my familys been going through so much and i'd like to know your opinion on how to handle things? a year ago, a week after my little sisters 13th bday she was kidnapped physically and sexually abused by two adult females. well after her attack she began acting out...running away. social services got involved because she was missing school. when they found her she was taken to a girls home because they said and we agreed that she would be safer there because we would always no where she was. they said shed stay there till after the trial on her attack. well since then they want my mom to do all these things like therapy and they interfere with her working. my mom and i dont understand why we are essentially being punished for my sister running away when her being taken wasnt because of anything like abuse it was because of her own actions. do you think our train of thought is wrong? do you have any suggestions for us??
2007-07-11 10:33:25 · 5 answers · asked by kayla r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am so sorry this has happened to your family. The thing that will be the hardest, yet most important thing for all of you ALL to realize is that YOU ARE A FAMILY; AND THAT FAMILY HAS BEEN HURT!!! Because of this, YOU WILL ALL SUFFER!!!
For this FAMILY to survive, you all need to let go of how you got in this mess because it will divide you. You are ALL going through some type of HELL: Your sister was angry and hurt when she ran away, which was her ENTRANCE TO HELL! She was hurt after running away and that is HELL! Your mother is not being punished, she is a mother who's confused child was hurt and that is HELL! She fears her daughter may blame her, and that is HELL! Watching your mother suffer through this hell is HELL! Feeling unable to stop her suffering is HELL! The blame and resentment you ALL feel is HELL! The guilt for that blame and resentment later on WILL BE HELL!
The only way out of this is to realize what I wrote in paragraph 1 and get some outside help for all of you in dealing with this. If there was a conviction in your sister's trial, you should look into having these expenses covered by her abductors. All I know is that you are all gonna need help to recover such a tragedy. U are in my prayers!
2007-07-11 12:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by wendogscreate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your sister back...do what they ask. They believe they know what every family needs and if you don't jump through their hoops, she will not come home. Take this from someone who is now raising her granddaughter because when social services removed her from her mom she missed just one appointment. They said she was not responsible because she did not comply with their requirements. So do it, and remember to keep your calm.
2007-07-11 10:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by supermom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your sister's been through a lot, she must feel really lonely in the world. Like she doesn't know who to talk to anymore. I think you should talk to some of her friends and family member's to tell her that your always gonna be there for her. :]
2007-07-11 11:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by toodie's sister 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! umm i don't have any advice and i haven't been through this so excuse me if this is rude...but the only thing i was left with after reading this is wondering how you and your mom could let go of you sister in the time she needed you the most..she must feel so alone...
2007-07-11 10:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by music.lover2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my...
This is your sister AND your mom's daughter! What the heck are you even asking this for? Family comes first.............
Do what is asked of the courts and help this young girl pull herself together. This is a life choice situation.
2007-07-11 10:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋