I'm doing a paper on disciplining your children and would like your input on the subject: for it or against it

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Answer 1

I'm for it. Discipline is necessary. My own mom made sure to discipline me and my little brother from an early age and people were always surprised - and still are - about how well behaved we are. She never hit us or yelled - hitting and yelling don't get a parent anywhere, as far as I'm concerned; if we did something wrong we'd get a light smack on the butt - not hard enough to even leave a light mark - and she'd tell us to behave. She also never gave in - when she said something, she meant it. If we were told to, say, stop bickering with each other at the store or she'd take us home, she'd take us home the moment she saw we wouldn't stop.
My step-dad, however, didn't take my mom's route - he yelled. I have very little respect for him now and because all he did was yell when he actually bothered with disciplining us, I don't listen to him (though I usually have respect for my elders.)
We had a similar discussion in my literature class, and all of the students who said their parents never spanked them or grounded them, or disciplined them in any way, were the students who were always getting in/causing trouble and didn't listen to their parents. Those of us who WERE disciplined when we were younger, listen and behave ourselves for the most part.
I'm glad my mom disciplined me. I'm also appalled at the amount of my peers - and the younger generations - who act out and are rude and disrespectful. That doesn't say much for the future if that's how people are going to act just because their parents neglected to discipline them when they were younger. All they needed to do was give the kid a light smack on the butt and stand firm when they said something - a little discipline at a young age goes a long way when the kids get older.

Answer 2

I am 100% for discipline. The discipline in question isn't something most people would agree to, but it seems to be the only thing that actually works. I believe that spanking your children (not all the time, obviously) when they just won't listen is acceptable. Some children respond to just having being told not to do *whatever*, while others tend to go on and on until you've reached your last straw. I was spanked as a child and it worked much better than taking away my privileges, because the latter just made me really angry and irritated and didn't make me feel guilty about what I did wrong at all. On the other hand, manual labour is not such a bad idea either. When they saw in our local high school that the boys just wouldn't quit being naughty (corporal punishment being illegal), they got them to clean the pond during break, which was really funny to the rest of us, but I don't know if it really worked in the long run.

Answer 3

As the mother of a 7 year old girl, I totally agree that children should be disciplined. But we, as parents, should lead by example. Children tend to mimic the behavior that their parents display. Having said that we should all use self discipline. I'm not a huge fan of the spanking method and never ever should you humiliate a child. There are creative approaches to discipline your child. Children must be TAUGHT that what they did was wrong and it must be very clear to them why it was wrong and what they can do differently to make it right. Children are naturally going to test their limits. We have the responsibility as their parents to help them learn from their mistakes. Unless what your child did was intentionally hurt another human being, I believe that it is very benefical for a child to take something positive (ie. learn fom their mistakes) rather than the whole situation to be negitive. Human nature has a natural tendency to allow history to repeat itself and I don't think that we, as a human race, with all the violence in this world already, benefit from teaching our children that violence solves your problems. I believe in mediation and arbatration. We need to stop the violence we are teaching our children and instead teach them that they are the future and they have the power to change the world.. And it all starts with how we raise them.

Answer 4

People confuse "discipline" with "punishment". My children need to be disciplined, which is to be taught correctly, but they will not be punished everytime they are disciplined. Discipline comes in many forms -- time outs, being removed even further from an activity, having rewards or privileges taken away or even just a lecture. Punishment implies pain, embarrassment or humiliation. Check the root word of discipline and I think it's something like "disciple".

Answer 5

Who is NOT for discipline???? Where would we be if we were not for it? But there are sooooo many kinds of punishments that make up discipline. There are time-outs, grounding, swats or spankings, etc. Children have to have discipline. The opposite would be chaos. But parents have to decide how to discipline each child based on that child's personality. You might send one child to their room as a punishment and it would truly be punishment. They might hate every second of being apart from the rest of the family. Another child, if sent to their room, would have a grand time reading or writing poetry, or just being alone with their thoughts. The punishment should fit the crime, not be excessive, and certainly should be age appropriate.

I would ask one of my daughters what she thought would be appropriate punishment, and she always said much worse than I ever would have given her. Sometimes I would use hers. Sometimes I couldn't, it was so bad.

Answer 6

Disciplining children is necessary and required for children to feel secure. They must know they're boundaries and they test those boundaries. The manner in which you discipline is a topic of subjective views and much debate about varying approach.

Answer 7

I am so totally FOR it. There's a difference between spanking your child/punishing them and abuse.
I believe a lot of the kids and youth today are so out of hand because the parents don't have consequences to the kid's actions. Kids today are incredibly spoiled and self-centered. It all has to do with parent's not saying NO and giving in to every want and whim.
I've seen quite a few kids out in public who seriously needed to have there a*s beat. Rotten a*s kids........My son is six and he knows not to behave certain ways....I have not actually had to punish much. He gets popped on the butt, (not even hard enough to make him cry or leave a mark), and he gets grounded. He is overall a well-behaved kid. i believe this is because he knows there are repercussions to what he does, and rewards and a high-five for when he does good.

Answer 8

Sorry lesey, but your question is much too general to answer. Any parent should agree that discipline is necessary, the debate would come in the ways and means. I think that's what you are looking for, but the question simply asks..'for or against.' I would be hard pressed to vote against having tried to raise two boys.

Answer 9

I'm for it. And I think more Parents need to do so because so many children lack discipline and respect nowadays. By disciplining your child, when needed, you teach them right from wrong, control, good behavior, obedience and respect for themselves, rules, authority and character. I'm all for it as long as the means of discipline is not abusive.

Answer 10

Everyone should be for discipline. It is the different methods of punishment that is important. Everyone needs some form of discipline.