1. What caused you to be spurned?
2. What did you learn from that experience?
2007-07-11 06:46:59 · 16 answers · asked by Uncle Wayne 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My wife, Carolyn, just told me she learned not to marry an alcoholic.
2007-07-11 06:54:52 · update #1
Do you mean rejected? Like the teen who never gets asked for prom? Like the snaggletoothed freshman who can't get a decent date? Like yesterday's mystery casserole at the end of the buffet line? ...
Ok, I was jilted once by my first puppydog relationship. It was not his fault nor mine. He found someone much older, a lot like his Mommie. So I didn't take it too personal. I concluded he didn't want a wife/friend/companion, he wanted his Mommie. Ew, to the max!
{{{HUGS}}}
2007-07-11 07:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. G™ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is the sort of statement that frustrates me. How was this information found? Did scientists measure the level of every hormone in several thousand individuals before and after they fell in love? Did they follow those people and perform follow up investigations to determine when the levels of these hormones went back to "normal"? I do not have answers to the questions above and doubt that any proficient, honest scientist would admit to having any. The truth is probably that some blowhard made a statement that he reasoned might be true since divorces are common after 4 years and mood is affected by hormones. I do know that some studies have been done in an attempt to address questions such as yours, but, if there was any real progress, the information generated in the studies would have been used to make a ton of money by now. Could you imagine a pill that would make a marraige happier? How much would the average couple pay for such a pill?
2016-05-19 12:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What cause me to be spurned was that he was an idiot...lol...no really, I guess in a way I allowed things to happen. We do teach others how to treat us. I did let some of the emotional abuse happen and I stayed way too long. He was controlling and I knew it, but then again, I did see the potential in him...That's the KEY!
Women out there, if you are in a relationship, listen to your intuition. Most women see the potential in a man, not what is actually the here and now. Some people change, yes...but not always and sometimes we create the block in others so that they do not move on and grow and learn themselves.....
Even though it hurts, sometimes the best answer is to move on in a relationship....listen to your inner self first.
2007-07-11 06:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Barb P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I've ever been "spurned." But in my last relationship:
1. He wanted to get married. I didn't.
2. Be a bit more open about expectations. I'm really not too keen on the idea of marriage in general, and if I had been more blunt about this from the get-go, it would have saved a lot of misunderstanding.
2007-07-11 06:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't spurned, I was the "spurner". lol I was married to a lazy unloving man for 16 years. I stayed with him for my kids sake. He had his own business and worked very minimally and wouldn't do any thing around the house to help me and I worked, too. There's more but you get the picture. But today I am happily married to a wonderful Christian man. We have 5 grandchildren we adore. Life is good.
2007-07-11 07:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It was his cocaine addiction and I did the spurning. I learned that when a few thousand dollars disappears in a week it's time to move on.
2007-07-11 06:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by Murazor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. I allowed myself to be abused.
2. I learned that you can change no one but yourself.
I learned that I am only responsible for my own action.
I learned that I am worth more than I gave myself credit for.
I learned that I am a dang strong person.
~ and many other things and I am still learning from the whole experience. ;)
2007-07-11 06:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by sparkles9 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1 - I was male - don't know, she never really gave me a reason except that all inclusive I don't love you anymore. I'm sure I did things that didn't help but not sure entirely.
2 - Sometimes there is nothing that you can do.
2007-07-11 07:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by Emperor Insania Says Bye! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cheated on her with a lipstick lesbian that looked like Drew Barrymore.
I learned that cheating sucks, hurts others despite what I may think, and that in the end, its not realy worth it.....my current sex life with one woman for a period of almost 7 years is great, because we know each so well. I couldnt have sex that good with Jenna Jameson!!
2007-07-11 06:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Never appreciating his efforts to provide because I was afraid we would lose everything somehow.
I learned losing everything wasn't so bad and did much better on my next marriage.
2007-07-11 06:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Jess 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋