2007-07-11 09:32:57 · 17 answers · asked by Pinklady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, incredibly rude!
2007-07-12 08:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES! If the bride is inviting you only to the bridal shower, sounds like she's just hunting around for a gift! However there must be SOME reason the couple chose to do this. Make sure before you assume anything that your invite wasn't lost in the mail. Try not to stress out the bride by asking her directly find out from family or her friends. But otherwise I donlt think that's right at all! Even if you can't afford to go to the destination wedding, you STILL send an invite, and reply with a 'sincerely regrets' and a gift. But to not invite the person at all??? weird.
Best of luck!
2007-07-11 16:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by mykdgirl54 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES, You should always be invited to both. I have a friend who was invited to a shower- gave a Nice gift and when she didn't receive her wedding invite- she politely said something to the bride next time she saw her and the bride rudely told her she wasn't invited!! Infact went to a bridal shower a month ago and 1/2 the room was invited to the wedding!!
Both wedding local weddings!!
Can you say Gift Greed!
Something is wrong with people!!
2007-07-11 16:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes. An shower invitation is simply asking the person to buy you a gift. You should never ever invite someone to the shower but not the wedding. Even if you know that they can't make it, you should still send the invitation.
2007-07-11 17:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by JEV 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I think it's rude. It sends the message that they're trolling for gifts. Everyone who is invited to the shower should also be invited to the wedding, whether local or destination.
2007-07-11 17:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the plan for the destination wedding is going to be small it should be okay. Say, if only the bride/groom maid of honor, best man and parents are to be there then I don't think it's rude. That is, of course, unless the maid of honor and/or best man are siblings of the bride/groom and other siblings will be left at home. Geez... there are soooo many possibilities... more info on the size of the wedding and relationship of attendees and the "un-invited" party to the bride/groom would help. Anyhow, I've always thought that it's in good taste to have a homecoming reception after the return. That way everyone who was invited to showers, etc. can be invited and not feel "used".
2007-07-11 16:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by rrm38 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Totally. Only those invited to the wedding should be invited to the bridal shower. If they invite others, it's a gift grab - not good enough to come to the wedding, but c'mon - gimme a gift....
2007-07-11 16:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not really. I wouldn't consider it rude.
Depends on who organized the bridal shower and what they know about the destination wedding guest list.
I wouldn't get all worked up without knowing all of the details.
2007-07-12 10:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is beyond rude to invite people to a shower if they aren't invited to the wedding. You give up the perks of showers whe you CHOOSE to have a destination wedding.
2007-07-11 17:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
While I definitely agree that everyone invited to a bridal shower should be invited to the wedding, it is important to remember that often the bride and groom are not the ones hosting the shower or responsible for doing the inviting. Normally a shower is thrown for the bride, not by her. It could be that whomever threw the shower was not aware of who all was invited to the wedding or chose to ignore that policy.
2007-07-11 16:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by Nic 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
people who are invited to a bridal shower or any other wedding event should be invited to the main event aka the wedding. even if they KNOW the person can not attend their destination wedding, an invitation should still be sent out.
is this person/couple having a smaller reception when they come back to celebrate their marriage? i would think that people who attended a bridal shower should be invited to that.
2007-07-11 16:36:19 · answer #11 · answered by Christina V 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋