Would you get mad...?

Question

if the guy you were seeing told some girl that he thought she was one of the most beautiful girls he knew?
-He's said it to me once before but now the compliment feels cheap and not genuine
-She's a mutual friend
-He's a nice guy but a perpetual flirt; I don't know if he means to flirt intentionally

Am I making a big deal out of nothing?

Answer 1

It depends on how you look at this.

If you're "seeing" him, does this mean you're not committed to each other? If so, then you can't really get mad about him talking or flirting with other girls. (Yes, this is flirting.)

If you're serious with him, I'd dump his azz like a hot potato and find someone who can focus on YOU and leave other girls alone.

Either way, you certainly deserve more than this. There's so many good men out there..... don't waste time waiting and wondering about one who can't get it together.

Answer 2

Did he pay her the compliment in your company or did you hear about it second hand?

If he is running around town paying girls compliments while you aren't on the scene then I would definitely think I had a player on my hands. But if he says such things in your presence then it could just mean that he feels solid in his relationship with you that he can say what he feels.

If it is the first I would cut him off for a week and make sure he knows why you are less than impressed with his flirty ways.

If it is the second then get a bit of your own back. I would pay an attractive guy a compliment in front of him and wait for him to throw it in your face. Once he starts complaining that you are looking at other guys merely point out you are just following his lead.

I know this sounds like a game and not very mature way of dealing with matters but it does sound like he is playing games already whether in front of your face or behind your back.

Answer 3

Since you both know that he's a flirt, I'm not sure it's such a big deal (or at least big enough to fight over). And, well, since he used "one of the most" instead of just "the most", it's a little toned down. Maybe that's what he really thinks of her - beautiful. Just because he thinks someone is beautiful, I don't think it's not enough to justify that he's flirting with her or that you should begin to doubt him.But, then again, maybe that's just me being a little optimistic. Whatever the case, I hope I managed to help even just a bit.

Answer 4

You are making a big deal of it. There are many beautiful girls out there. What, do you think you should be the only one he thinks is beautiful. Just because he says it to other females, that doesn't mean that he is not feeling genuine when he says it to you.

Answer 5

A lot of people just "talk". Talk is cheap. Just remember this, who does he come home to at night? So what he says these things. Big deal. If he follows up on it, yes, then it's a problem.
My wife hugs our mutual friends. I don't care. On the other hand, I say, "Babe" to all our mutual friends and my wife doesn't care. Because it's just talk. I don't follow up on it, so it's fine.
Just keep an eye on his actions. If they're the same, don't worry about it. If they start becoming cold or distant, then there's room for concern.

Answer 6

I'm old fashion so It's disrespectful in my mind. However, if you're not serious, then I wouldn't take exception to it as much. Someone that you're just seeing has alot more rights then say a fiance or husband. You leave those ways behind you when it gets more serious. Its up to you really. For some women, it doesn't bother them but you have a right to feel comfortable in a relationship. If it bothers you too much, then let him know. If it doesn't change, then I would look towards a more comfortable relationship. To each his/her own.

Answer 7

I would be really hurt and angry. You probably were so flattered when he said that to you, and to find out that it's a line that he uses, you must be really upset.

You have every right to be upset and even if this guy doesn't mean to flirt, he is still using the same lines he used on you, with other girls. Not cool.

Answer 8

Yes you are making a big deal out of nothing... Maybe you are ONE of the most beautiful girls he has ever seen as is she. Who cares who he thinks is HOT/Beautiful. If you are dating him, you shouldn't worry -- He is calling you before he goes to sleep @ night.

If you are THAT insecure you should be dating someone less flirtatious :]

Answer 9

Do you have a frying pan close to hand? Preferably heavy. If so, pick it up & wield it menacingly in his direction saying if he compliments another woman he will wake up like the squirrel who was robbed over the winter, Looking for his nuts! :D
Men are like dogs, they need to be shown who's the boss regularly & strongly! :D

Answer 10

Well its all about how you feel about it. If you think its a big deal then it is! He should not be saying **** like that to another girl, period. I whould beat my man if he tried that **** on me. He should make you feel like #1. Watch out next thing you know he's dumping you for "one of the most beautiful girls"