ive been with my b/f for 3 years, the past 8 months have been hard. he quit his job and for 8 months has not really tried to find a new one. i finally got fed up and broke up with him. i said show me you care and get a job and i'll be here but right now i needs to concentrate on school he flipped out and now says he's moving to his dads across the state! he gave up, he said hes done with everyone and im slefish cuz i didnt stay i did everything fro him! i gave him so much money for job interviews. do i let him go? what do i do
2007-07-11 06:57:29 · 19 answers · asked by lovely 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did the right thing. Focus on school. Let him figure this out on his own. If you have supported him for this long, he should see and appreciate it. Things like this can be sad, but that doesn't mean you sacrifice your future for this guy. You are still in school, that means you have a future to prepare for.
Let him go to his dad and maybe he will learn what it takes to be a man and not put his GF through this kind of thing. Good luck.
2007-07-11 07:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Of course you let him go. He's childish, has not grown up. Sounds like he's a user, too. Why should he work if you're willing to support him?
Selfish? He's the selfish one. What he was really doing was sit back and let you pay for everything, and do everything. When you finally got wise enough to put your foot down, he acts like it's all your fault. In other words, he's happy only if you support him and let him be a lazy bum.
Find a guy who has more self respect.
2007-07-11 14:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let the loser go. If he isnt trying to get another job and he knows that you are struggling with the idea, he doesnt care about you or your future. Besides, he's only a b/f and you can get another one that's better later. Concentrate on your stuff and let the little baby cry to his daddy! He's the one losing out... not you!
Good luck!
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2007-07-11 14:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a choice in letting him go? If he is going to move across the state there is little you can do to stop him. And do you really want to hang on to a freeloading boyfriend?
2007-07-11 14:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, he needs to move on with his life and he's not because your just encouraging him to sit there by giving him money and allowing him to do it. He might say your selfish but you know what, when he looks back later he'll see you did him and yourself a favor. You did the right thing.
2007-07-11 14:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by Cait 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. The only thing that will snap him out of depression is his own desire to be happy again. Take a little time, and when you're ready, move on.
2007-07-11 14:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Christopher 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would let him go he may be using drugs or something but he obviously isn't putting in the effort .Maybe after he leaves he will realize what he has lost and come to his senses.
2007-07-11 14:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by freckleface 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the following choices:
1) Let him go.
2) Keep him and support him for the rest of your life.
It's up to you.
2007-07-11 14:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Let him go!! It won't get better!! There are alot more guys in the world that would treat you better and get a job and keep it if it means being with you!!
2007-07-11 14:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by mr.ease82 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Miss lovely, Dear let him go ! We can not help people that are not willing to be helped. You"re gonna be alright ! I will pray the lord to give you peace of mind.
2007-07-11 14:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋