Are there any men out there who aren't afraid to date a young woman with a kid?

Question

I find these days that when you tell someone you have a kid....you don't get a call back! What the heck!!

Answer 1

i dont think men r afraid of dating a woman having a kid. if you really feel something for someone nothing matters.

Answer 2

Most young men aren't ready to raise a child. Neither are some young women, but that's another story. How old is this "young woman"? Personally, I'm not ready to settle down and be a family man. I'm only 20, and while I am mature for my age and very respectful, I'm not ready to be a father figure for anyone. I still want to enjoy life, and not need to worry about children. That's why I haven't had any.

But I'm sure some do exist. They're just very rare... In a few more years, maybe I'll decide that I'm ready for a family. And most guys do eventually settle down. But it's just too early...

Answer 3

I have dated a single mother. To be honest it was hard. I do understand that the kid comes first. But dealing with the ex and kids getting attached it is hard. I can't just say hey lets go because of the kid. If I meet someone that I truly like then I will have to except it if she has a kid. But I do avoid single mothers as much as possible. That is just my preference. But if it happens it happens. I am getting to the age where many women are single mothers.

Answer 4

I wouldn't be afraid but just a little worried. I guess some guys want to start fresh with a woman with no kids, or maybe they're afraid that they can't live up to level that they're last lover had. On the other hand, they only want to be responsible for the their kids & no one else's. I only be afraid because maybe the kids won't appreciate me as their mother's boyfriend since I'm not their dad. You know how kids can be hostile for their parents.

Answer 5

I wouldnt be turned off by meeting a woman that had a child like 2 to 3. Why not the child is a part of who you are, if you end up falling in love with that person you would fall in love with the kids too.

Answer 6

It's "Fear of a Baby-Daddy", or plain ol' "Fear of Being A Daddy".

Don't take it personal. Your children are a lightning rod that keep guys you like, who are just not ready to be serious about you, away. Guys that want to fool around and move on don't get involved because they see a possibility they could get anchored down with you. You don't need guys like that; you need a Man, capital M, who sets a good example for the kids and makes your heart rev, too.

I once dated a girl with a baby, who was incredibly bad with her kid (like, maybe Child Welfare should be called here). I couldn't tell her how to raise her kid, but I could remove her one distraction (me) and let her get on with her life. I doubt you have similar issues, but sometimes it's seeing a child raised poorly.

You don't want to settle for the kind of guy who won't call when he finds out you have kids anyways.

Answer 7

Keep looking. The men that don't call back show a little something about their character and are just saving you heartache down the road.

Just keep going about your life and doing what you do best. He'll come around.

My mom was twenty one when she met my dad, and at the time she had my three year old half sister. They're going on twenty years now!

Answer 8

I disagree with that, I have date several woman with kids and most of the time it is not even a concederation unless they have 3 or4 girls I have found that is never good to many spoiled girls but over all not a problem

Answer 9

i am a single dad, have a 8 year old son i raise alone...i get the same girl everytime...the one who wants to play house for 6 months then leaves because i cant put her first..like im gonna dump my child for someone....so no, the answer is you are stuck...i actually got married ago one year to have my wife do the same thing after 7 months, now she is gone and im worse off now than i have ever been. dont trust anyone so easily

Answer 10

Usually it's because they either don't want to deal with possible filling in for the father with the kid or they don't want the hassle of dealing with a single mother..