why dont i ever have a boyfriend?

Question

Ok im 16 (n a female)
all my friends have boyfriends and i havent had one since i was in pre school , i get a little upset sometimes from love songs and stuff, my friends dont even spend as much time with me anymore because there always with there guy! i no im not ugly guys tell my friends all the time they think im real hot but thats all they dont try to get to no me? i dont look desperate? and everyone thinks i should be a model but i wont cause im not stuck up and im a little shy i have really really long brown hair big brown eyes olive skin and im tall and kwite thin ? is it cause guys like blondes? im really funny once you get to no me well thats how my friends describe me lol anyway, i dress pretty nice i dont look messy , guys notice me but why dont they ever come get to no me? please give me your suggestion? and also im 16 and im mainly only attracted to like 26 year old good looking guys all the teenagers are way to imature and playas? will i ever find the perfect guy for me

Answer 1

You're only 16 years old. I had my first girlfriend when I was 17. And besides, I am turning 20 this month and haven't had a girlfriend since then. They say to just be yourself and have patience...

Answer 2

I am no expert on men but I have heard a couple of things. First of all they hate rejection so if they consider you are very good looking they may think they are not good enough for you so they don't risk asking you out. You need to smile if they catch your eye or smile warmly if they talk to you then they may be brave enough to ask you out. If everyone is saying you should be a model then it sounds like they think you may not be interested in them. Also if you are looking at 26 year old guys there is no way they would consider going out with a 16 year old (and the sort of guy that would, is not the guy for you!!!!) Anyway, I would say don't alienate yourself from your friends. Tell them it is not nice to be left out now they have fellas and that they should make some time for you too. Wishing you all the best. Don't worry, you have all the time in the world to meet the right guy. Just don't get hitched with a miserable one as they can often be! x

Answer 3

You sound like a beautiful person with a wonderful spirit. When the right guy shows up, you will know and so will he. In the meantime, you only have two more years until you are an adult and have adult worries and responsibilities - live your life now by focusing exactly what YOU want - join some clubs, play sports, see the world....,

My daughter is 16, no boyfriend, never had one, doesn't want one - she's gorgeous too. I think guys are a little scared by a girl that's so pretty, they don't think they stand a chance. But I know when the right one shows up, they'll be all the better for her not having gone through other guys, or being attached to the wrong one that she misses the right one...

There is nothing wrong with you, in fact you are better off not to have to worry about all the relationship "stuff" while you are at an age to think all about yourself and what you want out of life. I know that's hard when you see your friends wrapped up in their romances, but try not to think about that now, it WILL happen soon enough - guaranteed.

Answer 4

sometimes a man can get (intimidated) cold feet when it comes to a pretty girl, in thier mind they are thinking....."I don't want to get shot down, so I will just leave it well enough alone" Rejection is a really hard thing to accept when you are a teen-age boy. Why don't you try making the first move. Say something like...."Hey, you want to hang out some time?" That will definately open the door wide open and give them the boost they need to plan something and ask you out.

Answer 5

Since when were models stuck up??

You say you are only into older guys. So WHY do you want to have a 16yr old boyfriend?

Don't use your beauty as an excuse. If you are really THAT hot some guy will think that they're super hot and want to go out with you. Your shyness may be taken as "stuck-upness".
Or they may just think you are stupid. (You can't spell "quite" and you asked if guys prefer blondes)
I've never had a bf, but love songs don't make me sad! I love romantic movies and love songs.

Answer 6

Maybe you are too hot, and it makes guys nervous to talk to you?

However, at 16 you should not be attracted to 26 year old (well, at least dont date them). Not only is it just wrong, its also illegal. I am 20, and no offense but I wouldnt date a 16 year old. If a guy my age wanted to date a girl your age, I would think of him as a immature loser.

Answer 7

well maybe you are unattractive. I love how you speak of immature and playas, YOUR 16 that's life at this age, Stop looking for older men, you are too young. You have deeper issues. Did Daddy leave you when you were young. Don't look for a father figure. Go to bed. YOU ARE TOO YOUNG,

Answer 8

I'm in the same position as you , my friends always tell me when a boy Fancy's but they don't ask me out because I'm too shy :( i get annoying as I'm not ugly and I'm sick of my friends always having bf and me not ! i try too come out of my shell with a few boys i like as friends and most ask me out :) so try that become friends with them and they will properly ask you out . And no it isn't because you not blond because I'm blond and have big blue eyes and haven't had a bf since January partly because the last person who asked me out i turned down and started spreading **** bout me , so ... just flirt and act your self around them :)

Answer 9

so?
is your life really depends on having a boyfriend???

look, i'm 16 too, and yes there are lots of my friends at school who have been dating!
but do i care? NO! i mean, you're still young, you should just have fun with your friends! i have lots of friends both girls and boys, and with that you really don't need to have boyfriend!

just so you know, having boy / girl friend (as a date) is kinda frustating and hard , i know, cuz i've seen lots of people suffering 'cuz they got problems like breakin up or in a fight.

just think about it - you really need to just have fun with friends, it doesnt really matter ^_^
its not like you're gonna die without one, right?

Answer 10

Maybe it's the signals you put out; if you're not attracted and showing interest in other 16 year-old's, maybe they sense they don't really have a chance with you.

Hair preference often has little to do with it. Do you really, honestly like yourself? And you like the boys you meet? They can tell. If you don't like yourself, they can't see themselves being happy with you; if you don't like them, they can't see you being happy with them.