Dilema - What to do?

Question

Here is the scenario: You have been in an 8 year relationship, naturally it has had its share of ups and downs. Now, you have met this person who is awesome, great personality, share like interests, etc.. likes to have fun. Pretty much what you would want in a female.

You guys like each other! What would do you do?

I should clarify that the 8 year relationship hasn't been for the full duration, more like on and off over the course of 8 years.

I agree with some of you that have mentioned about being happy. I totally agree with that.

Also, life is short you gotta live it up to the fullest with no regrets - Period!

Answer 1

nothing.

Answer 2

Well 8 years is a long time, maybe you are feeling a little bored, or constrained, or that you need to sow some oats, and this new attractive person seems to offer you something exciting. You could talk it over with your partner, where your relationship is going, explain you're having doubts (don't mention new person), this should help you evaluate your current relatonship and come to terms a bit more with what it wouldbe like if you actually split up. Because 8 years is so long, its going to be tough if you do split up and you'll undoubtedly have pangs and yearn for the security you used to have. It will be hard. Then again, maybe you need a break, to explore other relationships, and if you and your current partner are meant to be, you'll come back together with all your old love and the old excitement re-sparked.
Life is too short to stay with someone though, just because you're used to them, or afraid of leaving. Think about what you love about your current partner and why you're with them. This new woman might seem everything you would want now, but everyone has their hidden faults that always crop up after being with them for a while. So keep that in mind.

Answer 3

Just remember that every relationship starts of in the 'honeymoon phase' and as a relationship matures it will always have ups and downs. Ask yourself if you still love your current girlfriend as 8 years is alot to throw away. Furthermore, do you see a future with this new girl? Main thing is you are happy. If you really think the new girl is the one for you - then make sure you break it off with your girlfriend before you get into anything. Good luck x

Answer 4

This is how affairs can start...why throw away 8 years of a great relationship, for what initially seems to be something good?

It probably just feels good now, because there's no commitment or anything, once time were up, then you'd see through the new person.

My advice is stick with the 8 years relationship.

Answer 5

Question yourself what you really look for in a mate...analyze your 8 yr old relationship and this current friendship...If after much soul-searching, you decide that you still find that this 8 yr old relationship is worth it ,then I suggest you have a serious talk withyour partner to say out what's buried deep inside and work things out as it's obvious something is wrong if you are attracted to someone else..... BUT if you feel that this current friendship is worth the new risk that comes along with it if it were to become a relationship, then please have a talk with your old partner and explain the whole situation to her...She deserved to know what went wrong (may not be pleasant but if you are responsible,it had to be done) and lastly, be honest with the current relationship about this as honesty is a good way to start a relationship...

Answer 6

Okay dude, it sounds like you really dig this girl. Are you willing to give up what you have now? If you can see this 8 year relationship going somewhere in the future, then you should be more focused on making a commitment. However, it appears that this relationship has been quite a struggle, so maybe you should start seeing new people. Good luck in your decision!

Answer 7

The grass always SEEMS like it's better on the other side of the fence. It's not easy to see if you don't jump the fence and try it but if you do, there's probably no coming back.

I guess if you're not happy with your 8 year relationship and can't resolve what you are not happy with, maybe fence jumping is for you. But I'm sure you both have a lot invested in your 8 years and it would be difficult to throw it away.

"There's no love like a new love."

Answer 8

If you feel like this 8-year relationship isn't going anywhere, as long as it may seem. Maybe you should take a break and see new people. This way, you can get to know this new girl and figure out if she's what you really want in a relationship. You never know until you try!

Answer 9

Well if you would focus on making ur relationship work instead of cheating then you wouldnt have this problem. But Iwill say that the other woman always seems better but shes only better for a minute she cant be as good as ur woman or you would be with her. She is just your mistress and you should treat it as such. Try to focus on your relationship give it all that you got. Because if you are thinking that she is perfect and this and that then how much time are you spending with her? Thats time that you can be at home. maybe you should do ur girl a favor and leave but I bet that mistress is going to send you through the ringer once you make her your girl.

Answer 10

I know you want to try it out with this other woman but is it worth loosing your 8 years? You want something new, fun, spontaneous. That is always fun if you are even thinking about it you know what to do. YOu need to end your current relationship. I was in the same situation but with my ex for 6 years. The only catch is I moved away to start over and he was to eventually move with me. That didn't work out I met someone and he is wonderful. He turned out to be everything I wanted in a man totally inside and out. You never know till you try sweetie. And if you don't you will always wonder. It will be hard but do what deep down feels right.

Answer 11

if your asking this question the answer obvious. the 8 years was a waste of time cause your willing to chuck it over for someone new. Maybe this is the final break you need to make once and for all. If your in doubt and you are.... you need to end it with the 8 year person asap so you can work through what you want weather its with this new one or someone later on...take a deep breath and be brave.. good luck.