Ok I need some Advice
Well I started dating this guy About One year ago.
And since that Time I haven't heard him tell me He has love for me Once. I was scared to say it to him because my first boyfriend told me that he loved me after a couple of months so I said It back, but This second bf never has even made an attempt to tell me how he really feels about me And It has really hurt me emotionally because I've gone through A lot of Hard times Recently. Like My grandma passed away and I almost died in Very serious car accidents. And during those time I really wanted to Hear some Loving words But I got Nothing =*(
It Has been about a year and
There was no kind of anniversary or anything like that.
And also He doesn't have a job (he's 23) But instead he sells weed and he never takes me out for fun and I'm Lonely Because I've been around him for a year and haven't gone out and met new people to go out and have fun with
And I need honest advice Should I find someone New? how do I end it?
2007-07-11 03:24:09 · 13 answers · asked by ♥♡♪♫☆♥♡♪♫☆ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you should find someone new, as hard as it is. Someone who doesn't have a job at age 23 and doesn't even tell you he loves you or care for you has to go. I mean what is a boyfriend for if they don't even care about you. If you are unhappy with it now then you will probably feel the same way about the situation in the future. Everyone deserves a guy that will make them feel special and loved, and there is really no reason to settle for anything less. In terms of ending it with him I would just say "I am sorry but this is just not working out. I need somebody who is there for me..."
2007-07-11 03:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi hon.. i'm sorry your grandma died... and about your car accident... i hope you recover well.
about the boyfriend: he's 23 and sells pot for a living. BIG red flag there! do you really want to be with a guy who doesn't work? if he's like this today, believe me, he's going no where fast. he doesn't even take you out, and it won't change. he sounds like life is ALL ABOUT HIM, and no one else.
about saying "i love you" : sometimes people are together and never fall in love. please, dont' tell someone you love them, just because they say it first.... say it when you FEEL IT... not for any other reason. it's ok for someone to love you, and not feel the same... you can respect, like, trust and care for someone, but being "in love" doesn't happen with everyone we date.
be true to yourself, first.
if it were me, i wouldn't have gotten together with the boyfriend in the first place, considering he's doing something illegal to make money. selling pot is against the law, far as i know?
secondly, you have been through quite a lot over the last year or so -- without stress over the boyfriend. if you decide to break up with this guy (i really hope you do), you need to take some time to regroup, readjust to life and do things with friends, and for YOU.
getting together with someone else, and "looking for another boyfriend" right now is the last thing you need. i don't think you have a lot to give in a relationship, until you take time out.
i think casual dating would be ok, if you meet a couple of guys you like, but it seems to me, you need time to get your head together after all you have been through.
just suggestions.
take care of YOU.
2007-07-11 03:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow - you DEFINATELY need to dump this loser. Believe me, it won't get any better with him. Some people are just not capable of showing love and affection and he's one of them. It won't change - I spent many years with a man like that. I just thought that he would eventually mature enough to express his feelings to me but it never happened. I'm glad I got out when I did. Also, the whole selling weed thing is just another sign of his immaturity. Besides, do you want to get arrested as a drug dealer too if he gets busted and you are there?? Dump him and find someone who will make you happy and feel loved - believe me, I did and you will too. Good luck!
2007-07-11 03:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Be me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think that it would be best for you to find someone new. If he sells weed, he is no good. I don't know of any better way to break it off than to just tell him how you really feel. You really need to find someone who really takes care of you when you are going through a rough time. You need to be with someone who enjoys going out and doing things with you.
I really hope this helps.
2007-07-11 03:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by bigblown67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what u just said there. he's a complete loser! he's 23 yrs old, doesnt have a job but sells weeds for a living. i would deff leave him. u only live once u cant be held back bc of an asshole. and on ur "love" thing. u cant rush someone into saying they love u, they gotta mean it. u need to slow urself down. not everyone falls in love with their bf/gf.
2007-07-11 03:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by ..::..Lovin him..::.. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl why are you still wasting time on this loser? You just answered every question you have on the relationship so go do something positive about it. If you nearly died and he acts distant well is that what you want for the rest of your life? I don't think so, your already lonely You deserve better my dear. Get moving and get happy.
2007-07-11 03:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by deb m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a clue... No offense or anything he sells weed and does not take you out this guy is way passed no good you need to get rid of him he is not the right guy you should be dating he is not going to bring you happiness so do your self a favor and get rid of him!
2007-07-11 07:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by mariah n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"...and I'm Lonely ..."
Right there is the key to your question.
Many women like you will not leave their boyfriends because of this...even if the boyfriend sells illegal drugs, physically or sexually abuses the women or their children.
Here's a quarter, buy a clue: RUN AWAY.
Don't be a stupid girl...time to wise up and find a decent, respectable partner who earns an honest living and treats you with respect.
You deserve better.
You want honest advice on how you end it?
Just get the hell out of there.
Tell him thanks for the memories but you've gotta move on.
Stop with the 'poor me' mentality and re-invent yourself with a healthy dose of positive attitude.
Can you dig it?
2007-07-11 03:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm a straight girl and I've never had a crush on another girl soo.... Probably some jealousy comes into play.
2016-05-19 07:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about ur concerns if ur not happy. if nothing changes then its time to find someone new. im not saying theres anything wrong with either of u, but why be in a relationship where ur unhappy if its not gonna get better?
2007-07-11 03:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋