I broke up with my ex-boyfriend two years ago, and it was quite messy. We live in the same apartment complex and we recently sort of tried being friends. I hardly ever saw him, but I recently came to him, because I was sort of having a problem, and I had no one else to turn to. (I don't get out much.) He recently told me that he was bothered, because he said that just about the only time I came to him was when I needed something. I didn't intend for it to be that way, but I work two jobs, plus I sometimes like to do things on my own on my rare days off. He just texted me and told me that he didn't want to be friends anymore for many reasons. I told that it was fine and that I didn't want any more texts from him. Part of me feels sorry for having unintentionally hurt him, but part of me feels annoyed, because I have often found him very emotionally demanding. (That was one of the reasons why I broke up with him.) A few nights ago, we talked about this on the phone, but no matter how
2007-07-11 05:25:42 · 6 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
much I tried to explain myself and apologize, I felt like it went nowhere. We seemed to always go around in circles, and no matter how much explaining I did, he never seemed to get it. What do you think?
2007-07-11 05:26:42 · update #1
he gets it, he just doesn't accept it yet.. nothing you can do to speed that up either.
He's still angry about the past is why he's probably acting like this now.. I guess 2 years wasn't quite enough.. who knows for sure.
You don't have to save the world.. so try not to worry about him.. he will work out his own problems on his own and maybe then he will be ready to come to you and try to be friends.. it's not your fight and even if you try to help, you really can't. Just focus on you and on being happy.
2007-07-11 05:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by pip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
....anxiety will drive a person crazy to the bone if they allow it to occur within themselves darling. You've let this stuff stirr up your own mind enough sweetie. Some objects in life are simply immovable...and this guy happens to be one of those things reasonably.Move on forward and spend the rest of your entire energy improving your new relationships with new people darling....not constantly trying to repair the old ones. You'll make yourself stagnant if you do babe.Does this sorta kinda make sense to you hun? If not...email me babe...we'll talk!....k?
2007-07-11 05:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by scott s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i tihnk hes way too emotionally attached to form a friendship with.. you cant make things better, and he has to move on.. i tihnk you should turn to another friend for help and leave him be.. he needs his time to get over u.. obviously2 yrs wasnt enuff.. ifu go on in cricle he might coerce u into a relationship and it doesnt sound like u want one with him.
2007-07-11 05:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by mon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds resentful, and may feel used. He may have also set a personal boundary with women due to that.
2007-07-11 05:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i can see his point of view ..you never talked to him until you had a problem so thats why he feels like that..i would be upset if someone did that to me
2007-07-11 05:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by ♫♥♪♬♥♪Try Me♫♥♪♫♥♪♬ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm.........Tooo Much drama. Even when both of you are not together. Just let it go. This gets me confused.
2007-07-11 05:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by tata 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋