Why does my ex-boyfriend tell me that he misses me? What response does he want honestly?

Question

My exboyfriend and I separted January of this year. We stopped talking, hanging out, and having sex in April. Yea, i know it sounds crazy. Honestly, I stopped it everything completely in April. Once I explained to him about how i felt. He turns around and tells me he's interested in some girl. He claims she's perfect. Him and this girl are an item as of May. Since January, he sends me a msgs however he can to tell me he misses, dreams about me, as of recently he wants me to check out this maroon 5 cd. After he sends these msgs, he'll put pics of him and his new girl on his website immediate after doing this. Honestly, what does this man wantj from me? Does he really expect for me to respond from these msgs? He is in a new relationship. Everyone thinks he's in love but no one knows that he's sending me these msgs all the time. Even though i have told him to stop. He goes out of his way to make his new relationship public. He didn't with ours. I'll admit it does hurt. Why still reachout?

Answer 1

He just wants to make it cool between you two. He stepped up and reached out.

Answer 2

I can see that you have a tender heart towards him and he's definitely trying to tug at your heart strings by leaving the door open to resuming the relationship. I understand your need for closure, but you really should take a stand to guard your heart against this guy. I would definitely not continue a relationship with him simply because this is not the first time this has happened. He's establishing a pattern--a habit of sorts--and it will only bring you more heartache in the future. If you feel an uncontrollable desire to respond to his message, I'd send something like this to him: "I did read your apology. Thank you for sending it. Unfortunately, most of the love I felt for you has been beaten down. There's no sense in me trying to revive it since it's impossible to have any kind of guarantee that this won't happen yet again. I have to do what's best and emotionally healthy for me at this time. I think we've both learned a lot about ourselves and each other from our time together, but that time has come to an end. I wish you all the best." If you take this guy back you will be sending him the same message as you did before and that is that what he's done to you--as horrible as it was--is still pardonable. You and he simply don't bring out the best in each other, but now you're both wiser from having been through this experience. You both can be better people to your next companions. Please do yourself a huge favor and walk away from this guy. He's got a lot more to learn and you would be robbing yourself out of other opportunities for true happiness with the right guy if you continue to take the time to try to teach this one how to treat a woman like a lady.

Answer 3

I understand what you're going through. I had a similar situation with my ex. We broke up last May and we were still sleeping together way into January, ironic huh? Well, when I cut it off he became vindictive by telling my friends he was with another girl, that she was pregnant, and a whole lot of other hoopla to get me amped. The point is this guy is probably still in love with you or he's trying to manipulate you because you leaving him left him insecure. It sounds like he's sending you the messages to keep you thinking about him and checking his website, in an effort to cause you the pain he feels. Let it go and don't allow yourself to be manipulated by someone who is obviously immature because he is still playing games. You're worth more than text messages or whatever it is he's sending you, and as long as you're attached to him emotionally you're not free to met a man who could be God's gift to you. Let it go, and discontinue contact.

Answer 4

he trying to tell you he wonts you back hes only doing this with this new girl to try and get over you or by putting the pictures ont he website hes hoping you will miss what yous both had with each other. he still loves and cares about you if u feel the same way i would act on it now as soon as i could. hes trying to show you by having a new lass what yous had together and that he wonts it back and he will change

Answer 5

he is trying to affect you still because you broke it off. its almost like a performance for your benefit. he obviously isnt over you and thats why he calls but then right after he feels bad so he compensates by trying to convince himself of how happy he is with his new girl. he's trying to play games with you and more importanly with himself. he just wants to know that he still affects you because you obviously still affect him without even doing anything. if you dont want to be with him the best thing to do is to tell him to stop and move on. you guys obviously arent friends so why fake it. also since you seem pretty resolved in it being over that kind of thing is just annoying after awhile. so tell him to stop and also ignore him. eventually he will get the message.

Answer 6

Either he is torturing you, or he misses you... is there any reason for not blocking his messages? Have you considered tellingh him you could send those messages to his new girlfriend if he doesn't stop?

Answer 7

How about send copies of the messages to his new girlfriend?
He just wants to hear you say that you miss him so he can feel important.....blah...smack him in the head and send him down the road!

Answer 8

hes trying to make you jealous and to see if he can get a reaction out of you, its sad and pathetic. just ignore him. he wants to see if you are still interested in him.

Answer 9

He's trying to make you jealous and get you back!

Answer 10

Post the messages he sends on your website.