I am 27 and my bf is 48 and i love him dearly. He treats me better than any previous bf, ever! He is strong, wise, kind, experienced and understands me like no one else. We want to get married and have kids but we know he will probably leave me with the kids when he passes on. We are okay with that now but does anyone have experience in may december relationships, what other problems can arise?
2007-07-11 12:23:36 · 13 answers · asked by PhoenixRising 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm also 27 and I used to date a man who was 60. I still love him to this day and we are still best friends. The problem that arose for us was that 1. he was divorced and did not want to remarry or have any more kids....he has a son that is only 3 years younger than I am and 2. he was (I believe) embarrassed about the age difference. We've been friends for like 7 years, yet I have never met even one of his friends. However, I would have married him in a minute if he had ever asked me.
I believe big age difference relationships CAN work, although they're much harder. If both people are in the same place and are okay with the age difference and each others's place in life, then it can definitely work. By place in life, I mean, if you can accept each other's age and maturity level.....he's 48 and he will most likely eventually have ED problems.....mine did. You are a lot younger than he is so you have to be willing to accept that part of any future sex life with him. He has to accept that you're still young and may still like to go out and have fun instead of sitting at home, etc.....things like that. As long as you're realistic and on the same page, you're good to go. Don't worry about what others think of your situation. YOU are the only one that has to live your life.
2007-07-11 12:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have direct experience with it, but I wouldn't be here without a may/december relationship. My grandfather was a year older than his mother in law. He and my grandmother were an odd couple, but they were absolutely delighted with one another for more than forty years (my grandfather was past ninety when he died).
The biggest problem they ever had was the fact that my grandfather had a deeply chaotic sense of humor while my grandmother had no sense of humor at all. My grandfather adored Charlie Chaplin, the Marx Brothers, and WC Fields. My grandmother couldn't figure out why people were laughing at something as serious as classical music at a PDQ Bach concert.
Somehow, though, they not only managed, but thrived together.
I hope you and your guy will be as happy as they were.
2007-07-11 12:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can work but remember when you are 37 he will be 58, when you are 47 he will be 68. The age difference may be more significant later cause interests and desires change...
2007-07-11 12:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by bkybdy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's great. I mean, women DO lose their husbands to accidents, illness, etc....but you are PLANNING to have children and deprive them of a father earlier than they should be.
There are a lot of clear reasons why an older man wants to date a younger woman...none of them terribly positive. If you want to marry him, have had it. But think about what you're choosing for those kids. THEY don't get a choice. If you have a child at 30 he's already 51....will he be able to be a great dad to them when they're teens and he's almost 70??
2007-07-11 12:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
hey, you are both adults. i am 33 and i enjoy older ladies. my mom is 49 and my step father is 31. to each their own i always say.
People may look at you funny, even say ugly things. but love is an excellent armor.
look back at the 60's and the first black/white relationships. if they can make it anyone can. besides you only live once.
2007-07-11 12:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by Chris P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it can, but only if you yourself believe you can. Two people can be the same age, but be at totally different points in their lives where one wants to settle down and the other wants to party. I say anything's possible... Follow your Heart!! And Smile!
2007-07-11 12:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Lil love lady ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well i dont see that any problems can arise at all. I mean, your way over the minor age and so is he. You both have good life experience so i dont think there are any problems there.
2007-07-11 12:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by patricia a 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dear, its so sweet giving yourself to him! but, the age difference is way out of proportion! i dated a wonderful girl for many years, as i grew older i knew it wasnt fair to her to be w me,,, not that i am that old!!! but i think 10 years should be maximum age difference , dont u in your heart agree! goodluck and good question
2007-07-11 12:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by alangj91761 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course it can work out.
you sound very mature for 27..and you will have a great relationship.
2007-07-11 12:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i would never ever do that in my life i think you should stay really good friends but its your life not mine good luck
2007-07-11 12:31:04 · answer #10 · answered by VALERIA L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋