i like a painfully shy guy.im sure he likes me to,coz,he stares at me,sometimes doesnt even look away and hold eyecontact.we smile at each other for ages be4 saying hi,he peeked at my work wen i wasnt n the room and caught him & he also pretended to accidentally take my book, then gave it back. opens doors, tries to get close
one day i sent him an email, inviting him to join one of those keeping n contact with friends sites(i took his email off the bord.he didnt giv it to me) he never replied.he got really nervous around me and stopped saying hi and making eyecontact.though my firends and i have still caught him staring at me.his friends stare at me and sometimes chat or say hi.one even winked at me!
then a few months on: he is standing behind me, staring at me for ages, i saw in the refelection. he looked deep in thought.now he says hi to me, opens doors.
i dont understand why he would give me all the signs of attraction then ignore me and then start saying hi? any explanations?
2007-07-11 13:14:09 · 11 answers · asked by girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are 21.
2007-07-11 13:14:24 · update #1
Shy guys are a different breed, they tend to think things over way too much and end up getting paranoid. I would suggest making a move if you're interested in him. Don't give up on him! Might take some work but will be worth it!
2007-07-11 13:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by scikerz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothings wrong. Sounds completely normal for a guy.
He likes you. He's not sure if he's good enough for you. He doesn't want to mess anything up. You got a way to contact him. He had to think about you, got nervous about what to do for a little while. Now has decided that maybe he might have a chance to meet a nice person (that is of course he is a nice guy). Now he is going to see what happens.
Just don't hold anything against him if he says or does something wrong. Just tell him what it was, walk and talk with him, other wise he will shy away.
Sounds perfectly normal.
2007-07-11 13:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by saved1985 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy must be my twin because i felt the same way but what can u expect were guys, even though we drop signals it still hard 4 us 2 tell a girl how we feel about them. Or he's afraid that if he makes a move u want like him back. He's just testing the waters 2 really make sure u like him.
2007-07-11 13:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by Raraay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was just like this guy before. I was just so confused. There was a feeling of wanting to be close to this girl, and then I was overcome with a feeling of utter shyness. I guess it needs confidence to express your emotions. In the end I married my own cousin who I gew up with! I felt safer. I just can’t explain it to you but Teo Bartek may have the answer for you. Check out his website below.
2007-07-11 14:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by Young Uncle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's terrified of a relationship. He'd rather keep you in fantasy world than making you real. I don't know that I'd be going for this guy, unless you like guys who don't talk very much and are terrified of intimacy. It's not likely you will get him into anything that can be remotely satisfying for you. His insecurities will keep popping up again and again and will make a relationship difficult or impossible.
2007-07-11 13:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by LG 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shyness to me -- I remember when, as a teenager, I felt (and probably acted) like you describe your friend. If you like him, why not take the ball in your hands and approach him - perhaps suggest that you have a bite to eat or some such in a public place. This may break the ice and encourage him to be more relaxed with you.
2007-07-11 13:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by michael h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shyness is a sign of insecurity. Insecurity is a lack of self-confidence due to one of many factors.
He may have an intense desire for you, but is so unsure of himself and your attraction for him, that he is unable to express it for fear of being rejected. Rejection to the unconfident is very wounding. You may have to take the initiative with him if you want to find out. It is likely he will not be comfortable around you, until he is sure that you are interested in him and he feels secure that you are pursuing him.
2007-07-11 13:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is scared because he likes you so much. He tried to ignore you and get over it, but it didn't work. Take the first step. Ask him if he seen __________(whatever movie is playing) if he says no, say, "wanna go with me this weekend" if he say's yes he's seen it, ask "so how was it"? Then say, you don't wanna go out this weekend with me do ya? What have you got to lose? Go for it! You'll always be wonderin if you don't.
2007-07-11 13:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry hun, totally lost here!! same thing happened to me. sounds like he really likes you,but then he ignores you. i don't know things like this one will drive you insane if you let it. i say move on, if he cares that much then he'll find a way to say it.
2007-07-11 13:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some really interesting answers - many more to come that i'm interested to read - this was a very sweet question!
2007-07-11 13:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋