In terms of getting over a relationship..and do you think it's possible to never really get over someone?
2007-07-11 03:38:13 · 12 answers · asked by -♥-lovely 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends what you mean by "get over" someone. Some people continue to pine for someone that has moved on because they are needy and have low self esteem. If someone doesn't want you, and you still want them, something is wrong with your thought process and likely your whole approach to relationships.
On the other hand, there are those who are shocked and badly hurt by their betrayal by a loved one, such as the husband or wife who thinks they have a great relationship and all is well when suddenly, they catch the other cheating, or the other says, out of the blue, "I want a divorce" or "maybe we should see other people," etc. For these people, they may not want the person back, but they may never completely get over shock of betrayal and the trust issues it causes in future relationships.
But still wanting someone back after they dump you, I can't tell you why someone would do that, other than that they have low self esteem.
2007-07-11 03:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bob the Builder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your take on life. When someone you love leaves you, no matter how, it's always hard, but the situation is what you make of it. People say , he hurt me so much. No he didn't hurt you, he was telling you the truth, saying that he wanted to leave and it depends on how YOU take it. Most people can't go forward because they forget that everything that happens in life is a lesson to be learn. You get angry, you grieve, you forgive ( for yourself ) and then you move on. Life is too short to be mad, look around you at all the accidents that are happening. You never know if today is your last day. So you can chose either to waist it on something that could of been, or live it the way it should be lived.
Good luck
2007-07-11 03:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by johanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people who have confidence in themselves and know who they are, move on easier than someone who has low self-esteem and not sure of themselves. they depend on others to make them happy because they aren't happy in their own life. Sometimes we need that person because they give us credibility and make us feel whole. If they leave, that person no longer feels adequate. So, I guess I'm saying that high self-esteem and low-esteem are the two factors that determine how long it takes to get over a relationship.
2007-07-11 03:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really can't get over someone who you fall in love with. It's take time to move on the heart don't get well that fast. If it do then that's really not getting over someone not like that.
2007-07-11 03:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Daryl A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...when you love someone significantly darling?....and you suddenly lose them for some unknown Godforsaken reason really?...it hurts hard babe. Believe me I know firsthand how this sorta thing kinda feels. It's gonna take everyone different amounts of time to get over stuff like this otherwise. It's just simply the laws of gravity and God darling. Keep positive and keep moving forwards mentally and physically in your own personal life otherwise. God has a great new plan and a new man coming for you shortly....otherwise why would you be going through this silly nonsense truly? You own your own mind hun...now kick it into it's forward gear and get creative darling. We know you will do better...if you would only allow yourself to do so. Good luck sweetie...I'm rooting hard for YOU babe!
2007-07-11 03:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person them self. Sometimes it's hard to to get over things that have happened in a relationship, but in time I do believe that one can heal and move forward in their life.
2007-07-11 03:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by lvstherain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi --
when i was going through a divorce, i was in therapy because it was like living a three-ring circus... my ex was bitter and i needed someone to talk with.
my therapist told me that it takes the average person one or even two years to grieve, readjust to live and then begin to move on after an extended relationship.
since then, i've read on the subject, and found that other professionals say about the same thing.
some people don't take the time for themselves after breaking up, and subsequent relationships normally fail. when a person goes from one person to the next, they have nothing to give, because they haven't taken time they need to recover.
sometimes we fall in love forever, and it seems that an ex loved one remains close to our heart, even after they have left our lives. i think that holding good memories close to our hearts, and being thankful for them, is quite ok and normal.
and it's possible to fall in love again, with someone else.
all the best.
2007-07-11 03:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will never 100% truly get over someone.... you get almost there, somer more than others, but then maybe you cross paths in the grocery store or at a restaurant and it can bring back memories, good and bad, that will start sturing things up...there isn't much you can do about it....
2007-07-11 03:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
some people are weaker. they think more with their heart. sometimes they pity themselves. getting out of heartbreak is difficult but not impossible. we have to keep trying and sometimes be practical in our lives.
2007-07-11 03:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by anjish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends how attached you were to the erpson. it personally took me about three months to get over my ex....to really get over him completly.
2007-07-11 03:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by Janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋