Should I move her again?

Question

My daughter is 6&has advanced language skills.She changed schls a few mths ago.In this new schl,kids are placed according to their mathematical ability&cos my dau old schl taught a different style,this schl have made her start the maths from scratch&put her in the bottom group 4 all subjects.This means she's doing all other stuff way below her level.She's naughty all the time&seems to be really bored.She isn't concentrating&doesn't produce much written work at schl.In her old schl things were opposite.She starts year 2 in sept&I'm thinking of moving her again b4 she ends up with poor results in the SATS&gets placed lowly again in juniors.I've talked to this schl 1000 times&they refuse to budge.They keep emphasising they are basing things on maths.She is ok at maths,just the old schl taught a different style! Would it be right to move her again?

IBD1, get lost. Don't waste my time again.

God you people are intolerant. Obviously you have no idea.
I only want answers off people who have something worth hearing. So far, a waste of time.

Answer 1

Geeze.. shes 6! Maybe her last school was easier. The new school tested her before placement and shes where shes at. Everyone wants thier child to be a genious but shes only 6. You are worried about SAT's? You need to back off and let her grow up a little before you start putting so much pressure on her.

Answer 2

my 6 year old is the same way instead of arguing with the school i just got the 2nd graders work and she does both 1st the 1st grade stuff then she does th 2nd grade stuff. she is still bored at school after she gets good social skills try home schooling it's what my parents did and i finished when i ways 16 the off to college, you have to take charge of your daughters learning no one Else cares as much as the parent does.

as for all the people judging this person you better keep up the kings English died 100 years ago your living in the past e-speak is the way of the future try taking your proper English to watts or east la or Chicago or new york and see if anyone understands you kb sl fu

Answer 3

I think you need a good long talk with the headteacher the school is unwittingly serving the administration rather than the child. Do not move her but you want to get the head on your side so do not go in on the bounce. Make notes of what you want to say and KEEP YOUR TEMPER I have never known a teacher who did not vare for their pupils . It can be difficult with a pushy parent so get your facts right

Answer 4

Dont move her again. If the school teach math in another way, look for tutoring.
Seeing as she is being naughty all the time and not trying as hard as she could, you could try and treat her, simply explain that if she does well, you'll buy her something, or you could try the opposite.
If none of this works, i would suggest moving her. Maybe it is the influence of the other children about being naughty. So, maybe this isnt the best skl to put your child in.

Answer 5

As a teacher, I'm usually against moving children frequently. It totally messes them up, and they get behind as a result. However, for a school to not only place students by levels at such an early age, but to do it based solely on math, I would certainly make an exception. For one, what the school is doing goes against all credible research, and most importantly, you see your daughter suffering as a result. Do more thorough research on schools this time and find one that will suit your daughter's needs.

Answer 6

your daughter may have advanced language skills and poor maths skills. that does not mean she is stupid. remember that moving her may be causing or adding to the problems she is experiencing. i changed my 5 year old schools and after two terms she was still adjusting to the loss of friends (both students and teachers), to the loss of familiar environments and routines. it got so bad i almost took her back to her old school but that would have disrupted her. have u talked to your daughter about how she feels? not academics, but whether she is happy, has any friends, the challenges of the new school and her mother's high expectations?

let your daughter adjust and move her only if u feel she will not improve. get an independent academic assessment if u need to. but most of all remember that your attitude and anxiety will be magnified in your baby. thats what she is- a baby, so be careful. SATs will come let her enjoy her childhood.

Answer 7

My son started first grade in his third school. For a six year old, that's really tough, and he acted out a lot just trying to make his place with yet another new group of classmates.

Every child has strengths and challenge areas, and your daughter and my son sound very similar. Our solution is to work on the math at home. I went on-line and got our province's math requirements for the grade he just completed (grade 3), then spoke to the grade 4 teacher he will be with in September for advice, bought a copy of a grade 3 math workbook from the school, and we're doing a little each day this summer at home.

Your best bet is to try very hard to establish a good relationship with your daughter's new teacher. Most of our teachers have been absolutely willing to work with us whenever I've had questions or concerns - whatever the school's policy might be. If I approach them in a positive way, they respond that way. The teachers are also very good judges of where a student should be, and perhaps the new teacher will assess your daughter's level differently than the past teacher did. It's possible that the standards at this new school are just higher than they were at the old school. Give it another year, so your daughter can feel secure in her environment. And try very hard not to discuss your concerns in front of her, because if she believes that she's "supposed" to be bored because she's too smart for the level of work she's doing, she'll act that way because she thinks it's expected of her. Does that make sense?

I completely understand what it's like to wonder if you're doing the right thing for your child, because you want the best for her. If it doesn't work out after another year, you can move her then. She's still very young, and has many years before you have to worry about SAT scores. Give her lots of opportunity for reading, writing and creating things at home. You're her best resource. Good luck!

Answer 8

IF you do move her - check out the new school FIRST, how she will be set, level of work etc.
Children need good allround skills.
If she is OK at Maths she will soon pick up the new style.
The school will want her to achieve well in SATS as it reflects on them. SATS results are for the school NOT the child.

Answer 9

Give your child stability and teach her in a way, in your home, in which she can grasp the concept. Bouncing her back and forth will only make the situation worst. She will never be in a familiar environment and she will never have the opportunity to bond with the other children. You disconnect her social as well as educational aptitude. Give her a chance and she will be okay, just don't make her life hard because you think that you may know everything and impose your beliefs without giving her the room to grow and explore.

Answer 10

"I only want answers off people who have something worth hearing. So far, a waste of time" Then go find a board where they respond the way YOU want them to, this is a PUBLIC message board, if you don't like the answers here don't read them. As far as your child is concerned it is up to YOU to teach your child discipline from the very beginning. The first and most important teachers in a child's life are the parents. It's not the school's fault that YOU couldn't teach her to be disciplined as a smaller child. You are blaming the school and it's cirriculum when it is your CHILD who is being "naughty" and not paying attention. What are you going to do when she say reaches middle school and THEY have a different "style" of teaching are you going to be moving her from school to school until you find one that does exactly what YOU want rather than according to their policy in dealing with hundreds of other children BESIDES your's? So in college is she going to be moving from one University to another to another because she is "bored"? Why not homeschool her then you can BOTH have your own way?