I am set to be baptised in a week and a half but I slept with my boyfriend today. What should I do?

Question

I am a born-again Christian with a bad past and hard habits to break but I love God and want to please Him with everything I do. But I also don't want to get baptised and still feel like a complete sinner afterwards. To me, this symbolizes the end of an old life for me and I feel like I've already screwed it up.

Answer 1

You don't have to be perfect to be baptized! All that you have to be is a believer.

Confess your sin to the Lord and ask Him to forgive you. He will, and it will be COMPLETELY gone! Also, I recommend seriously reconsidering the relationship you're in currently, but that's your choice.

Remember that baptism doesn't mean you are some perfect holy Christian person who never makes mistakes. It simply means you are a sinner - saved by grace!!

Also know that baptism doesn't save you - if baptism was necessary for salvation, Jesus wouldn't have told the thief on the cross next to Him that they would be together in paradise. Obviously, that thief wasn't baptized, but he was still saved.

Baptism illustrates on the outside what has already happened on the inside. You die in Christ and are raised again.

I'm so glad you are deciding to be baptized! Please, don't listen to Satan telling you that you aren't good enough, God can't forgive you, etc... Jesus ALWAYS forgives!

Please, email or contact me and I'd love to talk more if you have questions. God bless!

Answer 2

To understand what you should do is a simple thing.
To get baptized is something you are not yet ready for, not because of your indiscretion , but because you don't understand what you need to know, to be qualified.
A person does not just get baptized because they love Jesus and think they are born again.
First a person needs to know what God requires?
You should have a basic understanding of the bible.
You should study the bible in a way that gives you the truth of it.
You should be able to prove your beliefs using scriptures to back up what you say.
To dedicate your life to God requires that you know what you are doing so you can follow the commands of Jesus at Mathew 28:18,19
This is why people get baptized, so they in turn can help other people to learn the truth of the bible. Then when you accomplish this you have a good position in God's favor and a promise from him for everlasting life.
If this sounds hard, it is not, it's just a matter of how you go about doing it. First things first. learn what Jesus and his father want you to do? John 17:3.
When you read something in the bible, put serious thought into what you read. For example The Lord's prayer? Read Mathew 6:10, ponder over what that verse says. Then read Daniel 2: 44, Revelation 21:3,4. Then think about where these events will happen? Now read Jesus statement at Mathew 5:5, and see if his forefather King David was in agreement with Jesus thoughts Psalms 37:9-11,29. Remember one thing the bible is God's word and he does not lie.
To use the bible is what God requires of you, and he tells you that he backs it all. 2 Timothy 3:16,17.
If you love this boyfriend then you and he should study the bible together and correct your bad habits together.
If you need help in understanding scriptures remember that more than one scripture is provided to you for gaining truth.
If you need scriptural direction just ask.
What ever you do remember that no man has the right to give you advice that goes against your spirit or inner feelings.

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Answer 3

Stop beating yourself up!

If you are a born-again Christian, you should know the verse in 1 John that says, "If you confess your sins, he is faithful and just to forgive your sins and cleanse you from all unrighteousness." If God can forgive you, shouldn't you forgive yourself?

Pray, ask for God's forgiveness, and get baptised. You are righteous in God's eyes!

Do think, however, about where you stand on the boyfriend issue. Do you want to stop sleeping with him until you are married, or do you not want to stop? Yes, God forgives you, but true repentance is turning away from that which is not pleasing to God. Your heart is definitely in the right place, but consider carefully where you stand on this issue, and don't forget to seek help from the Lord and your pastor.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

You need to look at yourself, and ask yourself why you made a choice to do something that you believe is wrong. Are you deliberately sabotaging yourself? Looking for a way to keep a hold of your old life? Looking for a sign that you are making the right choice? Looking for a sign that God loves you no matter what? These are important questions to ask because if you don't examine your motives and thought patterns, you are doomed to repeat them. Most people wouldn't see fornicating as a sin, or at least one that is makes them a complete sinner. And they would have already asked for forgiveness. Why don't you?

Answer 6

Simply ask God for forgiveness and get on with getting baptised. It happened when you were still not baptised. Make sure that afterwards you have a good support group.

Answer 7

Yes, Old Things seem to be the most comfortable for sure! Before U accepted Christ, U were a Slave to Ur Old Sin Nature for some time right? It took U a long time to "Learn" Ur "Old Behavior" and Realize that it was Wrong. So, why do U think it should take any Less Time to "Learn a New Life"??? What is the best way to take a Bath??? Sit on the side of the empty tub??? NO!!! U Must Fill the Tub & then Totally Immerse Urself in it to get Clean!!! So it is with Transforming from this Material World into the Spiritual Realm!!! Now to the Issues! First "Rebound", that is to say when U Sin (and U will) Immediately "Recognize" it & go to God & Name it! No need to feel Emotional or Sorry for it, after all, what good will that do, Christ Knew U would do It & More, and He still paid for All our Sins, Past, Present & Future!!! Second, ask the Spirit to show U why U did the "Sin" & work out how to Avoid that "Behavior" & carry on with Ur life. Keep a "Short List" dealing with Sin instantly! Make a Ck. List of the things that are hard for U to "Overcome" and chart Ur progress in the "Struggle" so U can See Christ working In Ur Life! Now, Fill Up Ur "Time" with Positive Activities to keep away from Ur "Past Behaviors". Set aside Daily time for Bible Study with a Good Easy to Understand Bible version. Pick up a Bible Commentary or Handbook to help explain things asking the Holy Spirit to make them real to U. By All Means, keep that "Swimming Engagement" and ask Ur B.F. to be there with U!!! Realize that U are No Longer Like him, U are a New Creature & this should say so to him. We as Christians are not to be "Un-Equally Yoked" or married to a "Non-Believer". There are Many Very Good Reasons for this. One of the first things U need to Realize is that U need to Become (through Bible Doctrine) a "Properly Prepared Woman" before God will send to U a "Properly Prepared Man" if U are to be Married. After all, God, through Christ just "Saved" Ur Soul for Eternity, do U think He would want anything but the "Best" for Ur Time Here??? Of course not! So get started in Ur "New Life" and Constantly Praise God, for now Satan will try his hardest to turn U away from God. John

Answer 8

Everyone is a sinner. Ask for forgiveness, and if you are truly genuine about you plea, then you will be forgiven. Try your hardest not to sin, but if you do, it is not the end of the world. As long as you are sincere, God will be forgiving.

I'm going through the same type of thing you are, I know I am not ready to be baptized, but I feel I am doing very well as to not sinning and following the word of Christ. God Bless and I know you'll be fine!

Answer 9

You need to talk to your priest and counsel with him, they may reccomend you holding off on baptism for a little bit, until you are able to get past that.

In the mean time here are some suggestions to avoid falling to temptation in the future.

1- never go back to either of your places unless there is someone else present, ie.. roomate, famliy member, etc...

2.- if you have a roommate make a rule that guys are not allowed to sleep over- then hold each other to that. Your roommate can go to her boyfriends house- this will help you keep your goals and values.

3- always go to public places for dates- like a restaraunt, the park, places like that. You are less likely to get into trouble in a public place.

4- set a date curfew- like Midnight. Be done with your date at midnight. My mom always said- the Devil comes out at midnight. If you are with a group later than midnight- that is probably no big deal because there are others around.

5. Maybe I should have made this number one. You need to sit down with your boyfriend and discuss this. Tell him how important this is to you and how badly you need his help to avoid temptation. Really discuss this, maybe he can come up with ideas to help.

If he really loves and respects you, he will accept the changes that you have made in your life and not push you into temptation. He will make this work. If he doesn't care and is just there for sex- then he will give you a hard time about this.

Answer 10

If you try to get better don't feel bad. You've accepted Jesus, and that's the first step, and now you just need try, and better yourself. Understandably you wont be able to fix yourself all at once, and even if you mess up, it's ok we all make mistakes. So keep working on making yourself into a better, more godly person, and if you slip up it's expected we are all sinners after all, and because you are actively walking with Christ now you are new, and born again.

And congrats on your decision.

Answer 11

Before you get baptised, you need to speak with a trusted minister on this in private. Someone who will give you the right answer, but in a caring manner. It is not my place to judge whether or not your heart was sincere about wanting to be born-again. But you do need to talk to an adult who is a Christian, and has studied the scriptures thouroughly.