What is the concept of the "Alpha" male? Can any man be an alpha male?

Question

women are drawn to the "alpha" male. I've never really gotten a hold of that concept. What is it? Is it a man that is physically appealing? Or is it a man with strong self-confidence? Or is it both? Can it be achieved by any man no matter how attractive or how ugly they are? How can a guy tell if they have the qualities of the "alpha" male? Can those traits be hidden within the man? I'm assuming when women say they are looking for MEN they are looking for the alpha males (guys with their heads on straight, take care of themselves) and Beta males are the boys. Or is this just a looks thing and if you're genetically not attractive you are considered a beta male? If anyone of you have the time to explain it, would be greatly appreciated

Do alpha males need no approaching women? Or do they still need to do the work

Answer 1

While looks help, Alpha Male concept is more of energy type thing. I have seen men who under society's definition of good looking really don't meet the good looking requirements but they simply ooze alpha male. It's personal strength, self-confidence, loyalty, intelligence and masculinity all mixed together. They seem to have a strong sense of family and a need to protect what they consider their own. But there is a feeling of gentleness there too. Can they be hidden in a man? Yes I think that certain situations and maybe even certain women can bring them more strongly out in a guy. To give you an example from my own family: My hubby and youngest son are both very alpha male but my oldest didn't seem to be until one day we were at a local community function where my oldest's wife and her mother were being mugged out in the parking lot. My oldest attacked the two young guys---broke ones nose and nearly killed the other so quickly that no one else even had a chance to help. Then he quietly stood over the two idiots until the cops came and arrested them. I know that this could be probably be thought of as something on the extreme side but it kind of illustrates my point. Some are alphas when they need to be. If a woman sees the flash of alpha male in someone who appears to be beta, she would be smart to know that he might just be who she is looking for. Some women aren't smart enough to see it though.

Answer 2

Being the Alpha male is very important. An awesome book that explains all the Alpha male stuff and how not to be a push-over and to get what you want (without beating anyone up) helped me a lot in my life. It is called "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Glover. You'll never regret having read it.

Answer 3

Alpha male in a wolf pack is the leader of the pack. As is the alpha female. The concept in humans is an individual who is a natural leader. That is all. Don't read too much into this. And don't apply it to people. We are more complex than that and it isn't about survival of the pack.

Answer 4

When you apply this to humans, I think that an alpha male, just has a tremendous amount of self-confidence about him! That's one thing that attracts girls! Of course it does help to be good looking, but not necessarily always, just look at all these attractive women hitched up to these ugly guys! (It's the self-confidence,and the personality that goes with it that attracts girls!)

Answer 5

An alpha male or alpha female is the individual in the community to whom the others follow and defer. Humans and their nearest species-relatives, the chimpanzees, show deference to the alpha of the community by ritualized gestures such as bowing, allowing the alpha to walk first in a procession, or standing aside when the alpha challenges. Canines also show deference to the alpha male in their pack, by allowing him to be the first to eat and the first to mate. ...

Answer 6

"Female gorillas are typically monogamous to one alpha male and as a result, gorillas have smaller testicles with less killer/blocker sperm. Humans, however, have larger testicles with higher counts of killer/blocker sperm." Fereshte can you provide a source showing that gorrillas have fewer killer/blocker sperm proportionally than humans? I'd be interested. "Does the existence of killer sperm challenge the idea that females searched only for alpha males for protection and gave monogamy in return--even if in a harem?" It challenges the idea that EARLY human females were naturally monogamous but who is arguing that they were? I think that humans have actually evolved to become MORE monogomous over time and that the alpha male/harem model is a more recent phenomenon. I think that human evolution accelerated from the point when wealthy men became able to limit women's sexual freedom by purchasing women's monogamy in marriage. That ensured the proliferation of dominant males genes and removed breeding opportunities for weaker males. Naturally monogomous women then had a selective advantage and became more numerous whilst naturally promiscuous women becoming targets of stigma and aggression from monogomous women and jealous men. Even today prostitutes are still stigmatized by those women who don't like another woman sharing the resources of a man they have invested in (we call it love though).... So you could be right about monogomy being unnatural for early female humans but we've been evolving since then. In 2010 rich powerful males still still have "harems" of mistresses. Comparing species I would like to know if humans have less of these killer sperms than bonobos. If so then that it could mean that humans have evolved to become more monogomous than chimps. My guess is that bonobos have more of these killer sperms per volume than humans.

Answer 7

Alpha males know how to approach women if they have to - and if they want to... I don't go for all this. Women just want a man - a real man - one that is decent looking, takes care of himself, treats her well and treats other people well, that is funny and intelligent. It's pretty simple.

Answer 8

Alpha Males refer to the social structure of APES, not humans.

Answer 9

To quote Gene Simmons

"I walk into the room, grab the most beautiful girl and act like the coolest guy there."