Advice Please Relationship?

Question

I have been in a serious relationship for 2 years and I love her very much. She is the only woman in my life that loves me and takes care of me the way she does. The second month we where dating she wanted to go see and old friend. I thought it would be ok so I went. I latter found out that was her best-friend (F*CKfriend) and she had not one but two threesomes with. But I was so attracted to her and we had so much in common that the anger went away. It would come back at me sometimes and I will get mad and it will go away (and cause problems). I have been having this problem for almost 2 years now and the anger is getting worse. I love her and I want to forget about it because when I do we make the best couple. Please help with advice.

Answer 1

I would talk to her about it...thats the only way that this "problem" is going to be solved...at least in my opion....you need to tell her how you feel and communicate with her about it....if you tell her in a kind understanding way she should understand...and if she doesnt than it will take time for you 2 to get to an understandin point.....but dont bottle it up inside that only works for a while than you end up blowing up at someone...maybe ever her....

Answer 2

It sounds like you don't really trust her and you have tried to make believe those things never happened.
An emotional volcano inside you erupts.

Her's the thing: Does she love you? Does she show it? Has she been loyal since then? You see, I believe you want to punish her for some crazy reason for doing what she did, that you want to rewrite your history with her. Leave it alone if you value the relationship, However, you need help:.

If you think your possible future will someday work with this hanging on, you are greatly mistaken. You must be in the present with her, in the NOW. I'm sure she has shown she has turned a new leaf.

I bet if you are perceftly honest about your own life, you can find mistakes you made and regret haivng made some.

If she has no regrests, it is still your CHOICR: Take her as she is, love her each day at a time knowing she wants you

or

leave if you feel she will do it again, or else, if you feel you can't trust your own anger.


Therapy for YOU is helpful to resolve the treatment you recived growing up in your family. I think that's the origin of your anger.

If you want, look up on a google search

Landmark Education Corporation and go to an introduction to the enlighhtening weeked (three days ) called The Forum. It’s a 3 hour plus intro, and is valuable in itself.

It is all about how to be succesful in living, and what it means to be human from many and all perspectives.

I think your ego and anger are contriolling you, because you are really hurt, and you must release that hurt, which can happen in the weekend course.

It's probably not located far from you this corporation, and the carious hotels where they do The Forum, and since i have experienced it, it has really put a lot in perspective.

I also suspect that you might be tied to either you mom's hip, or someone in your family, and YOU MUST Mature out of that into an adult, not owing mom one ounce of time or energy until she accepts you and treats you better. I might be wrong, but these insecurites on your part are anger unresolved from childhood, not being understaood or apprecited, vaildated or valueds in your family of origin.

YOu have work to do, and if you do The Forum, you will give yourslef a life-ling gift of perspective. and more.

YOu are BRAVE to ask for help, and it’s a sign you are maturing as a man and want happiness and to a be a contribution to her and others. Yes! That is wonderful...