I have a boyfriend and we have been together for almost 3 years. He showed signs that he wanted to have sex about 5 months ago, but I told him that i wanted to wait for marriage and he hasn't showed any interest in sleeping with me since then. But now, I don't feel like waiting for marriage to have sex with him. I love him so much and want it now. Should I tell him?
2007-07-11 07:18:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we're 17 yeahhhhhhh
2007-07-11 07:21:26 · update #1
I wouldn't, you have waited this long you mines well wait a little longer for marriage..If you give up now, then you should have gave up 5months ago..or a year ago, or so on..sex before marriages means that you are special and means that he is special too..If you have a family, you can guide your family in the right directions and if for some reason things don't go well,,trust in GOD because he knows you are headed in the right directions. I am an ex lover man and some men or boys treat women different when they have sex with them before marriage..but marriage before sex, I assure you will be love and respected though out the whole marriage.Trust me there are so many woman who wishes they can hold off until marriage, but just like that here come the problems and bulls... that follows..believe in yourself wait until you are married..
2007-07-11 07:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by bert bert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good job until making sure you are completely ready. Waiting for marriage is right for some people but not the right thing for others it all depends on how you feel you can either tell him or show him if you know what I mean.
One time where you feel you are really ready and really want to do it and you know 100% you will not regret it then while ya'll are laying down and making our or whatever look into his eyes and show him or tell him you are ready also <3
Good Luck!
2007-07-11 14:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Hey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should mention that you probably won't wait for marriage, but don't tell him you are ready to have sex right now--he'll run straight to the drugstore to buy a condom and make a mess of your first time together. Just let him know that you are open to the idea now, so he won't let his respect for you hold him back. But he still has to seduce you--you need to be ready to have sex at the very moment you decide to have it, but don't set a date for it or run to a notell motel--let it happen naturally.
The other option is to totally seduce him, being very forward and sensual. When he wonders what got into you or worries about going too far, just say "I don't want to wait anymore" and/or "I want you now, all of you" and kiss him. Since you put the brakes on the moves he was making, you either need to make a move yourself or tell him you won't be upset if he makes one. And you may want to have a condom on you when you tell him--I wouldn't think the moment would heat up and lead to immediate sex, but it is a possibility you should be prepared for.
2007-07-11 14:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you're ready then tell him. Congrats on waiting until you were in a very committed relationship.
2007-07-11 14:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by Chris O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes really good for not askin again and for five months too
id say just let it come naturally. when u guys kiss one night if it gets particularly hot just off wit ur shirt hell get the idea or tell him ur ready
2007-07-11 14:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by jcjunkact 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes because he still has that feeling inside and wants to wait til ur ready
2007-07-11 14:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by smarty9876543212000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know i think u were rite to wait for it until marrige, but it depends on if you think ur bf stilll wants to have sex. i guess show him the signs he showed you.
2007-07-11 14:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by jordan d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, because he isn't a mind reader and he probably took you at your word and backed off. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-07-11 14:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even have to ask......YES, go for it. You're kidding yourself if you think he'll turn it down. If he says no......then there might be something wrong with him.
What are you worried about again?
2007-07-11 15:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give that boy some here n stop playin.ok,to be serious 3 yrs. is a long time and i think he's shown that he loves you so why not give him
2007-07-11 14:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋