Anyone else have problems with other peoples kids?

Question

OK heres my story:
i live in military housing on base (similar to an apartment complex almost.) anyway there are parks like every 3-4blocks.

i took my 26month old to play and there's 10kids unsupervised and clearly not all related. ages ranging 3-10yrs old.
my child was almost pushed off the slide by a lil boy prolly around 6 he called her a stupid baby and just pushed her. tjhis slide is high up as its like a jungle gym and u clim some steps and theres a platform and and a small slide the one she was going to go down and more stairs to the bigger slide.
then once off that she was walking and another lil boy about 5-6 pushed her and started laughing "look the baby fell haha"

i said something both times and all i get was blank stares...
theres not a way 2 see where they live to tell the parents even tho i threathened i would if they didnt stop. btw im 35wks pregnant

my question is doesnt anyone watch their children anymore or teach them manners? not saying all dont tho.

i tried different parks and even offbase parks it seems it gets worser everytime.

anyone else having seen this or experienced this?

thanks for sharing making me feel im not alone i hate saying no she cant go to the park b/c of immaturity b/c i want her to have fun especially since im pregnant i wanna make sure shes not left out. but i also have tried talking to parents that came by and they seemed angered that i was speaking bad of their child its like... umm well maybe if they hide and watch theyd see the problems im seein. LOL just glad im not the only one concerned.

i feel like an idiot yelling at anothers child but i only say something b/c its for her safety b/c she cants speak as well as them to say hey stop or leave me alone.

lol i don't smack other ppls children lol. but i also only go out after 6pm b/c its too hot here 110degrees in the day and its the only park i can go to atm b/c im 35wks along and kinda need to try near my home and car and hospital LOL. the park is like 20ft from my home.

plus im too big to go chasing these children and my hubby is deployed atm he returns like 2days before my duedate LOL. so im here with added stress dodging manic children at the playground.

Answer 1

no i dont think anyone watches their children
i have a child and my motherin law says i watch my child too much how can u watch your child too much shes one of those mothers that never watched their children so is my sis in law
some people just dont watch their kids and we pay for it
could u imagine what would of happened to your child if u were one of those mothers not watching your children around those bad 6 year olds she would of gotten seriously hurt
my sis in laws 11 year old bit my real sisters 7 year old can u believe that i dont blam the 11 year old cuz she was never taught any better
i would have found out who the parents were and told them to watch their kids i tell my sis in law all the time
she just had another baby she wont watch too
i feel so bad for the kids
dont take it out on the kids take it up with the parents
and i commend u for being a goo mom and watching oyur child it help the mother who are interested in taking care of our children out once and awhile
best of luck and next time that happens find the parents!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I think that parents these days aren't watching their children. I think if you called CPS that they would agree and crack down on these parents. I wouldn't let my 8,5 or 2 year olds go to the park alone. Haven't these people heard of child molesters?? I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant and I had to go talk to the parents of a little boy whom pushed my 2 year old off the slide. And then laughed. My son got stitches and guess whom got to pay the bill the two parents whom thought that it was funny. I was pissed. I think parents need to teach their children to share and that it's not about who is the stronger or older child. I will agree with you though most children are let roam where ever. It's only going to be until one of the kids are injured or kidnapped that the parents are going to crack down. What bussiness does a 12 and under child have being alone at a park?? Is this not just madness??? lol. Well anyway I share your frustration on parents not keeping an eye on their kids. Have a great day and congrads on the baby on the way.

Answer 3

Why anyone with any sense let their children go to any park anywhere alone is beyond me. Especially kids under the age of 10. Personally I would get evil....and would not have any problems raising my voice and telling the child (children) that they had better behave because if I can't find their parents I am darn sure the MP's could!! You don't have to teach them manners, but you can sure teach them that if they mess around with your child there will be trouble with a capital T. Bad behavior should never be acceptable nor should any child be a victim....these are the kids that will become bullies if they aren't stopped when they are young. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

I think this is a problem that ALL moms encounter, whether you're in a city playground, suburban park, or military base! The bottom line is: not all parents as as good as you :) I have been frustrated numerous times by Moms who are too busy talking with their friends, or on the cell phone, or even reading magazines to keep an eye on their kids while in a public place. It drives me CRAZY! Once, I saw a 3 year old dangling from the top of a slide and when I alerted the Mom, she was annoyed with me for having disturbed her! Ugh! I would have to agree with you- there are a lot of parents (or sometimes nannies, grandparents, and babysitters) who are just not good at playground surveillance. They'd probably think I was over-involved with my kids, though, so who cares? :)

Answer 5

I had this problem for awhile at the beginning of summer. I take my niece to the park about every other day as long as it is nice. She doesn't like to play with other kids her age(2), she likes to try and play with the older kids. They just liked to push her around, I snapped at them many times about it. The one day this boy that was about 8 or 9 decided to push her down and she got back up walked over to him real serious and when he looked down at her she kicked him pretty hard. I couldn't help to laugh about it although she shouldn't have done it. (She is not usually mean to other kids so I know she did it just cause he pushed her down) Well that little boy went and told his mom, who came and asked me about it and I told her that Kam sure did kick him and he shouldn't be at the park if he didn't know how to respect other children. I then just turned and walked away from her. So just to point it out to you, when some of these kids go around pushing other "little" kids, their parents don't always care. They like to push the blame back on others and act like their kid did nothing wrong. So in answer to your question, I don't believe that all parents watch there children or teach them anykind of manners. A kid will follow what they see and if the parents are quick to push blame on someone else then the kid will also act like they do nothing wrong.

Answer 6

I have the same problem when I take kids that I babysit to the park. All the other kids care about is getting to the slide first so they push anyone in the way back. It has become a real problem for me too so I just politely tell them that there is a baby around and ask if they can please be careful when around the baby or other smaller kids.

Answer 7

I agree with you . I do not know why people dont teach there kids manners or do not watch their kids anymore. It happens everywhere, from drs offices to playgrounds to malls, etc. And then even if the parent is around, they do not discipline. These people shoudlnt be having children, if they are more concerned about whos calling them on there cell phone.

Good luck though. Hope you find a decent place to play.

Answer 8

It's called "animal children syndrome" please let their kids act like animals in public now a days and a park is a magnet for this syndrome. I have had to physically yank big kids off my 2 and 3 yr old, because they were getting trampled. you just have to leave at that point, and go somewhere that is less crazy, try a public library. hunt around for a small out of the way park. there are lots of them out there, also try less busy times, like late morning or evening before dinner time. You have the right to defend your children and yourself, just don't smack the children. good luck

Answer 9

Heck, my own neice was beating up on my kids and pushing them around (she's 14 months older than them, they were almost 2 last time she was here). She's planning to visit again (with my sister) and I am going to set some rules. And don't even mention my brother's kids. They nearly ruined my wedding and even after my father warned my brother about a repeat performance at my stepsister's wedding, the kids nearly ruined that one too. The things people remember about my wedding are how good the food was (we were married in a Chinese restaurant) and how awful my brother's kids were.

Thanks to your husband for serving our country (Or you, whichever one of you in the military). Hopefully you can move somewhere where the kids are better behaved.

Answer 10

I live on post as well, and feel your pain. It seems alot of parents don't supervise their kids. My kids are a bit older, 5, 4 and 3 and they can defend themselves pretty good. But believe me, if they can't I step in and take matters into my own hands. My kids now mainly play by our house, and the kids in the neighborhood are great. Certainly help I know their parents...