2007-07-11 05:55:59 · 21 answers · asked by heavens_fairys@yahoo.com 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
yes. as a single parent he is ineligible to enlist. if you were to get married, he would have too many dependents. the limit is a spouse and two children.
2007-07-11 11:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason they are telling him this is for his own good. When he joins, he will not be making very much money. Barely enough to support himself and you let alone 3 kids. They figure that with what little assistance they give you and assuming that you have a job making around 25000 a year that you can afford to support two children. Another reason is the lack of housing that is sufficient to support 5 people. most military housing is two bedroom and they say that only 4 people can live in a two bedroom house. The reason why some people in the army have 5 or more kids is because they have the kids after they join and live in private housing. In my opinion, the military is not the place to raise kids. It is too unstable. I know the recruiters tell you everything is great, but it doesn't work like they tell you. This is not coming from just anybody, I have been in the military for over 10 years and have done recruiting. I know all of the lies and tricks. If you have any questions, or he really wants to get in then you can e-mail me at chismml@yahoo.com and I might be able to help you out.
2007-07-11 06:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mcl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Especially if he has custody of any of them. If he was a female he would have to give legal (through the court) custody of all children to someone else before being allowed to enlist. There is a limit on dependants because an E1-E3 new recruit into the military CANNOT afford to pay for the proper care of that many children of a new recruits pay. The pay of a new recruit is going to be very little the first year to two years in. The military will not put children or a military member in financial hardship just by letting them enlist.
2007-07-11 07:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The number of kids is not an issue. If he is a single parent, he has to have temporary custody turned over to someone else. At least during the time of his basic training and technical school goes. That way, he can't come back, say after 180 days, and tell the army that he can't stay in the service because he has kids, and then claim all of the benefits that a veteran has and gets, like college, VA benefits, etc. The key being 180 days. Once you reach that point, you are considered fully in the service and are eligible for all benefits. Having his kids turned over to someone else eliminates that possibility. What it might be is that 2 kids are from one woman, where she has primary custody, and 1 he has primary custody.
2007-07-11 06:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is true, when enlisting in the Army you cannot have more than 2 Kids. They feel you will not be able to afford to live with more than that when you first come in. When I was recruiting for the AF it was actually 1 if you had 2 you had to get a waiver. Plus you are not married that is another thing that disqualifies him.
2007-07-11 06:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by wow one 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he may need a waiver , I am in the Guard (in over a yr) , my husband is Active duty (hes been in 15 yrs ) we have 3 children , I had to get a waiver for my children, even when I was going to go active 6 1/2 yrs ago I still needed a waiver for our 2 girls...
Tell him to see another recruiter , or he can look into the Guard .
2007-07-11 07:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Justice35 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No..that is false..My daughter enlisted in the Army 3 years ago. She was divorced with 3 small children. The recruiter told her to go to court and give temporary custody to me and my wife until she completed her training. She wanted full custody of the children so they could be with her and live in base housing. She married her ex husband and they went to Germany. She has been in Iraq for 13 months. The answer that the recruiter gave to your fiance is fales
2007-07-11 06:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by John 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ranger33 is correct, except instead of military he should have said ARMY. Other branches are even more strict. The Navy won't allow you to have any children. The Air Force and Marines, I believe was one child. Although Air Force could be 0 children also.
2007-07-11 06:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by ModernMerlin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have not heard of the 2 kids rule, but there is a rule that if you are not married and have kids and are their guardian that there must be someone else able to take care of the children while they are away at basic and AIT, etc...The other person taking care of them however must have legal guardianship of the children.
2007-07-11 06:20:27 · answer #9 · answered by tropicalchica09 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend whose husband joined with 2 kids and 1 on the way. Talk to a different recruiter and see what they say. Also you can try to find info on www.amry.mil, I find most of my questions answered there.
2007-07-11 06:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋