It was a mistake and I regretted it right away. Curious and piss drunk, I let myself get carried away with this friend, and we fondled and all that stuff. I can honestly say I got that out of my system and I'm definitely straight, and truly only love and lust my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years. Do you think he would forgive me and let it go?
We have a monogomous relationship and I don't think kissing girls is ok either.
But this was the only time I've ever betrayed him. Do you think I should get away with not telling since I NEVER plan on doing it again, and I am remorseful as it is?
There is very little but slight chance he would find out by anyone other than me about this fleeting incident that could severely alter my life if not handled with delicate care.
Please someone give me some insight.
2007-07-11 04:09:46 · 22 answers · asked by Irene 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would because in a relationship like that you shouldn't be hiding anything from them!
2007-07-11 04:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
From a guys point of view- I would want to be told. Chances are he won't feel too betrayed unless he's a total square which I doubt if you had the audacity to do that in the first place. Maybe you want to ask him how he would react before you make your decision.
I think if he is in the club scene he may see it as something common that girls experiment with. I am not saying it is right, or excusable rather it wouldn't make MY world fall apart. I think most guys can make an honest assessment of their girlfriend's attraction for them and this being in your past shouldn't compromise the fact that he already knows you are attracted to him.
On the other hand, some guys think it's disgusting and just don't know how to handle it. If he is anything like my brother he would probably have a crap fit over it. Just try to get a feel for his reaction, and ease it on him. If he over reacts, then it just might not have meant to be PERIOD.
2007-07-11 04:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by mangani_187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait to long. If you are going to tell him the sooner the better. Just like if someone else tells him he will feel betrayed, if you wait to long that is how long you thought about betraying him. If there is a chance anyone else will tell him, tell him. If your conscious eats @ you, tell him. If you two have a close, understanding, open relationship tell him. Otherwise just let it go. It was a kiss that will never happen again. Good luck!
Oh yeah, we want to hear how it goes =)
2007-07-11 04:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by Doll_Partz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your afraid that he will find out by somebody else, I will definanlty let him know. If he really does find out by some other person, it will be worse. Talk to him and let him know that you really love him and want to be with him. That you want to tell him something hoping it will not ruin the relationship. Explain to him exactly what happened and that you was drunk(although that does not justify you cheating on him) and that it was something you regret and will never do itagain. If he really does love you, he might forgive you.
I wish you the best and hope things work out. But be prepared to loose the trust from him!!
Best Wishes!!!
2007-07-11 04:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Latina4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not say anything in this case. Normally I would advise honesty but it was a one time thing and no sex and if there was little or no chance of him finding out. Then keep quiet. If he does find out laugh it off and tell the truth. That you were drunk and not interested and acting silly.
And don't worry so much. It's normal to be curious.
Good Luck
2007-07-11 04:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave your word to him that this was a monogamous relationship and trust builds commitment. Commitment is the cornerstone of monogamy. If your committed to this man you have to tell him the truth but before you do this you need to do some soul searching to understand why you did this. He'll want to know why before he can give you unconditional forgiveness for your mistake.
2007-07-11 04:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is Jerry Springer material---why would you tell him something like that---and what is your past??It is behind you--so what good would it do?? What if he porked a guy in the butt before he met you--would it make a difference?? NO--it is in the past--you have a future and that is what you should concentrate on. Now skip the kiddy drama and theatrics. Love and die for??? Give me a break
2007-07-11 04:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me. I felt incredibly guilty, and I told my bf first thing in the morning. He was really angry, on the verge of breaking up with me. I knwo other guys wouldn't have cared much, but he took it in a bad way.
If he loves you, and you love him (if you tell him the truth...?), he will forgive you and never hold it against you.
At your own risk i suppose....
2007-07-11 04:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by alice_n_malice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open communication and honesty is what lets a relationship survive. I would tell him. Beside, if it happened before you were going out, it shouldnot matter.
2007-07-11 04:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by elb366 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he doesn't know won't hurt him. If someday it comes up just explain it away like you just did for us. Above all, don't ever get that drunk again!
2007-07-11 04:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its a big deal at all...im a girl and have madeout with a couple other girl before (obviously drunk lol) but im totally straight..and i dont think your boyfriend would find it that big a deal... its not like you kissed another guy...and guys are pigs..he'll probly think its hott lol just tell him it wont ever happen again and im sure he'll be down
2007-07-11 04:14:05 · answer #11 · answered by bellahoney8732 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋