Catholics & Christians, do you think sex before marriage is wrong?? I'm confused, and need some guidance, perferably bibical or religious. But good advice from experience or from another religion is also much apperciated. Thanks!! :)
2007-07-11 08:32:21 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I know Catholics are Christians, but I wanted to put emphasis on Catholics. Since I am Catholic, I would prefer answers from other Catholics, but all are good.
2007-07-11 08:38:56 · update #1
You will get all manner of opinions in response to this question. But you asked for Biblical guidance, so . . .
In the Bible, sexual intimacy is a wondrous gift from God. He meant for his human creation to thoroughly enjoy this wonderful gift. Scriptures that speak on this make that point quite obvious.
But God gave this gift to be enjoyed within the parameters of marriage. Even angels were not given this gift - only humans.
Having said that, some feel that you should "try out the milk before you buy the cow" as the saying goes. Is that truly necessary? At first blush, it certainly seems to make sense. But giving it a bit more than a cursory glance leads one to the conclusion that this approach is rather selfish. If you fall in love with a person and you "experiment", finding out that it did not feel all that pleasurable, does your love for this person cease? If it is infatuation, probably so.
If it is true love that is growing within your heart, you will not be able to turn off your feelings. What now? Walk away just because the intimacy was not pleasurable? How foolish. And how foolish to have experimented in the first place.
There is really no such thing as incompatibility when it comes to sexual intimacy. If a relationship is devoid of selfishness, arrogance and presumptuousness, then the intimacy will be pleasurable. Really, real love will move one to put the interests - and pleasure - of the other first. If both do that, tell me, who will come off the loser? No one!
This is love - romantic love, yes. But love based on principle as well. There is no need to "test the waters." A person who loves you to the extent of putting you first, of wanting to learn what pleases you, will be just fine in bed. However, the Bible plainly teaches that sexual intimacy outside the bonds of marriage is condemned in the Bible as fornication. Period. 1 Corinthians 6:18
Hannah J Paul
2007-07-11 09:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah J Paul 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know I am an Atheist but I would like to give you a little advice from personal experience.
A good strong marriage as two major components.
1) an emotional love
2) a physical love.
A marriage can survive with just one of those but it can be very rough. A happy marriage needs both. You can evaluate the emotional love easy enough before marriage without breaking andy"rules" but what about the physical love? What happens when you marry a man and then find out that the two of you are totally incompatible sexually? Are you willing to live a celibate or extremely unpleasent life sexually?
Have sex a few times with your soon to be husband before marriage to find out if you "click". I am not suggesting that you run around and spread you legs for any guy that looks twice at you. But if you have strong feelings for the guy and you think you want to marry him then do yourself a favor and take him for a test drive.
2007-07-11 08:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by Matt - 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?
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2016-02-11 14:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible states that sex outside of marriage is fornication and is a sin in the sight of God. Further the Bible says that the marriage bed (heterosexual) is undefiled and doesn't say that about any other sexual relationship.
Catholic and Christian are not synonymous. Christians in and out of the Catholic church aren't Christian because they call themselves Catholic or Protestant or anything else.
Christians are Christians because they have repented of their sin, asked God for forgiveness and received cleansing through the blood of Jesus Christ. Going to church doesn't make someone a Christian any more than walking into a garage makes you a car.
It is a heart operation done through the spiritual surgery of the Holy Spirit, and reveals God to those who receive it for the first time in their lives.
2007-07-11 09:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with sex before marriage, as long as you're in a committed relationship with someone who loves and respects you.
You also must respect yourself - and by this I mean use protection, get your annual check ups, don't get drunk or use drugs to lower your inhibitions. If you have to get drunk or high to feel comfortable with someone, they aren't a good person to be around!
At the same time, I do not agree with people who just have oral sex and anal sex just to say they're still technically virgins.
No person can deny the importance of sexual attraction and a healthy sex life in the success of a marriage. I would never marry someone I hadn't slept with. The way a man treats you in bed in a great indicator of the type of person he is overall.
Sex should never be used to attract or keep a guy, and should never be withheld as punishment after a fight.
In the end, it's all about respecting yourself and making smart choices.
2007-07-11 08:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does everyone always put so much emphasize on sex? Seems like people think thats like a deciding factor in a successful marriage - hence there not being so many left.
If you cant love someone without the sex factor, I guess you're relationship isnt worth much is it? It means its based on lust and the flesh and God wants us to live by His Spirit - that i personally feel is the reason for God forbidding sex before marriage.
You dont need any pope (on a rope) to tell you this.
2007-07-11 09:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by cstruter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Yes, yes!!!!!Yes, sex before marriage is hectically wrong. A man that wants to compromise your morals and beliefs obviously doesnt have much respect for you. You do not need a test drive...tell me this, who did Adam and Eve test drive with, but it seemed to work out just fine. God made them for each other and He made someone for you as well. Why is there such a high divorce and adultery? Well people sleep around so much that by the time they get married they find that their partners don't satisfy them, whereas if you've never done it, who cares, you don't know any better so it would seem absolutely perfect to you. I do not want to know that the man I marry has had his ding dong in a billion other girls, its just disgusting. There are so many loose girls and guys out there, don't ever become one of them.
Another thing, Catholics don't believe in contraceptives, so if you did sleep with a guy out of marriage there is a very big chance of you falling pregnant. Is this really worth it? I know many girls believe that they will be with their boyfriends forever and ever, but once you sleep with your boyfriend, all you've got is a dirty relationship, robbed of all innocence, unless of course if you have no morals then its not a problem.
2007-07-11 09:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2015-01-28 15:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would You want any advice from christians and catholics...they can't prove their own religious beliefs!
Yes, have Sex before marriage, with the person who You're thinking about marrying...
It's better to find out before the marriage if the person is good at sex...You know...(wink wink, nod, nod) !
This is good advice from an experienced person, sister.
Don't listen to anyone in a religion... they're just going to tell You want their religion wants You to do...
not necessarily what's right for You - remember that !
2007-07-11 08:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Catholic here.....and as much as I hate to demean my religion sex before a marriage is a necessary! When you have sex with someone...or some ppl like to call it make love....it puts both of you on a whole other level...where you can be adventurous and open free of embarressment....together....and plus....what happens if you dont and the sex sucks ..... thats divorce in the distance...lets be honest
2007-07-11 08:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by LoViiN iiT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋