how long they KNEW eachother
or solely how long they DATED eachother....
for instance...
if i have known her for over 2 years but have only dated her for one would you think at all about the one year of knowing and hanging out, getting to know her etc and her making her decison on dating you after that or simply look at the one year and think it was too short of a time...?????
thanks
2007-07-11 06:19:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
okay, I'm obviously not a dad, so i'll tell you how my dad did it.
He didn't worry about time (although it HAS been a long time for both of those. My husband, Drew treated me perfectly when we were dating (still does), my happiness that he gave me made me a new person. My dad looked at that, our relationship, the effect he had on me. He takes care of me, he's faithful, respectful. Not only that, but Drew is also respectful and loving to my family. He is friends with my mom, and protects and loves my younger sisters like his very own. He was very proper and respectful to my dad, and talks to him, and this helped the good impression. I don't think the times matters as much as the guts of it. Like how you two get along, how you treat her, if you take care of it, if you're good for her... if you have good qualities that he likes (respectful, dependable, employment would help....etc)
I think time matters to a point, maybe time you've known eachother more... BUT if you prove worthy and good for his daughter, I'm sure he'd give you his blessing.. of course every dad will be different... I don't know, my dad really likes Drew.
There's no rushing marriage. I had to wait.. I still have to wait for the damn wedding. I wanted a ceremony, darnit. haha
And if you intended to marry her, and ask her dad first, I think that's awesome. I respect guys that do that.
Good Luck!
2007-07-11 07:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Hallows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is still to young to get married, but the first thing I would look at is my daughter. I am raising her right and I trust her. If you make her happy and I can see your in love each other then how could I say no. Sure I would like her to marry a wealthy, smart, and talented man, all the things I am not, but the world is not enough without love. My daughter knows what love is, we live it everyday. The boy she chooses better bring his A game when he tangles with her. It's not how hard the boy works in life, it's how hard the boy works to make my daughter happy. Isn't life just the pursuit of happiness?
2007-07-11 13:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by ROBERT C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although the time they've been together is a very important factor, I wouldn't base my decision solely on that. I would base it on how well he treats her, if they would make a great couple, if I honestly thought they would be together forever, that sort of thing. I've heard of couples who've only dated for a matter of months before they got married and were together forever!
2007-07-11 13:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knowing each other is NOT the same as dating. A couple should be dating at least 18 months to two years before getting engaged.
2007-07-11 17:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my grandparents knew each other for 2 months and they got married and they were married 52 yrs before she passed on last yr . He was going into the service and it was during the war . but it goes to show it does not matter how long you date someone ,I think you know from the start if that person is for you or not . good luck .
2007-07-11 13:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it really doesn't have to do with how long the couple has been together to know if its time to get married. I think it has to do with the couple, and where they are in their lives. If your older and out of school and can afford to have a family, then your ready and her father would love for his daughter to get married and have a happy life.
2007-07-11 13:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age, honestly. If you're 21 and have been dating a year, you need to wait, he's probably not going to be happy.
Something you should think about, does she want you to ask her father for permission? If my fiance would have asked my dad for permission to marry me, I probably would have said no when he did ask. I have a degree, a job, own a house, I didn't need someone to tell me it was ok. This is the 21st century, my dad doesn't "own" me and that archaic practice needs to stop.
2007-07-11 14:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by Allison L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to think of it in terms of time. Consider the maturity level of their relationship, and whether they have discovered who each other really is.
(We knew each other one year before dating, dated 3 years before marriage.)
2007-07-11 13:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've known my fiance for 13 months, but we've only been dating since February. Now, we're getting married at the end of April and both our sets of parents are as happy as can be.
This might be because my fiance and I are both 27, but we're happy so they are happy. Her father should be happy for you too.
2007-07-11 15:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Natty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look at the entire time and would actually be grateful he knew her first and hung out before they started dating because I would know he would know her much better.
2007-07-11 21:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋