Seems like he doesn't want to spend time with me anymore because he's too busy in school and work. He told me that before he leaves to go to college he will spend the whole summer with me so we both can be happy together. So i believe him and didn't go to summer school. But as soon as i know he sign up for summer school in college and always ignore me. He nevers spend time with me on the week days and tells me he doesn't want to spend time with me on the weekend because i might get in trouble by my dad for going out. So the only day that we get to be together is Friday. We never do anything together except always argue. Seems like the only thing he wants for me is sex. Also everytime i tell him how i feel he always tell me that i'm stupid and should never think like that. But how can i not think like that when it's happening. i know he loves me but seems like he's always too busy for me so what should i do?
2007-07-11 09:26:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From what I see, you are obviously better off without him. A relationship needs communication, trust, love, commitment, etc... and it looks like they are all lacking in your realtionship.
No one in a relationship should feel the way you do. If he's just in it for sex, then don't even give him the time of your day.
To be honest, it sounds like he may be dating someone else on the side. But that's just my opinion.
Anyway, you're so much better off doing your own thing and kicking him to the curb. Please do yourself a favor and relieve yourself of the doubt, pain, loneliness, etc. Because you're so much better without him.
2007-07-11 09:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by ARP101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be too busy for him. I've learned that you should NEVER make a man the center of your universe. You will only wind up hating yourself for it in the end. How is it that you skipped summer classes to spend more time with him, but he didn't do the same for you? Make your education priority girl, because in the end when all the men are gone--all you've got left if YOU--so take care of yourself! Make YOU #1!!
2007-07-11 16:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may love you, in his own way. But if it's not the way that you want to be loved, it's time to let him go. One of the simplest ways to find out is to not have sex with him.
His actions don't sound like he's ready to commit to a long-term relationship. He should never call you stupid. When you're wanting to talk, he should do just that, talk. Arguing is not talking.
Set yourself free butterfly.
2007-07-11 16:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by labmuttmix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to leave him? Creating a loving relationship is the most difficult, time-consuming and complicated challenge you will face in you entire life. If your up for this challenge then communication is a must and right now you really don't have that. What does you gut tell you?
2007-07-11 16:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmm did you read what you wrote?? Is the answer to your question not apparent?? If you feel like the only thing he wants you for is sex then leave him. Trust me you can find someone that makes you feel like your the only thing that matters.
2007-07-11 16:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him. A relationship is a two way street. When he stops putting in the effort, its time to drop it and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and the time you get together.
2007-07-11 16:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by kaye t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, i didn't think "love" by reading your article. it sounds like your bf is a selfish user, and you need to show that you have respect for yourself by leaving him yesterday!! i use to be in a similar relationship that i finally had the courage to leave. i am still waiting for my prince, but happy to be living life in peace, and not in a selfish, abusive relationship.
2007-07-11 16:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by nathan's girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. Things are slowly starting to go that way from what you wrote. I would cut my loses before your heart gets more hurt.
2007-07-11 16:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by charm_link 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss lost, Priorities my dear priorities, and you are not his ! So find a guy with whom you can be number one in his heart and mind ! Unless you can wait until he is finished with college.
2007-07-11 16:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up. he doesn't love you. a person who does love another have all the time for their special someone. think about it. you need a guy who'll be there for you and who will show how much he loves you. not a guy you have right now who have all these excuses. a guy who loves, can't be satisfied of not seeing his girl if he truly loves her. please wake up. he doesn't love you and only using you. sorry to be frank.
2007-07-11 16:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by Bakekang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋