When ever we go to my BF's family functions, he always makes comments about my body, and how he would like to be with me. Then he'll say just kidding. I ran into him at a party and he kept asking me to meet him, I told him no. That I love his brother, and he was married. He said, it wasn't like we would fall in love or anything, just hit it and quit it. He kept asking, I kept saying no. He said that he would be at this place at this time and that we would just have lunch, no big deal. I did not show up. I told my BF all about this. About a week later at my BF's birthday party. He walked up and said, I was here last week expecting someone and they never showed up. He sat next to me and whispered "why didn't you show up?" I reminded him that I said that I wouldn't. He just kept going on and on as usual. My BF took him aside and tried to talk to him about it. Of course he denied it. It ended in an ugly fight, and now my BF doesn't want to go to family function because he will be there.
2007-07-11 03:50:19 · 16 answers · asked by LuvinLos 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is a tough situation. I wouldn't tell the wife yet. Have a conversation with the husband saying that if he says one more thing you will go tell his wife.
You might need to have a recording of his come-ons to you. She most likely won't believe you outright. She will think you led him on.
I am sorry you are going through this, I am glad your boyfriend believes you and is trying to do the right thing.
2007-07-11 03:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Call the guy's wife. I don't know if it will help the situation, since your boyfriend and his brother are already on the outs, but this tool needs to see some consequences for his actions. This is just brazen assholery.
Also, don't take this the wrong way, but before he started coming on hard (actually asking you to meet him and "hit it and quit it"), were you playing along in the flirting? Make sure that you aren't giving mixed signals, such as saying no, but smiling and enjoying the attention.
2007-07-11 04:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Bob the Builder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since that's your boyfriends brother he should be responsible for telling him that he's wrong and shouldn't be hitting on you. And instead of taking the cowardly way out and not going to family functions anymore because of it he really needs to put his brother in his place and if that doesn't work he needs to tell him that he'll tell his wife if he doesn't stop it. I don't mean to sound rude but that's his brother and he needs to step up to the plate and make him stop.
2007-07-11 03:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has sex offender tendencies. Chances are his wife already knows he's like that. She might get mad at you for saying anything about it. I would just mention to your boyfriend that you do not feel comfortable around bf's bro in-law and explain why. Limit your contact with this creep, and if he comes to visit do not let him in while your boyfriend is not around.
2016-05-19 08:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to back off, or you are going to tell his brother and his wife. Let him know how uncomfortable he makes you feel, and that nothing he says is going to change your mind. Remind him that you are family and that is just wrong to even think about going there. Good Luck.
2007-07-11 03:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by iansbabygirljess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell the wife. He's a slug looking for something he can't have but hopes you'll go for what he thinks is an innocent "family affair"
2007-07-11 03:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probaly already knows and doesn't know what to do about it. I'd just mind your own business and make boyfriend tell brother to leave u alone or else. The brother is slime and your probaly just make a fool of yourself telling his family. They know already.
2007-07-11 03:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by Tex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend should take care of it and if it doesn't stop he should speak to your sister-in-law. I would not get involved yourself. I have a feeling you aren't the only person he's done this to and his wife probably already knows/suspects.
2007-07-11 03:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time, let him know that he is crossing your boundaries and intruding on your life, and if he doesn't stop you will intrude on HIS life by having a talk with his wife.
certainly his wife knows he's a player, and an ignorant SOB.
sorry you've had to go thru this, hon.
take care of you
2007-07-11 03:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have told him to stop and he doesn't then it might be time to tell someone else if you think that might help
2007-07-11 03:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by Billy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋