What would/have you done in this situation?

Question

I have a really good guy friend. We talk alot and I know I could tell him anything.

We also both admitted we have feelings for eachother, but we're just staying friends and waiting to see what happens.

The problem is sometimes I feel like this is taking a toll on me and causing me alot of stress. I guess I've never really been in this situation so idk what to do, and I feel uncomfortable being this close to someone b/c its unknown to me.

I forgot where I was going with this..Ummmm...

Oh so I was wondering do I just suck it up and admit that I have feelings and stop freaking out and trying to pull away, or do I get a little less involved b/c its uncomfortable for me?

O yeah and is it normal to feel this way?
Thnx!

Answer 1

Yes, it's normal.
I've been in the situation many times, and unfortunately, most of the times I didn't deal with it in the most appropriate manner.

Could you be with this guy and even if the worst thing possible happened and you two split, could you still be friends? What I'm trying to say is it worth losing him as a friend to spend what might only be 3 months together as a couple?

If you think you two could make it through anything, or if you think it'd be worth it to just be with him, then go for it hun and best of luck.

If you want further advice don't hesitate to e-mail me

Answer 2

So here's one guys's point of view. First, it is normal to feel that way. When friendships start to cross a line it is awkward. There is a new set of rules and issues. Trust,openess,comfort zone, and other things can all be affected.
Guys are pretty simple. If a guy has a friend that he ends up having feelings for he will hold back because he won't want to loose that friendship (most of the time). If however she gives him the go ahead, he will usually go for it.
The point of this: since you both have admitted feelings, you just go for it.If he is holding back, he may not have as much of those feelings as he says. He might just be trying not to hurt your feelings if you've been friends for a long time. If you are uncomfortable you should make some distance and let him make a move, if it is coming.

Answer 3

Heh i know how you feel, I have a simmillar situation with one of my friends, xept i have never told her how i feel. I mean we get along verry well, understand each other o so well and everything. Though she has a boyfriend.

Anyway nuff bout my problems. If i understand correctly both of you dont have boyfriends/girlfriends. You both clearly have feelings for each other so i dont see what the problem is. I know its weird to show feelings for someone you concider a friend as such, but thats pritty much normal.

Just take it slowly and work through these feelings of weirdness and soon enough they will become a different feeling :)

Answer 4

It's totally normal to be scared of an unknown situation.
But... you guys already talked and discovered that you both have feelings for each other... so why are you just sitting there, staying friends?? You need to take a chance and move on to the next step! Be daring :)