!!
2007-07-11 20:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by yeahyeahyeah 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
nope!!!! just do it! get a new guy, your not going to get played two times!
2007-07-11 20:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by timothy m 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
NO NO NO ! Please don't go back with him.
2007-07-11 22:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋