How can I beat depression?

Question

I have been suffering from depression for a few months now. It seems to wane and wax because some days I feel worse than others. Basically, my problem is that I am a very lonely person. I have always been very shy and because of that, I did not make friends or establish meaningful relationships. I just assumed that people didn't want to be bothered by me so I didn't approach anyone. I was really afraid of their reaction. As I got older, I got lonelier and it's gotten to the point where I feel suicidal. I feel totally worthless, unlikeable, unlovable, and unable to connect to anybody. I figure that I have 50 more years left to live if I die of old age, but that's a long time to feel depressed. I don't feel like I will ever get better. I also feel that if I try to reach out to people, they will reject me making me more depressed and so on. I am unable to stop negative thoughts and they just assault me with "never" this and "never" that. I just want to go to sleep and never wake up.

Answer 1

I do hope that you are getting medical help for your depression. The chemical imbalance in your brain can keep you in a state of depression. Seek help and get the medication you need.

Next , you need to change the internal dialog. You have a bad habit of negative self talk. Everytime you start thinking about how you can change your tapes in your head that you play over and over again. It takes time to learn to STOP that negativity and change what you say to yourself.

I was painfully shy when I was young. I started paying attention to how other people talked and acted in ways that they had friends. I learned that I focused so deeply on how I thought people saw me. ACtually I was making myself invisable. I learned that people who aren't shy speak up louder and clearer. They are good at asking questions to get a conversation going. I also learned to fake it till I make it.
I had to force myself to stop careing so much about what people thought.
Get some counseling.
Join some clubs.
realize that people love to talk about themselves..it you ask a question , they will answer and think you are are a good conversationlists.If accliable ask ..."and how does that make you feel?"

Remember, people rarely look at us as closely as we look at our self. You need to let things slide off your back and don't focue on the negative. Be who you are.;

Answer 2

Depression is something each one of go through as all days are not equal. Further, fatigue too leads to it. As far as being lonely is judged to be a cause I want to ask each one of them a question. As adults we do not want interference in certain matters so that we can do whatever but after that have to now live that life or take to that style.Our system is never prepared for a sudden change. If we let circumstances let us decide how best can we tackle te situation depression will be a far cry.Do you know what depression is.Can you imagine the life many are leading but with a smile.Why? Because situations are never ideal and its people who struggle ane meet challenges are the ones who are happy. If we do not do anything either because of plenty or on the pretext of depression its escapism which makes us feel worse. First we claim we are depressed then try and live upto to it. What exactly is being done the environment created and lived.Please rise with the sun every morning is bound to be brighter. We do not know what the Lord has planned fr us. Show me one person who today after coming out /getting over difficult times says that he was better off earlier when times were not bad.No, its the triumph that boosts our challenges.Comfort leads to lack of security and depressions.Come out and prove your strengths or live like a child innocent to the tensions of life.

Answer 3

I would suggest that you go to counseling, and talk to your Dr. I also suggest getting a hobby..... everyone has something they like to do! Find something that you like to do and then go do your best, you don't have to be perfect just as good as you can be! There are alot of people out there that are looking for a new friend go find those people and focus on new things not just the uselessness feelings that you feel. If you drink or use drugs you may want to think about quiting and going to a recovery program and I can assure you they know how you feel - and so do I.

Answer 4

I have walked in your shoes.. therapy meds good support. youron the right track. Admitting that you are sick I denied it and paid the price.. the next step is call your doctor to get treatment it takes time dont give up.. in the mean time some tips. Pls .. read The Power Of Positive Thinking Change your thinking. change your life learn to meditate and relax.. suicide is not the answer. I tried it. not fun..I have been able to work raise a family be a proud grand pa So can you. Your not alone. God loves you so do we . My name is Ed we live in Canada.. Feel free to email me

Answer 5

Try excercising....go to a community college and enroll in a fitness class. A girl i met had the same thing like 5 years ago and she said after she started excercising she wasn't as depressed and she made alot of new friends

Answer 6

get a hobby or distract yourself from certain thoughts and let yourself be happy