don't know why, but I just can't bring myself to touch people. And I don't mean in only inappropriate ways, I mean at ALL! Even if they're my best friend or the girl I really like, I just can't touch them even in a friendly, "Hi, how ya goin'?" type of way. How would I go about getting over this "phobia", if that's what it is? Oh, and I'm a 17 year-old guy.
By the way, I did not grow up in a non-hugging family. I hug my mom and dad pretty much every night. It's just my siblings and I that don't hug.
Please don't tell me that it's okay and that some people just aren't huggers. I WANT to hug and touch. I feel so left out. A lot of people I see and friends I have high-five, pat each other on the back, and other friendly things that almost scare me that I'm unable to make myself do them. And these are boys and girls being friends, not just one gender.
2007-07-11 07:55:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't believe it's a germ phobia. I've shared drinks and ice creams with girls before. I sometimes pick up wrapped candy off of the floor and eat it. I am not germaphobic. It's a mental thing, I believe.
2007-07-11 19:41:44 · update #1
Have you spoken to your doctor about this? Perhaps he/she could shed some light as to why you feel like this and maybe suggest a teen counselor to help you with some usable strategies to help you work past this. Good luck!
2007-07-11 07:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by JuMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a mind block for some odd reason. You might have a germ phobia. And only people such as your mom and dad, who you've grown from, will do. Try to consciously touch your friends even if its just a tap on the shoulder or a handshake. Keep repeating, these little gestures more and more and subconsciously I think your brain will access that its okay for you to do more. The repeating pattern will give your body its time to process that you need that touch and hugging. Give it time, because it won't happen overnight and eventually you might get through this. Nothing is ever easy as far as these things! Goodluck!
Also, try meditation. It sounds corny but it also might work at easing the psychological aspects of your touch problem.
2007-07-11 08:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by lpurple14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does sound like you might have a phobia. Are you sure it's fear though? What about these actions scare you?
The germs perhaps?
Talk to you parents about this. Ask to seek counseling and treatment for your phobia.
Good luck and don't get discouraged. I suffer with OCD and am currently seeking treatment as well.
2007-07-11 08:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by kaye t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
something happened to you when you were younger that made you like this that is not a over the night kind of thing you are taking about ,maybe it would be worth something to go see a doctor and get to the bottom of what has effected you this way ,have you ask your famliy when they thought or if they have seen any changes at any time in your life that would have change you.
2007-07-11 08:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by sehoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have social issues, fears. You will need to get this under control. It is not o.k. to allow yourself to go on like this.
Seek counseling for as you grow older it will get worse and lead into other fears. If you are able to touch your future wife if anyone decides to marry such a person as you with this condition. It is not going to be understanding when the children need hugging and attention.
2007-07-11 08:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Stormchaser 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-01 09:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there nothing wrong in not touching someone, but a smile and say hello gos a long ways, u never know u might make someones day by being friendly.
2007-07-11 08:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by nubinana@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shyness I suppose...... get used to someone being touchy feely with you and then try and initiate it on your own.... you have to get used to it.... I was the same way.... if there is a girl you really like and she likes you then tell her whats going on and hopefully she be understanding and help you experiment.
2007-07-11 08:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by squiggle_worm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're the only one who can help yourself. ask yourself why and try to start showing those friendly hugs and pats on the back. it's not too late. you can do it. cmon, give me a hug (((( hug)))).
2007-07-11 07:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by Bakekang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
therapy
2007-07-11 07:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋